Name suppression - how can I get around this and out an offender legally?

[chanceyy]

The only thing I didn't say in court today: Dear daddy. I loved, respected and adored you once. Goodbye. Your daughter.

I think you still would have delivered that message babe .. but even if he did not get it he soon will. I am glad this day is over & there is a measure of closure/justice although it will be with you for a while.

He is contained so you have saved other babies .. sleep well tonite S & much respect to you for standing up & delivering your VIS in court

[Swoop]

Respect.

[Usarka]

I tried to think of something to say last night but it sounded bollox. Swoop sums it up nicely. +1

[Smifffy]

I tried to think of something to say last night but it sounded bollox. Swoop sums it up nicely. +1

Yeah me too. +2

[fuknKIWI]

I'm proud of you & hope you're proud of yourself you flaming well should be.
WELL DONE!

[Number One]

I'm proud of you & hope you're proud of yourself you flaming well should be.

Thanks people. I am on a level proud I stood up and did this...it's just somewhat of a hollow victory.

Good healing day today though. Spent it with my close aunty, clearing out his house. Very strange and tough yet cathartic. It's like cleaning up after someone's died. I found things I didn't want to while finding lots of stuff that made me smile and remember fond times. I was reflected all over the house. Photos and things he'd kept - some of which I have kept for myself now.

33 years of happy childhood and loving happy friendship doesn't just disappear overnight, no matter what happens...on some level I can't and don't want to banish those happy memories (not yet anyway) they are part of me and I don't have much family as it is!

Onwards and upwards is a process but I'm starting to make out the road ahead a bit better.

[Number One]

My dad. Respected career soldier. Liked and loved by many

He was friends with this guy I always found creepy but I had always felt physically and emotionally strong enough and I guess safe with. Dad had had him spend time with me and I recall being left in his care twice...did my dad know this what this man had been up to? Was I being shared? he's been storing this creeps stuff since he was put away.

I've just finished talking with a woman who grew up as an army brat and she tells sad story of being raped by her fathers soldier mate. She is not the only one for whom the Army life was sick and harmful beyond the regular posting changes.

My dads family want me to shut up. My uncle apparently has dodgy kiddy pics on his pc too. They can get fucked! My lovely nana will be rolling over and over and over

We must not keep these kind of secrets...I sure as shit won't it is NOT MY SHAME!

[Usarka]

Four counts and only 2.5 years?

Respect for your strength N1.

[Number One]

Four counts and only 2.5 years?

Respect for your strength N1.

It's revolting eh. He'll only do half and was able to refuse a transfer to access therapy.

[Ocean1]

Onwards and upwards is a process but I'm starting to make out the road ahead a bit better.

Excellent.

It heads south, from memory, this road. In the company of a black monster, in a couple of months?

If you need a (unocupied but provisioned) place to crash near Blenheim let me know eh?

[Number One]

Excellent.

It heads south, from memory, this road. In the company of a black monster, in a couple of months?

If you need a (unocupied but provisioned) place to crash near Blenheim let me know eh?

Lol you're onto it! Mmmm solo yay

I be keen on an unoccupied crash pad too! I plan to take just a few undies and a book and my Monsta

[fuknKIWI]

My dad. Respected career soldier. Liked and loved by many

He was friends with this guy I always found creepy but I had always felt physically and emotionally strong enough and I guess safe with. Dad had had him spend time with me and I recall being left in his care twice...did my dad know this what this man had been up to? Was I being shared? he's been storing this creeps stuff since he was put away.

I've just finished talking with a woman who grew up as an army brat and she tells sad story of being raped by her fathers soldier mate. She is not the only one for whom the Army life was sick and harmful beyond the regular posting changes.

My dads family want me to shut up. My uncle apparently has dodgy kiddy pics on his pc too. They can get fucked! My lovely nana will be rolling over and over and over

We must not keep these kind of secrets...I sure as shit won't it is NOT MY SHAME!

So right it's not your shame, stay strong

[Paul in NZ]

Respect to you Number One...... Such a hard thing but you handled it. I hope you can find some peace soon....

[riffer]

Definitely not your shame mate. Keep strong and look after those you love.

[Number One]

Firstly thank you KB for not being so sensitive of soul that I can say exactly what I bloody well like here without worrying about offending anyone - and if you are offended 'check yourself!'

SO...after months of waiting since dad went inside I finally got the call today that essentially releases me from the need to do anymore 'work' that relates to him and our situation specifically at least...

Basically today I was told that the strength of my victim impact statement had helped greatly in ensuring the dodgy IT shit charges WILL be laid! They were originally saying that due to the need to 'escalate to get approval to lay the charges (?!) and that he was already inside there might not be any real value in it'...omg seriously WTF?!

Anyway, apparently there was cause for about 100 new charges however, to make it manageable, they got it down to 15...that's still pretty big huh?

Still getting used to the fact that my dad is such a perve *shudder*

ANYWAY - onward and upward Things are starting to come good for us with an awesome new bike and choice as pay and job prospects for me, fun plans on the horizon for us all and a fabulous new family friend in our new nanny - who the boy loves to pieces.

All the more exciting now that the 'required work' over all that shit in our past is over with. MY work there is DONE!

I think I deserve a beer or two, in fact I shall do that henceforth!

NO MERCY FOR CHILD ABUSERS...EVEN IF THEY ARE FAMILY...OUR BABIES DESERVE BETTER!