Name suppression - how can I get around this and out an offender legally?

[Usarka]

If someones sick in the head enough to do this in the first place then they're probably sick in the head enough to make shit up also.

Sincerely good luck and best wishes for friday, hopefully justice and sanity prevail in the universe and that you don't need luck.

[Number One]

He can make all the shit up that he likes - how the fuck he can think WE are ok with it and 'over it' I don't know - fucking sicko jail won't be harsh enough for him I don't think

[Pussy]

If/when it gets around the other inmates, the perp won't be smiling so much, mate!

[Ronin]

doop dee doo

[Number One]

I will likely visit - I won't be holding back telling the room about what he's done...THEN they will KNOW...he shall reap what he has sown but not by my direct hand.

Fuck you *&^%

[Foxzee]

I will likely visit - I won't be holding back telling the room about what he's done...THEN they will KNOW...he shall reap what he has sown but not by my direct hand.

Fuck you *&^%

Hugs to you right now!....

[chanceyy]

Friday go for it chick, vent the rage and look that fucker in the eye while you tell him what he has done

I know your Strong and determined and he sure messed with the wrong family, but know that you are trying to prevent him messing up someone elses family in the future

sorry I only caught up with this thread today, and I know words will not make anything better, but regardless I have you guys in my thoughts for friday. Apart fr the seriousness of the situ, a must admit to a evil grin with some of the previous posts ..

so will it be a large "biker" turn out on friday ??

[Number One]

Thanks S. The main motivator for me in doing all this is to 'hopefully' prevent anyone else going through what we are at his hands.

No big turn out for the day. I was told today that his lawyer was going to try to avoid me being able to read the VIS by trying to get the case through earlier than we would be there.

Victim court advisor said that it's on the cards for just before 12 but warned me that the indictable (sp) list actually gets going at 10am so we should show up before that to ensure they can't get away with him getting sentenced without having to hear what we have to say.

FUCKerS! I didn't realise the games these arseholes play and didn't for a second think they could wiggle their way out of what is a firm part of victims rights in the judicial process.

Still can't make it through the VIS without tears. I suspect that should make it harder on HIM though...well I can only hope that it does anyway.

[Str8 Jacket]

FUCKerS! I didn't realise the games these arseholes play and didn't for a second think they could wiggle their way out of what is a firm part of victims rights in the judicial process.

Hugs hun, I hate to say it but that guy's lawyers just doesn't give a fuck about you or really even him. They just know that the better the out come the more $$$ for them!

Stay strong chick!

[oneofsix]

Have your vent on Friday, make an impact with your statement, and then get your revenge by, as you suggested, living well.
IMHO you need to remember part of what makes him the arse hole he is is his ability to play mind games with people, he is trying to fuck with you by telling the parole officers you are over it as well as save his own self centered skin. For him its all about him.
You know from this thread that people are here for you and its about you and yours. Be strong and beat this fucker.

[Number One]

IMHO you need to remember part of what makes him the arse hole he is is his ability to play mind games with people, he is trying to fuck with you by telling the parole officers you are over it as well as save his own self centered skin.

If he was this calculating I would agree completely however the sad fact is he is actually just 'off in lala land' and truly believes we are ok with it....he gave the probation officer our number so we could tell her ourselves. She is putting together the pre-sentencing report and is the one who recommends what the sentence should be. She said that she was not at all surprised to find that we aren't as he said 'over it'...he also told her the worst punishment in all this is that (since I had the PC etc seized, which has pics of my boy on it too) he hasn't been able to play his online games...namely World of Warcraft!

The one good thing I did get from her was that the assessment of his house has been completed and it has been deemed and inappropriate venue for Home D! THANK GOD! There isn't anywhere else he could go either so I'm hoping that this signals a definite jail term. Send the sick prick to Kia marama for some intensive in jail treatment I say. NOT that I believe in rehab. for these guys, the recidivism rate is through the roof...research shows that the best method of preventing them doing more harm is physical/medical castration...I know another way but that would be too damn easy for him and I don't have a gun license.

[Number One]

Hugs hun, I hate to say it but that guy's lawyers just doesn't give a fuck about you or really even him. They just know that the better the out come the more $$$ for them!

Stay strong chick!

I know you are right hon...I was naive to think they wouldn't try it on...I guess I just thought that game time was over come sentencing...silly me.

Not very strong right now, just as well I'm also completely demotivated too I guess.

[Smifffy]

I wish you strength and spirit for tomorrow, and that you get the outcome you expect. I know you can't get the outcome you want.

Stay strong & see it through.

[chanceyy]

I wish you strength and spirit for tomorrow, and that you get the outcome you expect. I know you can't get the outcome you want.

Stay strong & see it through.

Plus one here too S .. you be in my thoughts morrow Kia Kaha

[Number One]

Draining day but an end to things judicial at least.

Got through VIS. To a court full of strangers and HIM it felt like I was standing up there reading for ages. I took my time stopping only once but reading in a steady pace. Had wobbly and steely anger phases as I read but it could all be clearly heard and understood and the offender did look at me, though showed no emotion at all thrughout the entire process until he was taken away.

The judge gave a powerful and validating summing up and sentencing statement. He wasn't fucking about and was quite staunch with defence and the offender. Laughed at the defence counsel twice.

Sentence = 2 years 6 months.

Name suppression not upheld for him (sons name is protected), no media interest present in court - thank god. After being told he had a few discounts for speedy plead and getting counselling he was then told that he would be sentenced in the framework of the system...meaning it ain't gonna buy you much here sunshine in time or sentence options.

He was read the three strikes warning and then finally a very small looking, tired, old and red faced man was lead away by the biggest meanest looking cop I have ever seen. At that point I almost couldn't recognise my father at all.

Fantastic was the word of the moment from my mothers lips as we left court...something I want to be able to connect freely with but can't. It just feels hollow right now. I can only hope I've done enough to ensure he doesn't do this again to anyone elses baby.

The only thing I didn't say in court today: Dear daddy. I loved, respected and adored you once. Goodbye. Your daughter.