When "She" leaves

[2_SL0]

you don't think I actually have 40GB of music on my iPod do ya?!?

I understand why you always ride with your Ipod on. Whats even more clearer is the smile on your face when your riding.

[NhuanH]

I understand why you always ride with your Ipod on. Whats even more clearer is the smile on your face when your riding.

ermmm...

oh, I geddit now: you meant riding my motoboik!

[rfc85]

have to agree with a lot thats been said here-by people that have been there-it rips your guts out-20 yrs+
make sure he knows he is not a bad person and he still has friends to talk too

[2_SL0]

ermmm...

oh, I geddit now: you meant riding my motoboik!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Mental picture Nhuan + Ipod + = Mental picture
I could be scarred for life.

[ajturbo]

check my PM...

hope it has some words of wisdom.....
aj

[HDTboy]

Buy him a hooker, or if that fails. Just be there for him, but don't force him to spend time with you.
A pool table is a decent place to talk shit while distracting yourselves

[SPORK]

Buy him a hooker, or if that fails. Just be there for him, but don't force him to spend time with you.
A pool table is a decent place to talk shit while distracting yourselves

HDTboy HDTboy is online now
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Yep... Wise advice? Jaokes!

Ah, what a bummer though

[Mr Skid]

see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....

I think he needs a DVD burner, CD just aint big enough these days. How did you go with your collection, did it fit all on dvd.

you don't think I actually have 40GB of music on my iPod do ya?!?

I understand why you always ride with your Ipod on. Whats even more clearer is the smile on your face when your riding.

ermmm...

oh, I geddit now: you meant riding my motoboik!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Mental picture Nhuan + Ipod + = Mental picture
I could be scarred for life.

Everything has to be a joke for your guys doesn't it?
Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.

[rfc85]

Everything has to be a joke for your guys doesn't it?
Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.

i dont give neg rep-but agree

[NhuanH]

Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.

After you dickhead. Hope you enjoy that neg rep. Now shuddup.

[DevoDave]

yep, been there. First there is shock then there is anger. After that you start to figure out what the hell went wrong. It takes time and it is a real help if there are a good pair of ears to bend.

[Sensei]

Been there twice not the best thing in life but still made it though with Good friends taking me out & having me round for tea to keep my mind of thing's & stop me sitting round home on my own beating myself up with should have could have thought's . See if you can talk to the Partner too this may help with her as well & may beable to sort out what went wrong . Support is the best helper . Keep & eye out for any signs of depression that could lead to him doing anything to harm himself or the partner . It does happen . All the best .

[2_SL0]

Everything has to be a joke for your guys doesn't it?
Grow up unless you want some more negative rep.

Hey just trying to lighten the subject. Humour is the best medicine. At a time like these laughter maybe all he has. Life is like a box of chocolates,
You never know what to expect next... or so they say. What if I was to tell you that you have much more control of your life than you think you do? What if I was to tell you that you are what you think you are, and that just about all that occurs in your life is a projection of your own thoughts? Does this mean we are supposed to blame ourselves for everything that occurs in our l life? No... it means to take responsibility for what happens in our life so we feel more in control and realize all of our choices. Deepak Chopra says "We think we live in the world, but the world lives in us;" meaning, all of us may live in the same world, but the way we live is based on what we are taught.

He needs to take control of his life and move on.
If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. He has been presented with a opportunity to take control of his life. He should see it as a positive move not a negative.

Its up to him, If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page. Life is short you only get one chance to write this book. That chapter has ended but a new one begins.

There are so many positives that come out of this, there is no point dwelling.
Neither can the wave that has passed by be recalled, nor the hour which has passed return again.

As a good friend once said,
The real key in life is to be able to make yourself feel good when you don't feel good, or when you don't even want to feel good. You can do this instantaneously by using your body as a tool to change state.




Here is a poem to mark the sad occasion, you may share it with him
Times have changed and so did we
three years of friendship , gone .... cant you see
why did we have to be seperated like we were
my heart can not understand how such a thing could occur

having you by my side was my desperation
but now all it has caused is seperation
seperation from my heart to yours
seperation from my eyes to yours

You have to remember "Life is not a rehearsal - LIVE it NOW"

If all else fails, a group hug never misses.

[scumdog]

Been there twice not the best thing in life but still made it though with Good friends taking me out & having me round for tea to keep my mind of thing's & stop me sitting round home on my own beating myself up with should have could have thought's . See if you can talk to the Partner too this may help with her as well & may beable to sort out what went wrong . Support is the best helper . Keep & eye out for any signs of depression that could lead to him doing anything to harm himself or the partner . It does happen . All the best .

And how much help was 'humour' as mentioned by Kawagreen et al?

Not a bit I suspect, last thing he needs - until well down the track.

None judgemental support and don't take sides.

And assurance that he did nothing to cause the split ( a few 'white' lies won't do any harm here)

[SARGE]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.

AHAHAHAHA..

mate.. ive been married 4 TIMES!! (i'm starting to think its ME!)

just let him grieve.. then take him out on the piss to somplace cool where he can see what he's been missing.. (depending on age.. SPE on the corner of Symonds and K'rd is always a pretty neat place .. some decent babes in there )
dont bullshit him..but let him know that you are there.. this is like a bike crash..gonna take alot of healing and rehab to get him walking again


most important word in the english language...


NEXT!!

failing that ...buy him a hooker ..