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When "She" leaves
One of my best mates wife left left him after almost a decade of being married.....
Anybody been through something similar??
Was there anything that helped you or someone you knew who went through something like this??
I'm pretty clueless as to how to deal with him ........ and he is in a pretty bad shape.
frequent infrequenter
just listen to him, be there to help him, and just chill.. don't force anything, and suggest the odd thing to take his mind off it. Don't go over the top.
and everyone deals with it in their own way. Don't assume anything either.. Just let him get on with it. He'll be better for it in the end
just my 2¢
Forum whore
Thats always very sad....
Just be there for him and let him know 24/7 if he needs you, you will be there... Right now you might feel it does not help/mean much... but oneday it will mean lots!
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Yaa, cheers for that Knight Rider......Originally Posted by bugjuice
Is there any thing I should really avoid talking about......... I tend to speak about 5 seconds before I actually think about what it was I just said aloud.....
frequent infrequenter
dunno.. on one hand, he might want to talk a bit about her, to grieve about it all. But then he might not. Again, depends on what the person is like. Best way is to just play it by ear. Just think hard before you open your trap then.. may be a funny movie or something, might work.. avoid sad things, alchamhol, weed etc, cos that'll depress further
Workin' Socially!
Listen and don't try to give advice. Admit that you're not sure what to say but communicate that you're there for him and keep in touch. Even if he doesn't wanna "talk" having a mate will means heaps to him. Oh and remeber that you don't know what he's going through - what I mean is no-one can know how hard/depressing/difficult or angry something can make another person feel.
My goal in life is to be as good a person as my dog already thinks I am.
All Hail King Carl!
see if WINJA managed to get his porn archived off to disc and get the brotha a copy....
Tha Jandal: Adding another dimension to "rubber side down"
Jandal [jan-duhl] noun: a mythical entity presiding over bikers
Jandal [jan-duhl] verb: "to jandal" is to involuntarily separate from one's boik.
Jandalled [jan-duhlled] past tense - usage: "bro, I've just gone and jandalled it"
Just chillin'
Keep him busy .... don't leave him alone for long, in fact the time at night when he would normally be alone with her is the worst time of all. Give him plenty to drink before bed so that he's out cold and doesn't dream and get him interested in women again really quick.
Trust me I've been there and it's the loneliness that is the killer ... As long as he knows he has friends and that he can access them when he needs them he'll get there.
Good for you being as concerned as you are !! ...
A man can move much faster without a millstone around his neck, so if he gets the chance to lose her he'd better drop her and run like heck !! .. (10cc "Modern Man Blues" - Deceptive Bends)
Forum whore
What Cathy (oops CSL) said, plus don't compare his experience to anyone else's.
If a man is alone in the woods and there isn't a woke Hollywood around to call him racist, is he still white?
Norfland Crew
Just dont start bagging her...(or Shagging) they might get back together and then your in the crap!
Stay on the Fence..
Mates are Mates you dont need to say much, just be there for him.
"Ability hits the mark where presumption overshoots and diffidence falls short". Nicholas of Cusa
Bike Whore, I'll ride anything
Be their to listen and help him pick up the pieces of his life.
And try to keep him out of trouble and from self destruction.
I had to with a mate of mine, now he is happily married again.
Thank godness. (no mistake in spelling)
Rik
Feel the fear and do it anyway
Don't confuse education with intelligence.
There are alot of highly educated idiots out there.
Forum whore
it all sounds like good advise. Dnt think i could add much
There is no dark side of the moon, really, as a matter of fact. Its all dark...
Forum whore
What most of the others have said - just be there if he needs someone to talk to - and let him talk - and emote - blub shamelessly, if need be! He will feel like SHIT, and will want to get stuff out of his system.
Trust me, Ive been there!
Oh yes - take him out with the boys and get him tanked - legless! - but only once!
“- He felt that his whole life was some kind of dream and he sometimes wondered whose it was and whether they were enjoying it.”
Forum whore
I think he needs a DVD burner, CD just aint big enough these days.How did you go with your collection, did it fit all on dvd.
The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook.
All Hail King Carl!
you don't think I actually have 40GB of music on my iPod do ya?!?I think he needs a DVD burner, CD just aint big enough these days.
Tha Jandal: Adding another dimension to "rubber side down"
Jandal [jan-duhl] noun: a mythical entity presiding over bikers
Jandal [jan-duhl] verb: "to jandal" is to involuntarily separate from one's boik.
Jandalled [jan-duhlled] past tense - usage: "bro, I've just gone and jandalled it"
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