Good parenting?

[mashman]

I saw a girl get batoned from behind while leaving one of these sorts of parties...She was ahead of me, just in the wrong place at the wrong time.

hmmmmmm, either an admission or a different kind of "batonning" was taking place.

[Banditbandit]

What, disillusioned with all of us? That's a bit harsh...

Yeah .. yeah .. but yeah ..

[Zedder]

hmmmmmm, either an admission or a different kind of "batonning" was taking place.

Wink wink, nudge nudge, say no more!

[Mom]

Here's where "facts" become clearer. So, now I read she'd tripped over onto her face? My original position (without knowing much here anyway) would have to change at that point. "You chose to be at that party where kids were rarking up, sorry love, it happens." Pick up the pieces (of teeth) and move on.

EDIT: Did her parents know she was there? Did she pull the old "I'm at so and so's house" move and go regardless and Vice Versus and nobody (Parents) checked that up? I don't know..

If she had been sober at the time, she could have picked those teeth up and placed them back in her mouth to keep them vital. A bit of emergency dental surgery could have had them back in her jaw (albiet wired in for a bit) in no time. I have plenty of questions. Where did she get that booze from. Her mother seemed to know she had 4 RTD's so I am picking she bought them for her. Thats fine, I have bought alcohol for my kids too, but for the most part the drank them with me, or with someone I trusted to keep them safe.

I get really ticked off with some parents attitudes to teens drinking. I have told this story before but is is worthy of a repeat.

A few years ago now, Mark and I went to Morrinsville the Saturday prior to Paeroa to stay with some family. We left my 18 y/o daughter (returned from Uni for the weekend), 16 y/o son and 13 y/o daughter home to fend for themselves. Rules were pretty simple. My kids were pretty level so we had no fears of leaving them home.

We attended Paeroa on the Sunday and were making our way home when the phone rang. It is No1 daughter telling em I needed to "talk" to her brother.

Long story short. My son and a few of his mates pooled their cash and one mother went and bought RTD's for the boys to drink. Another parent, bought beer and dropped his son off at our house at 11pm if you please.

We can home to a reasonably tidy house (lad worked hard to get it cleaned up) but...

My five bladed ceiling fan only had 4 blades on it, the deck was stained with really gross spew patterns, and there was rubbish and all sorts all around the garden. Oh, and worst of all for son, his lap top (that he had bought and paid for himself) had a smashed screen.

I was pretty unhappy to say the least, and started to make a few calls. Yes, the woman that bought the RTD's knew we were not home to supervise, but it was only a few bottles each (it was her son that broke the ceiling fan) and yes, the bloke that dropped his son off at 11 also knew we were not home, but it was only a few beers. I could not believe it. Fuckers the lot of them!

So, kid that bust fan did not pay for damages, neither did his parents, that out of my pocket.

Son wanted me to claim insurance for his lap top - I refused, that was his problem, not my insurance companies problem.

I never growled at him, he was so remorseful (and he paid to pay to replace his own lap top) all I asked him was to think about what had happened, and then tell me what he had learned.


He learned some big lessons that night.

It is not a good idea to provide 16 y/o boys with alcohol unsupervised.
It is not cool to have a party at your parents place when they are not home.
It costs real money to repair damage when teenagers run amok on booze.
Always keep your parent in the loop about what is happening.
You can not control drunken teenagers (apparently he was beside himself when they went mad).

Thankfully for me it never went anyfurther than a few drunken boys, but it can happen.

Still, little gal should not have been so drunk, she tripped up and lost her teeth. As for her Mother...

[Edbear]

If she had been sober at the time, she could have picked those teeth up and placed them back in her mouth to keep them vital. A bit of emergency dental surgery could have had them back in her jaw (albiet wired in for a bit) in no time. I have plenty of questions. Where did she get that booze from. Her mother seemed to know she had 4 RTD's so I am picking she bought them for her. Thats fine, I have bought alcohol for my kids too, but for the most part the drank them with me, or with someone I trusted to keep them safe.

I get really ticked off with some parents attitudes to teens drinking. I have told this story before but is is worthy of a repeat.

A few years ago now, Mark and I went to Morrinsville the Saturday prior to Paeroa to stay with some family. We left my 18 y/o daughter (returned from Uni for the weekend), 16 y/o son and 13 y/o daughter home to fend for themselves. Rules were pretty simple. My kids were pretty level so we had no fears of leaving them home.

We attended Paeroa on the Sunday and were making our way home when the phone rang. It is No1 daughter telling em I needed to "talk" to her brother.

Long story short. My son and a few of his mates pooled their cash and one mother went and bought RTD's for the boys to drink. Another parent, bought beer and dropped his son off at our house at 11pm if you please.

We can home to a reasonably tidy house (lad worked hard to get it cleaned up) but...

My five bladed ceiling fan only had 4 blades on it, the deck was stained with really gross spew patterns, and there was rubbish and all sorts all around the garden. Oh, and worst of all for son, his lap top (that he had bought and paid for himself) had a smashed screen.

I was pretty unhappy to say the least, and started to make a few calls. Yes, the woman that bought the RTD's knew we were not home to supervise, but it was only a few bottles each (it was her son that broke the ceiling fan) and yes, the bloke that dropped his son off at 11 also knew we were not home, but it was only a few beers. I could not believe it. Fuckers the lot of them!

So, kid that bust fan did not pay for damages, neither did his parents, that out of my pocket.

Son wanted me to claim insurance for his lap top - I refused, that was his problem, not my insurance companies problem.

I never growled at him, he was so remorseful (and he paid to pay to replace his own lap top) all I asked him was to think about what had happened, and then tell me what he had learned.


He learned some big lessons that night.

It is not a good idea to provide 16 y/o boys with alcohol unsupervised.
It is not cool to have a party at your parents place when they are not home.
It costs real money to repair damage when teenagers run amok on booze.
Always keep your parent in the loop about what is happening.
You can not control drunken teenagers (apparently he was beside himself when they went mad).

Thankfully for me it never went anyfurther than a few drunken boys, but it can happen.

Still, little gal should not have been so drunk, she tripped up and lost her teeth. As for her Mother...

"you must spread..:"

[mashman]

He learned some big lessons that night.

It is not a good idea to provide 16 y/o boys with alcohol unsupervised.
It is not cool to have a party at your parents place when they are not home.
It costs real money to repair damage when teenagers run amok on booze.
Always keep your parent in the loop about what is happening.
You can not control drunken teenagers (apparently he was beside himself when they went mad).

Thankfully for me it never went anyfurther than a few drunken boys, but it can happen.

Just throwing this out there, ahem , buuuuuuuuuuuuuut... if he hadn't have learned that lesson that night, when was he going to learn it? When it was too late? Thems little fuckas needs to learn somewhere somehow and without supervision as supervision changes the rules of the game and the kids learn nuffink.