When "She" leaves

[Sniper]

Hit in the head a number of times then get him absolutly motherless and sit and plot revenge. Ok it doesn't help that much, but at least it makes him feel OK for a couple of hours or so.

Thats how I dealt with one of my mates and it worked.

[justsomeguy]

most important word in the english language...


NEXT!!

Hahahahaha - life is a numbers game isn't it D

- we all hope we don't need to go through too many numbers before we hit the jackpot but sometimes it's all about the law of averages.

The chap "seems" to be taking it well - me and another bloke got together and saw a movie at his place - he was acting normal - didn't talk about it.

By the way:

"Dead Alive" directed by Peter Jackson 1992 is my number one recommended absolute Z-grade but watchable movie, last night it toppled "Tromeo and Juliet" to take the podium.

[Beemer]

Just dont start bagging her...(or Shagging) they might get back together and then your in the crap!

Stay on the Fence..

Mates are Mates you dont need to say much, just be there for him.

Very wise words - because if you slag her off or even agree with him if he starts slagging her off, he WILL remember it if they get back together again and your friendship will never be the same again.

And as for shagging her, what kind of a mate would do that? An arsehole of a mate, that's who!

Let him talk though, and take your cues from him - if he wants to go out and have a bit of fun, go with him, likewise if he wants to stay home and sink a few beers and reminisce.

Be his friend and he'll get over it eventually. It's not easy though, and he will be feeling fragile.

[Sniper]

I still reckon you hitting him will work

[justsomeguy]

Very wise words - because if you slag her off or even agree with him if he starts slagging her off, he WILL remember it if they get back together again and your friendship will never be the same again.

And as for shagging her, what kind of a mate would do that? An arsehole of a mate, that's who!

Let him talk though, and take your cues from him - if he wants to go out and have a bit of fun, go with him, likewise if he wants to stay home and sink a few beers and reminisce.

Be his friend and he'll get over it eventually. It's not easy though, and he will be feeling fragile.

It doesn't matter if they get back or not....... maybe I'm being too naive, but if you really love a girl no matter what she does there will always be a part of you that still likes her............. and right now he will be full of memories of the good times..........

Besides negativity only breeds more negativity..........

[FROSTY:Me]

All been said before but the best thing you can do for a freind is be there.
not passing judgment just be there.
The problem is everybody is different so something thats cool and helps one person just doesn't work for another.
The one rule is NEVER pass judgement on the ex partner.

[Fart]

One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....

Anybody been through something similar??

Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??

I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

[WINJA]

see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....

YUP I GOT IT SORTED AND BROKE IT DOWN TO THE MOST ESSENTIAL PICS, 1.3 GIG OF QUALITY PICS, HE WONT BE INTERESTED THO CAUSE ITS MAINLY ASIAN BITCHES.

[justsomeguy]

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

They used to be not so well off when they got married. As far as I know there is no pre-nup.

However now they both probably draw around 120-150 between the two of them and do have a nice house. That is probably his main concern. It is a beautiful house, don't know if he alone can keep it, that is what he is trying to find out.

I don't think it is a harsh/violent breakup, she said she simply lost interest in him and wants to move on (whatever that translates into from Womanglish into English).

[scumdog]

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

Yup, get the barrister to draw it up: 50-50 and don't let emotion get in the way, it's the only way, trust me, - otherwise it'll all end in tears (more of 'em).

[scumdog]

, she said she simply lost interest in him and wants to move on (whatever that translates into from Womanglish into English).

Hmmm, Been there- done that, 26 years later I married her (and am still ecstaticly (sp) married to her), thing is, can HE wait 26 years? I suspect not.

Of course my circumstances would very likely NEVER be repeated.

[justsomeguy]

Yup, get the barrister to draw it up: 50-50 and don't let emotion get in the way, it's the only way, trust me, - otherwise it'll all end in tears (more of 'em).

Yeah true

[Fart]

They used to be not so well off when they got married. As far as I know there is no pre-nup.

However now they both probably draw around 120-150 between the two of them and do have a nice house. That is probably his main concern. It is a beautiful house, don't know if he alone can keep it, that is what he is trying to find out.

I don't think it is a harsh/violent breakup, she said she simply lost interest in him and wants to move on (whatever that translates into from Womanglish into English).

It sounds to me that the relationship is all over.

If he loves the house and wants to keep it, then get an independent valuation. Based on the valuation make an offer to his wife to buy her half share. Make sure it is done properly through the solicitors. Either that or dont pay the banks mortgage, force the bank to have a mortgagee sale, then buy it back cheap from the bank using a Trust. There are numerous ways to structure the deal.

[inlinefour]

Get a good matrimonial barrister and seek advice. If he has alot of assets, also get a good accountant. I hope all his assets are in a Trust structure or some form as protection.

I wish someone had hammered this home with me when I split with my ex-wife. I wanted out so much that I let her have pretty much everything. What I dumbarse I was looking back on it. I should have at least tried to custody for my son in hind sight. Hopefully he'll want to move in at some stage in the future as there is allways a room for him. Upon looking back at what happened to me, the most important thing was just to have good friends about to help me get my mind off the sadness. Another thing that i think could have helped me through it would have been a new bike.

[Fart]

Inlinefour; sorry to hear about your situation mate.

Women are abit like vampires. They suck all your blood and then leave you dead and dry. The only solution is strong garlic water straight from the matrimonial law book poured on by a good barrister.

The reason I know so much about matrimonial cases is that I am a Trustee of a number of Trusts for friends and families. When marriages fall apart that involves substantial amount of assets, you can be sure there will me barristers and solicitors involved. Sad, but true and we do live in the real world.