How much worse must all this be, then, for the victims? That thought shocked me out of my apathy, although I didn't see what adding my voice to the chorus of outrage would achieve. Until now. Because it's not merely what these young men have been doing with, and to, vulnerable young women that disgusts and upsets me. It's also the reaction of some men (and it is almost always men) to the story.
By far the worst reactions bubbled up from the usual suspects; anonymous commenters from the cesspits of the internet. The comments were always along the same lines. The girls were "asking for it." They shouldn't have been going out late at night. They'd been inspired by internet porn. They were drunk, so it was their fault. They were sluts.
This, sadly, can be expected. That doesn't make it any less wrong, but it's what you get from twisted minds hiding behind a cloak of anonymity. What I didn't expect was to hear voices in the mainstream news media taking a horrifically similar line. People who should absolutely know better.
The worst I heard was an interview conducted by Radio Live broadcasters Willie Jackson and John Tamihere of, apparently, a female friend of one of the victims. Their line of questioning, while not necessarily exempting the perpetrators from their disgust, blamed the victims from the start.
Were the girls willing drinkers, they asked. Why had they been out late at night? Didn't they know the boys' reputations? Most tellingly, they suggested the boys could not be rapists if "some of the girls had consented." Most disgustingly, they asked their caller what age she had lost her virginity.
How can people react this way to allegations of rape?
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