Who's there for you?

[mstriumph]

.......
I don't want a partner to cry on their shoulder, I don't want a quick fix, I would like the answer on how do you know if you can really trust someone???

i don't believe there's anyone anywhere who hasn't been turned on and betrayed by someone they trusted

it hurts like hell - but don't let it make you scared and bitter too.

[Hitcher]

Oh, that's bewdifooool, Hitcher.
Does this mean you're my friend?

Piss off. It's Wednesday.

[Riff Raff]

Damn it....I am able to keep my mouth shut....I can keep secrets....if I don't there would be a damn good reason for me not to.

Not trying to be nasty here Lena, but if you hadn't opened said mouth, there wouldn't be a problem. Think about it.

[Deano]

Ting, ting, ting, ting. Tunes world's smallest violin...

Fuck I reckon - I thought I had a few issues.

You're all too soft, harden up. Build a bridge and get over it.

I feel much better now.

[Slipstream]

Hahahaha

How many times have I tried to see a councillor so I don't have to burden a friend...or question their trust?
a few....
tried, cos they don't have the time to fit me in, or the phone is engaged

for all those people who can bottle it all up or have an actually trustworthy friend .... you're lucky ... how do you do it??

... I have friends who I am "there for" I back them up through thick and thin ...
but you know... if I do that for them and they "don't" for me... they're really not my friends ...are they?

[Slipstream]

Not trying to be nasty here Lena, but if you hadn't opened said mouth, there wouldn't be a problem. Think about it.

Hey Riff...what you "think" you know...is only part of it...not even that is the main problem

BTW...I'm not the ONLY one who know's what you are trying to refer to ...

think about THAT!!!

[Sniper]

Hey guys, Slipstream is feeling a bit delicate now. You are being a bit rude towards her. Grow up.

[Motu]

People don't trust me....understandable I suppose - but I'm pretty good with secrets,I don't get many secrets worth selling....

[Time]

It takes time to build a bridge and some bricks that you use to make it will break. But you have to keep on building it. Some people will try and smash it, graffiti to make it look different than what it really is.

All you need is time ... people who stay by you and help you build that bridge will be the true friends you seem to be seeking. The others will crumble and fade away.

All you need is time ...

[ManDownUnder]

I don't want a partner to cry on their shoulder, I don't want a quick fix, I would like the answer on how do you know if you can really trust someone???

Wait till they're drunk and trust them with things that don't matter so much.

[James Deuce]

(snip)
I don't want a partner to cry on their shoulder, I don't want a quick fix, I would like the answer on how do you know if you can really trust someone???

Tell them something really terrible and see how far they run. Experienced that on a grand scale very recently. Surprising who hangs about and does good things and gives meaningful support or help, who blusters and spouts platitudes, and who just quietly fades into either the background or a sea of denial.

Family have been useless in my case. Government support agencies have been anything but. The medical and nursing professions are clueless. A small coterie of Humans Being have saved me from myself. Most of them motorcyclists, military, or musicians.

But I struggle daily with horrific demons of my own making, and at the end of the day your fate is in your own hands. You have to go on.

[Sniper]

Family have been useless in my case. Government support agencies have been anything but. The medical and nursing professions are clueless. A small coterie of Humans Being have saved me from myself. Most of them motorcyclists, military, or musicians.

But I struggle daily with horrific demons of my own making, and at the end of the day your fate is in your own hands. You have to go on.

Amen, those are true words Jim.

[vifferman]

Piss off. It's Wednesday.

So... is that a 'Yes', or a 'No' ?

[Sniper]

So... is that a 'Yes', or a 'No' ?

I take it as unless you pledge to BDOTGNZA its a no.

I just paid him

[jrandom]

all right, let's see what my old brain spits forth on this topic.

entirely tangential to Slipstream's problems, but perhaps related. no direct comment implied however.

in my experience, when life shits upon you, its usually traceable back to some decision you took yourself. perhaps in good faith, even could have been the best judgement given the available information at the time.

regardless, personal responsibility and causality still exist and are at the bottom of everything.

grit your teeth and spit in the world's face. money problems are just numbers in computers, and people problems are just imperfect human nature doing its thing. there's always a way to come out on top, even if all it means is dying one day with the knowledge that you kept your integrity and honour.

there is no happiness like loving and being loved by a worthy person. those of you with children are doubly blessed and should never deal lightly with the love you've been handed on a platter.

for Slipstream... to the extent that life has shat upon her, I sympathise. to the extent that she has brought pain upon herself through foolishness and weakness, I do not. I have no idea what that ratio may be.