Moral dilemma. Help!

**Thomo84** · 18th March 2014, 23:34

Okay, so this is a bit of a random subject, but it's really been bugging me lately, and I need the opinion of people who are completely unbiased and honest.
So my dad passed away recently. We weren't on very good terms but for some reason that's completely beyond me he left me this very flashy Rolex watch. My first reaction was of course: great, I can sell it! My wife lost her job recently so we could really do with the cash. The idiot that I am, though, I go and tell my brother about it, and before I know it him and my mum are ganging up on me and insisting that I don't sell the watch but keep it in memory of my dad. Apparently the watch was a prized possession of his, or something like that. Now my relationship with my mum and brother has never been easy, and I feel like I might alienate them completely if I go ahead and sell the watch. But then again, there's also my own family and benefit to consider. I feel like it'd be sentimental to hang on to the watch when my dad and I didn't even get on that well, but at the moment I don't have the guts to go through with it. What shall I do guys? Bite the bullet and sell the damn thing or appease my mum and brother? I'd appreciate your advice.

**Gremlin** · 18th March 2014, 23:57

Who owns it? Owners decision.

**MIXONE** · 19th March 2014, 01:08

Who do you sleep with ay night?

**EJK** · 19th March 2014, 01:12

$1 res it on Trademe.

**Big Dog** · 19th March 2014, 01:24

They may not like it but soon rot later they will come around. Your family is more important than your dads watch.
Or they may even buy it from you if it is so important to them.

But here is the hard part, will you come around? Will you one day regret selling it?

If you have no doubt sell it. Family loves you no matter what.

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**Edbear** · 19th March 2014, 01:56

Tough choice. But do consider the end result. Selling it may help pay a bill for now, but then what? Will it make a big enough difference in the short to medium term that you will be out of your current situation?

Selling goods to pay bills may be necessary at times but it never solves the problem that lead to the crisis. It sounds like more of an issue with your relationship with your father than resolving your financial shortfall.

**awa355** · 19th March 2014, 04:45

Buy a Rolex from the chinese guy at the next Sunday market for $15.00, keep that to appease the family and sell the real McCoy.

**Mo NZ** · 19th March 2014, 05:02

Originally Posted by Edbear

Tough choice. But do consider the end result. Selling it may help pay a bill for now, but then what? Will it make a big enough difference in the short to medium term that you will be out of your current situation?

Edbear and I seem to be on the same page here.
How about a discussion with your mother and brother. You may be able to work out a way where the watch stays in the family.
Selling a watch for a few thousand will only buy some breathing space for a short time.
I would get some budget advice for the immediate future and start looking at long term goals and solutions on how to achieve them.

**unstuck** · 19th March 2014, 05:13

You sir, need some testicles. Morals are for pussies.

**JimO** · 19th March 2014, 05:46

he obviously thought enough of you for him to want you to have it, looks like he was wrong

**avgas** · 19th March 2014, 05:58

Your dad gave it to you because you need it. That is all you need to know.

How you need it doesn't matter. If you need it to sell to get your next meal - might be the case. After-all a rolex to a poor guy is like encyclopedia Britannica to a blind man. Your dad knew you would need it.

But I would recommend that if you going to sell it. Find somewhere you can do a buy back. If you don't need the cash - don't sell it. Family Heirlooms are rare and precious.........you won't realize it, but someday you will want to give your kids something.

I am sure your dad would be happy with you eating a meal, than wearing a rolex.

**Akzle** · 19th March 2014, 07:33

mmm. Cash asset.
Do you wear a watch?
I used to, but i have a tendency to break things with my arms and hands, and a watch often gets in the way.
Obviously was not discussed prior to death...
Sounds like your brother is a bitch, too. Get him some non-sandy manpons.
I think the comment about mum buying it off you is fair enough.
Its all crap, what its value to YOU is what matters here. If i inherit (or gifted) shit i dont want i get rid of it.

**HenryDorsetCase** · 19th March 2014, 08:01

Originally Posted by Thomo84

Okay, so this is a bit of a random subject, but it's really been bugging me lately, and I need the opinion of people who are completely unbiased and honest.
So my dad passed away recently. We weren't on very good terms but for some reason that's completely beyond me he left me this very flashy Rolex watch. My first reaction was of course: great, I can sell it! My wife lost her job recently so we could really do with the cash. The idiot that I am, though, I go and tell my brother about it, and before I know it him and my mum are ganging up on me and insisting that I don't sell the watch but keep it in memory of my dad. Apparently the watch was a prized possession of his, or something like that. Now my relationship with my mum and brother has never been easy, and I feel like I might alienate them completely if I go ahead and sell the watch. But then again, there's also my own family and benefit to consider. I feel like it'd be sentimental to hang on to the watch when my dad and I didn't even get on that well, but at the moment I don't have the guts to go through with it. What shall I do guys? Bite the bullet and sell the damn thing or appease my mum and brother? I'd appreciate your advice.

You've heard the saying "Where there is a Will there is a relative"? Its pretty common among lawyers.

Fuck them. Its yours and your decision. And if you need the money to buy groceries or whatever then your family comes first.

The only downside I can see is if Mum spits the dummy and cuts you out of her Will. In which case you can have a crack at contesting it, which will almost certainly be settled because they are rarely litigated, and when they are, generally the estate bears the costs. Ka ching! Every ones a winner baby.

Pity its a Rolex: if it was a good Omega I would make you an offer.

**HenryDorsetCase** · 19th March 2014, 08:02

Originally Posted by Akzle

mmm. Cash asset.
Do you wear a watch?
I used to, but i have a tendency to break things with my arms and hands, and a watch often gets in the way.
Obviously was not discussed prior to death...
Sounds like your brother is a bitch, too. Get him some non-sandy manpons.
I think the comment about mum buying it off you is fair enough.
Its all crap, what its value to YOU is what matters here. If i inherit (or gifted) shit i dont want i get rid of it.

upvote for "non-sandy manpons"

LOLOL