The end of a long dark road...

[Number One]

The last 12 months has been tough and painful but we got through it and are back walking in the sunshine once again and our child is happy and well and very well supported.

I've decided to share this blog in the hope that it might help someone else - particularly any parents whose child has been abused by a 'loved' family member. If you are travelling this long dark road and are working your way through the justice system I send you my best wishes for a fair and just outcome and of course in the end emotional wellbeing and healing! If you wish to contact me you can do so via PM...otherwise just KIA KAHA and know you are not alone.

To those amongst you with nothing better to do tonight than look for shits and giggles and to pick fights you may as well just move along right now. The sharing of this blog is not for your entertainment and NO discussion will be entered into with trolls so again, you may as well just fuck off right NOW.

To all those kind, generous souls in KB who showed us genuine care, concern and kindness (even at times a little bit of tough love to keep myself in particular on an even keel and from doing something that I would likely have regretted) - thank you.

WANING!!! If you are a survivor of abuse this will probably be triggering so either don't read it OR if you do please take care of yourself and perhaps talk to someone you know you can trust.

FINALLY - I make absolutely no apologies for the foul language bandied about throughout these posts - this was a far cry from what I actually wanted to do at the time and quite frankly I think I have permission to be a bit potty mouthed as I was working this stuff through.

http://badpoppa.blogspot.co.nz/

[scissorhands]

Number One, I want give you a big thanks for bringing up aspergers syndrome mid 2010, since then I have travelled a great distance in my life's learning....thank you

Without that self knowledge I would still be floundering about in the dark.

[Madness]

...we got through it and are back walking in the sunshine once again and our child is happy and well and very well supported.http://badpoppa.blogspot.co.nz/

That's the best thing I've read on here in fucking ages chook. How's wee Sully's riding coming along?

[Number One]

I'm not known for avoiding tough topics eh?

You are welcome Scissorhands, if I've helped one person by raising a tough subject in honesty then I've done something useful and I'm happy for that.

[Number One]

That's the best thing I've read on here in fucking ages chook. How's wee Sully's riding coming along?

He's bloody awesome actually! Little hoon

[thecharmed01]

I am so sorry you and your family had to go through this!
That was some reading, have to admit to a few tears for you and your son...

*big hugs* coming your way, I hope things continue to look positive.

[Number One]

I am so sorry you and your family had to go through this!
That was some reading, have to admit to a few tears for you and your son...

coming your way, I hope things continue to look positive.

Thanks for the kind wishes. I'm sorry anyone goes through this.

It's evil and theres so much of it going on...and these abusers aren't always the people we think we should be aware and wary of.

Secrets are their weapons people - don't keep them for them if we do we help them to be in a position to do it all over again. This is NOT me, my son or my husbands shame!

[nzspokes]

More power to you and yours and good luck with the future. I wish you the best.

Some of us have stories to tell, I guess its just working a way to get them out.

[nudemetalz]

Wow, that was quite a story !!

My heart goes out to you and your family, Number One !!!

[Str8 Jacket]

Wow hun, a hard read for me, I couldn't read all of it at work but wow. I admire you guys (your family). Kia kaha. xx

[oneofsix]

Wow hun, a hard read for me, I couldn't read all of it at work but wow. I admire you guys (your family). Kia kaha. xx

I have to agree with Str8 Jacket, in fact I didn't get past the first few sentences and knew it was going to be too much to handle at work. Don't think my colleges need to see a grown man cry. I know some of the story from earlier posts but ...
All the best.

[Brett]

Wow...takes a bit of time to digest some of that.

I can only guess at how you're feeling (haven't read the full blog yet). I know for me, just watching documentaries or reading about sex abuse cases (let alone on kids) makes me feel very angry and rage-full inside at the perpetrators. The added complication of your relationship to the abuser makes it even more hard to comprehend. I know that so often it is those close to the children that are their abusers, but I just cannot fathom how these people who are tasked with loving and caring for children end up hurting them so badly. I am so glad that your son got justice (even if in the cold light of day it doesn't seem severe enough.)

I have such respect for you for standing up and getting the police involved to ensure that justice is sought, especially given the circumstances.

I will continue to make my way through your blog, thanks for sharing. May you now have some light at the end of a dark period.

[Edbear]

Having followed your story froim teh start, I am very happy that you can reach this point and get on with life. Many never "recover" and it either results in suicide or a miserable rest of life existence. I put recover in parenthesis as it really isn't the correct word is it?

To see your strength and the support from your family is encouraging and something that should be made available to everyone. I'll read though your blog as I have the time to do so to bring myself up to date.

I too, wish you all the best for the future and I doubt you will be bothered by idiots here.

[Crasherfromwayback]

Good for you Love. I'll read it proper at home tonight!

[rachprice]

I too got thought the first post and had tears welling.....I cannot even being to imagine the hurdles you have had to encounter, the pain you have felt.

You are all incredible people!