What would you do?

**Blackadda** · 2nd October 2005, 11:16

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

I know he is listed in the phone book...I wouldn't do anything psycho like going round to the house but,

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Go psycho....

not much news in the paper lately a good "the other woman" story woudl go down well? Ya never know, you could get a spread in Womans Something a rather and earn some bucks..

**ajturbo** · 2nd October 2005, 11:36

hey CLS.. get out on ya bike!!!!...

but i can feel for ya matey!... was is a similar situation a few years back,

but if you had come up to me and told me my wife was cheeting, wouldn't have belived you at all.. but it would make me think..WTF are you on about ....

tis a hard one matey.... think long and hard before you do anything... i had a moto (sp) that IF i ever knew that type of thing was going on i would give the person in the wrong a couple of days notice that i would be telling the other party.....
FUCK THE OUT COME....

**RiderInBlack** · 2nd October 2005, 17:24

An Ex is an Ex. What ever they do after I've left is no longer my problem (Thank God for that). Also if they were acting an arse and I found out later, I be about pissed off, but I would just remind me that I am better off without them. Not point in telling their partner, cause they'll just think your jelious and won't want to believe you.

Worse I have had, was finding out that an ex-girl friend of mine had been raped by her Mother's 5th Husband when she was 13. The Mother didn't believe her own daugther. He got away with it because the ex-GF was to embrassed to face the prick in Court. Sometime latter the Arse-hole (top of my list to knock-off if I go nuts) was in a new relationship and that woman had a young dauther that looked a dead ringer for my ex-GF. Put a total chill in my heart that, but I was heading overseas that week so could not watch him myself. Told some close friends of mine that were also friends of the woman, about what I had been told by the ex-GF's sister (also a close friend of mine) re: the Arse-hole. It was no good telling the woman directly because she was too deep in love with the prick. The friends tried but with no joy. I've lost contact with them all now, and can only hope the the prick has been casterated.

Sorry bit of an off tangent rant there, but you can see how pointless tellong someone the truth is if they are not prepare to listen (specially if you have no soild evidence).

**SlideMoto** · 2nd October 2005, 17:48

Who cares? Why are we discussing this? Unless your still talking to said guy, then you'd be totaly justified in kicking him in the nuts. But Im not discussing this thread so its not a sugestion.

**jrandom** · 2nd October 2005, 19:42

Originally Posted by Beemer

The thing that amazes me here is that Fish missed her chance to have another dig at you and instead came up with something verging on sensible! After her comment about you not riding a "girl's bike" and her questioning of your sexuality, I was waiting for "so you're not a dyke" or "did you become a dyke after this guy jerked you around?" Very disappointing, Fish!

oh, bugger. I didn't even *think* of doing that. honest! sorry.

however, it was such a stretch of the imagination visualising Cathy as a dyke the first time round that I don't think I'd have the energy to continue trolling in that vein.

no matter. fortunately, politics is a more fertile field for that sort of effort than sexuality, and we've just had an election...

**Velox** · 2nd October 2005, 23:18

I agree Cathy - if I was in her position I'd definitely want to know too. You'd just have to be totally 'unobtrusive' and succinct in whatever you do I reckon. Good luck with whatever you decide.

**F5 Dave** · 3rd October 2005, 16:51

I say dob the prick too. He lied to you, it could have been your problem. You were lucky. The wife obviously isn’t. Does she know? Well who knows?, that part is true.

Do you want to be the one who ‘turns her life upside down?’ Well better now than later. It irks me that these people decide that they want to try some new waters but don’t have the guts to break up with the last person & allow -not only them to get on with their life, but also another guy might be keen on the ex if she was on the market again, so to speak.

‘Not getting it at home’ is the lamest excuse yet.

LB · 4th October 2005, 04:32

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I'm with Beemer on this one - what goes around comes around. He'll get whatever's coming to him eventually.
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**What?** · 4th October 2005, 05:53

Yep, I'm with Beemer as well.
Was in a relationship once myself with a woman who lied to me. When I found out the truth, I just walked away and marked it up to experience. I don't know what became of her, and don't really care, but figure she probably got the life she deserved.

**Lou Girardin** · 4th October 2005, 08:22

Originally Posted by crashe

The wife would be better off without him...

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Yes, but would the kids. (if any)

**yungatart** · 4th October 2005, 08:46

Be grateful that you are rid of the prat and move on. Karma will deal to him eventually.

**kerryg** · 4th October 2005, 09:26

Originally Posted by Lou Girardin

Yes, but would the kids. (if any)

Agreed. Good point, Lou.

Somewhat tangential but yesterday was listening to some discussion on the radio about screening for disease and a point made by one person was that screening has a downside, particularly if you cast the net very wide, in that if something is detected that can't be treated, particularly in someone young and otherwise well and healthy and getting on with their life, it can be argued that it is better not to know.

Men (women too, but especially men) have sex outside marriage ALL THE TIME. There will be scacely a man on this site (OK, I can't prove it, but I feel pretty safe saying it) who would not have sex outside marriage if the circumstances were right and he didn't think he would get caught. For that matter, who are all these men who patronise the parlours and the hookers? Single men?

I don't know (or need to know) the details of CSL's experience. Very likely there are elements present that made this guy's philandering less forgivable than having a quick bonk with a hooker (no offence intended here to anyone) but it is bollocks to think you're doing the wife a favour by telling her shit she is not harmed by not knowing.

And anyway, it's sex for chrissakes, not murder.