Fuck yes. Many years ago I thought crying was weak, and I went through a pretty hideous marriage breakup that left me ripped open and bloody. I was visiting a good mate who is probably one of the hardest bastards I have ever known - ex pom SAS did 2 tours in Northern Ireland in the 80s, then worked in "security" in West Africa for a couple of years, and he said "have you cried?". Wanting to be seen as a hard bastard too I put on my staunch face and replied "fuck no". His answer was "that's half your problem. I'd be a blubbering mess if I was where you are, crying is the best therapy possible".
It took time and whisky, but I learned to cry and it was what I needed. Today I have no shame in crying if it's appropriate and believe it's as healthy and normal as laughing when you're happy or shouting when you're angry. It allows you to experience the grief in it's entirety and then to release it from you so you can move on. And it's kind of a mark of respect for your mate - you're saying "your loss has hit me hard and I am willing to cry for you because you were important to me".
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