Originally Posted by
Grahameeboy
She still lives here wth her Mum and we both have equal shared custody.
We get on to a point but ours is quite complex because of Natalie and she resents the fact that I bonded better....no ones fault just circumstances, she was home late so I did most of the prime care, we both wanted more kids but 1 in 4 chance of same risk as we are both carriers of SMA Gene and only other way is IVF etc with 20% success rate so you can guess the issues.
With Kate it is a power thing.....I have asked for extra time and that is fine but when it comes to medical appointments, changes to Day Care which affect me she does not discuss with me.......she will not deal with Natalies questions about walking so this is left to me.......
And no I cannot tell her to fuck her self because it is not in my nature and I need to keep the house so need to keep my mouth shut....after that I will stand up more....I have already which surprised her which has created more resentment and with my folks in UK I am fighting alone.....
But I have faith and unconditional love for Natalie so things will be okay
Hope I didn't offend. I'm in a similar situation matrimonialy, my ex is sucking me dry, but I feel duty bound to provide for her and the kids, especially while they're young (2 at primary school, one at preschool). She takes most of what I earn and then complains it's not enough, more out of stupidity than malice though. I don't want the kids suffering with a working mum (apologies to those fems who are offended) so I have to provide enough to support them without her working, which means one trip to the pub a week and thats my spending money all gone, the welly crowd know how tight I am. 
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Although this does even things up, if she threatens to restrict access, then I'd threaten to cut back her income. So far it's working "ok".
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