Do you have kippers in the house?

[PrincessBandit]

With two adult children, one of whom is still at home (nearing the final months of his apprenticeship) I read this article with some amusement. Son is apparently quite happy living at home having gained much more confidence in doing household jobs (esp. fixing things) as he's gone through his apprenticeship; Daughter swapped the safety of the nest for moving in with bf but has finally come into her own, particularly with financial know-how (the fact that she trained and works as a personal banker assisted with that!). She told me recently "wow, if only I'd saved the money I'm spending on rent, food [etc etc etc] while I was living at home..." Well sweetie, it wasn't for the lack of me and dad trying to tell you at the time
Who has "kippers" here? (I thought the Japanese equivalent tag was a bit harsh!) And how have you tossed your fledglings out of the nest?

http://www.stuff.co.nz/business/mone...o-fly-the-nest

[unstuck]

All 3 of mine were gone by 18. The trick is to make them want to leave, by various different devious means.

[JimO]

im getting one of mine back for at least 6 months next year while he finishes his degree at uni, the main reason being that all the student landlords require the students to sign a 12 month lease and he only has 6 monhts to go before he graduates and may be leaving dunedin to find work, its impossible to find someone to take over a room in the student area for the last 6months of a year so he would have to pay for something he isnt using. the other one rents a house from me with some mates, boy number 3 is in the army so wont be back

[oneofsix]

How about a "kipper" out of the house? out flatting but still a drain on the parents pocket. Have to admit having them out of the house you have a better view of what you are spending on them.
I always told them they were to leave the nest by 18, we even took the nest away from one of them when she was 19.

[Akzle]

what cracker bullshit. Every cunt needs their own house and shit. How many fuken culttres traditionally keep 3 or more generations in one yurt?

[Blackbird]

Hahaha - some great tales there . All 3 of ours were planning to go on to varsity whilst they were at school when we were living in Tokoroa. My wife told them they could forget about studying at Waikato just up the road in case they were of a mind to drop off their dirty washing on weekends and hang around to be waited on. It was said as a joke but they went further afield anyway but it still didn't stop them from emptying the freezer when they were passing through!

After graduation, it was the inevitable OE for a few years and when they came back, there were calls for loans to buy cars. Doesn't matter whether they're at home or not, they are still attached to our wallets for quite a time . In all fairness though, they all have good jobs now and don't owe us a cent any more!

[mashman]

Nope, don't have kippers of that age and should they want to stay home to save some cash etc... then that's exactly when they will do with my blessing. Does that mean they're being wrapped up in cotton wool (bullshit)? Whilst I'd love to see them leave in some strange way, I'm not going to do it because they are dipping into my pocket.

[avgas]

Moving out of home at the age of 17 taught me how to grow a pair (metaphor) and to grow up.
I shake my heads to see all these kids still living at home - not only a part of me saying "that's unfair"........but part of me wondering if they comprehend how hard life actually is?

Some of life's lessons are best taught. If my kids are allowed to life at home (which might happen because my wife is a p.....lovely person) - the rules will be simple. They have to put (a majority of) the money they would have spent on rent / food - into savings.

No savings - no free lunch.

Because at the end of the day - life's a bitch then she takes half your stuff when you break up.

[unstuck]

My brother inlaw is 43 yrs old and has lived at home his whole life, and has worked at the freezing works since he left school. He makes anywhere between $800-$1100 a week and drives a crappy old car and was paying $100 a week all inclusive. He is a non smoker, non drinker. His father died 2 years ago and his mother died last month. For some reason he is finding life a little hard at the moment. He got the house when the inlaws died, but it is falling down around his ears. He has asked us to help him fix it up, because he has no savings. Anyone care to guess what the response to his request was?

[TheDemonLord]

No one told me when I was growing up that when I went flatting, I could sit around in my boxers at midday on a weekday drinking Vodka and Coke and no one bats an eyelid.

That said, I did wait till I was financially stable before moving out

[Ocean1]

Ours were told very early that the minute they left school they'd be paying board not far short of the cost of renting.

When they eventually did get jobs they both spent time at home, paying board. We banked it, of course, and gave it back to them when they started looking to buy their first houses.

They didn't know that at the time, though.

[nodrog:Me]

The politically correct term is "money munchers".

The correct term is "lazy useless cunts".

[ellipsis]

...our first three left home around 16, to get away from me, I would hazard a guess......our youngest who is coming up 21 seems glued here...but that's cool...he has just about finished his apprenticeship and he is welcome to stay here as long as it takes...technically I'm fucked in this world of electronics, ethereal communications, as is his mother...he's quite handy to have around plus we hardly ever see him...was cool when we started having less stuff to do for them...now the highlights of the year are when they are all back at home for a bit...

[yokel]

With two adult children, one of whom is still at home (nearing the final months of his apprenticeship) I read this article with some amusement. Son is apparently quite happy living at home having gained much more confidence in doing household jobs (esp. fixing things) as he's gone through his apprenticeship; Daughter swapped the safety of the nest for moving in with bf but has finally come into her own, particularly with financial know-how (the fact that she trained and works as a personal banker assisted with that!). She told me recently "wow, if only I'd saved the money I'm spending on rent, food [etc etc etc] while I was living at home..." Well sweetie, it wasn't for the lack of me and dad trying to tell you at the time
Who has "kippers" here? (I thought the Japanese equivalent tag was a bit harsh!) And how have you tossed your fledglings out of the nest?

http://www.stuff.co.nz/business/mone...o-fly-the-nest

The simplest explanation is that the male population is emasculated.

There's no real male to female relationship dynamic anymore

[bluninja]

All 3 were out sooner than I'd liked for various reasons. My son had to leave just before he turned 17 due to his uncontrolled violent outbursts.......I still have the smashed wooden door

He came up for dinner last week and promptly lost it for 45 minutes because his girlfriend had texted her previous bf (of over a year ago) to say hi. The "losing it" included verbal abuse to everybody at full volume, punching himself ("fight club" style) in the face and head so hard he bust the skin on 1 knuckle and had his face swollen up, punching a concrete wall till all his knuckles bled, and chasing one of our dogs out of the garden cos it was frightened. Nobody but him was physically hurt, and we managed to not have the police involved. It just reminded me vividly why he doesn't live at home