Am I really a heartless bugger?

[ajturbo]

Am I really a heartless bugger?
The other day I got a text from my X, she told me that she was in hospital, in turkey. She was having her gallstones removed…… so what??? I thought, why tell me?
She fucked off 6 years ago because it was greener on the other side…

Now she is telling me that she is on the other side of the world, having an operation

Now correct me if I’m wrong here…(usually are) but isn’t that an everyday op?.. a bit like having your teeth pulled?

Ok now you know the background…..

I was telling a mutual friend of ours this info (about the X in hospital)... and I asked her why the hell she would bother telling me? … AND …if I was in the same boat I wouldn’t bother telling anyone… I asked who the fuck really would care?>>


I mean what the hell could anyone do? Are you a doctor, who could fly over and push the local doc out and perform the surgery? >>

(I know a bit about the op as my old man had it when I was younger…)>>


She went off, saying that she would like to know and there are lots of others…

Sure you may like to know… but to me it would be just another of life’s little adventure, one that I would just look back on and smile…. And then if someone asked me what I was smiling at , I would tell them about the time I spent in a hospital in turkey…

Don’t get me wrong here, I LOVE telling stories about what happened …what HAPPENED, is the key word here, not … oohhhh pooooor sick me ... (Don’t get me wrong here, I’m talking about PHYSICAL PAIN}

Any way she kept on txting me .. I just ignored them…. Then I thought I’ll send her an email...you know, keep her up to date with what “mud boy “ is up too..

She then txt me and asked…” why the hell don’t you reply to my txt’s?”……I told her that I had just sent an email,…. She replied .. That she was in a hospital bed and that she couldn’t get to a computer!!!.... I txted her back and I quote

“MAKE THE EFFORT”


Hahahahhahahahahhaa

She didn’t like that ..Hahahahhahahahahhaa

So I’ve gone off track …
Am I just heartless in thinking that no-one really cares? (Or to be honest about it… expect no-one to be concerned for/about me)
Mud boy keeps telling me not to crash… (Or get any more speeding tickets...)

Stupid thing about all this is… That I feel for others when they fall off or get hurt
ah.. what the hell, this is the pointless dribble....

[Jackrat]

After 6 years you should take an AVO out on her.
She's stalking ya' man,,,,hide,,,I'll look after ya' bike.

[Beemer]

Being the cow that I am, I'd text back (as long as I was on a plan where I had free unlimited texts...) and say I hope it hurt like hell! And I'd also say "like I fucken care!" But then, I am a vindictive bitch who wishes all exes of mine or the person I am involved with would sponataneously combust...

[justsomeguy]

Guess she Finally realised what a mistake she made when she went walking.....

Don't sweat it. You're the one waking up every morning making sure mud-boy turns into a fine mud-man. That shows how much heart you have.

[Riff Raff]

She's probably feeling very alone and miserable. While you were together you would undoubtedly have been there for her at some stage during an illness or something, so she's probably wanting some of the same sympathy and caring you had for her then. Because you have a child together you will always be a part of each others lives, and maybe she can't switch off the thought that you will always be someone she can turn to. And cos you really are a nice guy underneath it all, she's probably right - it can be frustrating as hell for you tho.

[Ms Piggy]

Yeah I'm with Riff Raff b/c you're a decent guy and she's feeling sore and very sorry for herself she wanted to get some sympathy from you. You're not heartless, you're naturally cautious and possibly with good reason.

[Sniper]

Girls are always after love and affection mate. Its not a bad thing, but when they cannot get it from someone in the immediate vicinity they move on to the next person they felt most comfortable with. Its in their genetic code so don't worry. I have had my missus tell my ex to go jump in a lake and she still trys to phone me at least once a week.

The only advice I can give (2 weeks till Im 21) is, just let it slide. If you argue, she has more ammo to use against you, if you are too sympathetic be prepared for a visit or continued phone calls. There is no real middle ground.

No offence ladies.

[MSTRS:Me]

Sounds to me that the split was acrimonious & you still hurt over it (that is quite understandable), but surely the correct response to this contact from her would be 'Why do you want me to know this, & what do you want from me??' At least you will have a better idea of how to deal with any further txts.

[Slipstream]

Yeah I'm with Riff Raff b/c you're a decent guy and she's feeling sore and very sorry for herself she wanted to get some sympathy from you. You're not heartless, you're naturally cautious and possibly with good reason.

Well, maybe you should be the only one to decide what you should do...only you and your x were in your relationship. Maybe once you told her if she ever needed you, you'd be there. But maybe she is just a heartless cow...*shrug* I don't know, I don't know her...or how your relationship was. Every relationship is different and I couldn't possibly comment.

Good luck in search for what you need buddy and if you need an ear to bend Im here.

But from what I learnt last week....you shouldn't take advice from people who "think" they know whats going on and dont have any sound basis ....

hmmm interesting....will you take mine?

[Slipstream]

She's probably feeling very alone and miserable. While you were together you would undoubtedly have been there for her at some stage during an illness or something, so she's probably wanting some of the same sympathy and caring you had for her then. Because you have a child together you will always be a part of each others lives, and maybe she can't switch off the thought that you will always be someone she can turn to. And cos you really are a nice guy underneath it all, she's probably right - it can be frustrating as hell for you tho.

Oh *yawn* you obviously know what you're talking about huh? You know alllll about it.

Like I said in my previous post AJ....only you really know what you should do. If you want to ignore her, ignore her. If you want to listen to her, listen to her.

There are people on here...including myself....who sometimes give out advice that sounds reasonable but is tainted by personal background, half known facts and bias.

Is always good to have suggestions but really only you should be deciding what to do. Don't let anyone push you around buddy I have met ya and I think you're neat

[jrandom]

Oh *yawn* you obviously know what you're talking about huh? You know alllll about it.

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[enigma51]

mrrraaaoooowwww, hsssshhhssssss!

Sorry to say but have to second that

[Slipstream]

mrrraaaoooowwww, hsssshhhssssss!

Is that right? Feeling left out? awww...

here fishy fishy fishy...awwww you so cute....wooja wooja....

[Slipstream]

Sorry to say but have to second that

ooh ooh can I third it??!!

I like popcorn...specially if its caramel

[jrandom]

here fishy fishy fishy...awwww you so cute....wooja wooja....

stop grabbing my cheeks like that, dammit, you make me blush.