Fuckin child support

[Winston001]

Ive seen a guy who came home to find his wife in bed with a neighbour. 2 kids. Gave the wife the 8 acre block and basically . everything.Thought he had signed an agreeement saying thiat was it! Walked away with his last pay cheque. Denied access to his kids...[not legally - he'd turn up to see/pick them up - oh, they're away for the weekend]. Formed a new relationship, had twins, his ex came back fro Oz - so poor she could only fly 5 horses over....dumped the boyfriend and married a local vet! Then hit this guy with a court case for $235,000 for what she considered was back maintenance! Almost totally fucked his (8yr) relationship! Still denied access to his kids! When the younger kid went of the rails, he got a filthy letter saying it was all his fault!
Court case cost him $40,000, she arrived in a BMW dripping with diamonds...sort off fucked her, "poor me" case a bit, but it still cost him big time! With the stresses involved, his current relationship is almost fucked...and the courts didnt give a fuck. He was the bogey man for leaving his kids......pay pay pay....and to hell with his newer family!

Sadly I believe every word. Only a small percentage of women are this vicious but when you consider the sheer number of separated couples, that still adds up to thousands of similar situations.

All I can say is that when you separate, go to a family lawyer and at least get straight on the law. There doesn't need to be a battle - in fact the majority of couples sort things out with only light legal guidance. No dramas or court cases.

Unfortunately quite a few men walk away, leaving the house etc for the wife and children, thinking they are doing the right thing. They fail to realise that doesn't cover Child Support obligations which comes as a shock later.

Also these decent guys don't consider what will happen when the wife gets a new partner, because things change. They also don't consider the future effects on their own new relationships and new children. Understandable because they feel miserable and just want to do the right thing now, never mind the future.

So go to a lawyer. It might take only one visit and save you $thousands and a lot of heartache in the future.

[iwilde]

I have an agrement with my x, I only pay for what my girl needs and thats it. When she needs clothes, school fees, new bike etc I pay. I'd hate to see my hard erned cash pay for my x's lifestyle of booze and drugs. Some months it about $600 & other months its only about $200. It was either this way or seeing I'm a self employed contractor I will "borrow X amount" from my business thus giving me a nill income and only have to pay the min of $10/week. She saw the light early on and has agreed to do it my way or get fuck all from me. At the end of the day you gotta look after what you produced, don't expect the tax payers to pay for you.

[Psalm42]

It was either this way or seeing I'm a self employed contractor I will "borrow X amount" from my business thus giving me a nill income and only have to pay the min of $10/week. She saw the light early on and has agreed to do it my way or get fuck all from me. At the end of the day you gotta look after what you produced, don't expect the tax payers to pay for you.

Right on.....

Now, all anyone has to do is find out how to do the same thing when an employee.

When your ex is on a benifit they dont see much of a change in benifit until you pay more than they collect. But when they are not on a benifit negotiation is all they have when IRD can only collect the minimum.


Fair comes into play, but some times you must play hard to get fair...

But then again I am one of these people that believe parents should have 50/50 shared care custody if they can't live together.

[Skyryder]

But then again I am one of these people that believe parents should have 50/50 shared care custody if they can't live together.

Children need stabilitly. I've seen too may fucked up becasue they have been treated like a yo-yo.

Skyryder

[Finn]

When it come to matters such as this, it certainly pays not to be a hard working white male in this fucking country. Most of the man hating laws must be introduced when it's rag week. The sad thing is that in most cases it's the kids that come off worse.

[Psalm42]

Children need stabilitly. I've seen too may fucked up becasue they have been treated like a yo-yo.

Skyryder

Your quite correct, the stabilitly of knowing that one week you are at dads and one week you are at mums. And knowing that mum or dad changing her/his mind because they have an issue with the other will no longer be affecting where you will be staying any given week. The stabilitly of knowing when week on week off is set in concrete, you will not be used as a tool to manipulate the other parent.

[Sutage]

hey this might not be ideal thread to post but i have a question regarding this
say i buy a house now at 18 with just my name on it, say 20 years i get divorced etc, does she have any right to it?
thx for any help:P

[thehollowmen]

I'm so glad I'm sterile.

[Madness]

Up The Bum = No Babies

[FROSTY:Me]

Im in the same boat--Yea I got my F$$$$$ assesment too -same sorta money as brett.
One point I'd like made clear--the money a guy pays doesn't go to the kids or the mother of the kids---it goes to the f$$## goverment.
I could pay 2k a month and my kids get not a penny more.
Darn Im so lucky I've got shared custody of my kids.

[Warr]

hey this might not be ideal thread to post but i have a question regarding this
say i buy a house now at 18 with just my name on it, say 20 years i get divorced etc, does she have any right to it?
thx for any help:P

After 2 years there is no His and Hers, its all Shared.... That is unless you get a legal Pre-Nuptual agreement done

[Winston001]

One point I'd like made clear--the money a guy pays doesn't go to the kids or the mother of the kids---it goes to the f$$## goverment.
I could pay 2k a month and my kids get not a penny more.

Hang on a moment - that is plain wrong. The money you pay goes to help the long-suffering taxpayer who is paying a social welfare benefit to your wife. How about you and your wife picking up the whole tab. After-all the rest of us didn't marry you or father your children. Why should the taxpayer fund you when you are working?

If your wife is not on a benefit then all of the Child Support you pay goes to her to help provide for the kids. IRD don't even charge an administration fee - thats left to us taxpayers to pick up.

[Winston001]

hey this might not be ideal thread to post but i have a question regarding this
say i buy a house now at 18 with just my name on it, say 20 years i get divorced etc, does she have any right to it?
thx for any help:P

You'd have been better to start another thread. But anyway, yes, your wife/partner will be able to claim against the matrimonial home even though she isn't an owner, after 3 years (Not 2).

As Warr said, the best insurance is to have her sign a relationship property contracting-out Agreement saying the house is your separate property. Mind you, she doesn't have to sign, and I've got to tell you that after 20 years, the Agreement will probably be set aside by the Court.

[Grahameeboy]

In my case, my Wife who had an affair told me to move out....I said "No".....she threatened me with a 'Seperation Order'...there was no abuse.....6 weeks sleeping on the sofa and she moved out..........I normally don't stand up for myself but for my Daughter's sake I did and it will be worth it........Wife got a surprise....I get equal shared custody of Natalie who is disabled so despite being treated like an invisible Father, I reckon I am doing alright....will end up keeping house and keeping my relationship with Natalie.

Not too many complaints my end....gotta make the most I say.

[Quasievil]

Children need stabilitly. I've seen too may fucked up becasue they have been treated like a yo-yo.

Skyryder

Yes but children need their fathers to and boys especially so