Parenting.

[scissorhands]

They have a genetic disorder that creates poor communication and family conflict

MEH Its so frustrating that noone understands it.... or wants too

[Tigadee]

This highlights something I read some time ago regarding careers: Keep your personal opinions/grievances about your job, boss, colleagues to yourself and offline.

If you ever post something negative online (comment/note, email, blog, video), it's gonna come back (and it will boomerang much faster and easier) and bite you on the arse... HARD!

Prospective employers are savvy enough now to look you up on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc., and anything negative you say about your current or past work place, workmates and employers will be noted and work against you.

I agree with Dr Phil that teens aren't able to foresee the consequences to their actions... FAR ENOUGH. They know what they are doing and how it wil affect others to a limit, they just can't envision beyond their own personal experiences and world-view how far-reaching and badly their actions could affect others or haunt them. That's why I disagree with my wife that the kids are too young for this or that responsibility or expectation. Even if they are not capable to meeting those responsibilities or expectations (and I allow for that), at least they are aware of them, understand the need for them and anticipate them.

Much like motorbiking, the more experience and mentoring you receive, the more you can envision and anticipate when the shit hits the fan and prevent it or else how to deal with it. Growing up is like that, and most teens have not the exposure and experience to know their limits and the consquences when they push beyond their limits.

I now repeat to my kids what one of my professors told me in Uni: "You think this is tough? This is the school of soft knocks. Out there... That's the school of hard knocks. If you don't make it work here, you're gonna be in for a tougher time out there in the real world."