Today in Court

**Colapop** · 18th April 2006, 16:11

I've been away with my sister, supporting her while she's had this court date for today - custody case for her kids.
The senario is this; ('scuse my language following)

Her ex, a complete fuckwit, is a scumbag criminal lowlife shithead. 10-12 years ago he beat her up and put her in hospital for a couple of days, at the time she begged me not to start anything with him coz, a) she'd get it later and b) I'd get locked up for it. Time goes by and he's forgiven and is a 'good' father and all that. Then he does it again, this time he breaks her cheek and fractures her eye socket. No-one tells me what happened. So they break up leaving 2 kids with the mother. I won't bore you with all the details of his offending in between times that got progressively worse, all I will say is by the time she told him to fuck off he was/is well known to the police, including beating an attempted murder rap. All is going well, he comes to visit and then goes back to whatever rock he lives under. Until the night he comes round drugged up and pissed with a shotgun telling her they're getting back together. So she tells him sure no problems, "You go get your gear and I'll wake the kids and tell them the good news". He fucks off and she gets as much shit into bags as she can and disappears (Womens refuge). 3 years later he applies for custody - he doesn't like paying child support.

So that's the story thus far. We had the court appointment this morning and he's whinging about not having access and that he's a loving father and all this bullshit. This guy is a complete and total fucktard. He turns up with his 'new' bitch with a kid. There was a "half-time" break I went out to get some fresh air and I see him across the yard at the back of court having a smoke. When he sees me he starts to shoot me with his thumb and forefinger. I'm thinking "fuck it, lets go." til the thought of my sister's kids living with him makes me stop and think. So I go back inside.

She got custody and he got nothing. No visitation, no access - Nothing.

I'm still left empty - I really wanna kick his arse. I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time? I got kids, a wife, a decent job and things that matter to me. Is that the real reason - I was just being selfish? I sure as fuck hope there's Karma coz he deserves more than his fair share.

I feel better now, just had to get it out. Thanks for reading this load of shit.
Col

**MrMelon** · 18th April 2006, 16:17

Sounds like he's already done a pretty good job of fucking himself up without anyone else's help. Still it'd be nice to remove some of these scum from the planet before they can mess anyone else's lives up.

**hXc** · 18th April 2006, 16:23

The guy sounds like a complete wanker and he shouldn't be breeding at all. But, I believe you did the right thing by not giving him a go at half time. It may not seem that way at times but you made a good choice.

As you say, karma will bite his arse

**Sniper** · 18th April 2006, 16:28

Good on you for not losing your rag. Look where it got him? Point to ponder?

Anyway, one day he is going to die and be surrounded by a handful of people because of the way he treated others. You will have a lot more....

**ManDownUnder** · 18th April 2006, 16:30

Originally Posted by Colapop

I went out to get some fresh air and I see him across the yard at the back of court having a smoke. When he sees me he starts to shoot me with his thumb and forefinger. I'm thinking "fuck it, lets go." til the thought of my sister's kids living with him makes me stop and think. So I go back inside.

Awesome move mate - good thinking and you had your heart in the right place. HUGE QDOS for this one...

Originally Posted by Colapop

I'm still left empty - I really wanna kick his arse. I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time? I got kids, a wife, a decent job and things that matter to me. Is that the real reason - I was just being selfish? I sure as fuck hope there's Karma coz he deserves more than his fair share.

I feel better now, just had to get it out. Thanks for reading this load of shit.
Col

Mate - he'll be hurting too but it sounds like he's more than just a hint stuffed up. Make sure she still has the backup/escape plan... sounds like you might want one too.

It's imbalanced - he's got no access to the kids and that's not the way it's supposed to be - sounds like you're simply relating to that. I'm the same (wife kids etc) and to be without any of that would leave me more than hollow...

Just be there for the kids. They need a man in their lives more than ever.... the one they had has set an example they'd be wise to avoid, but it'll be confusing and painful as hell for them too.

God luck to you all is all I can say... good luck

**kickingzebra** · 18th April 2006, 16:32

Good on you for looking after your sis Cola - Good family can be hard to come by!! Hope your sis does well, court case might bring up some crap for her in the next little while as well...

**terbang** · 18th April 2006, 16:37

When he dies, and it wont be that long, piss on his grave..

**Buster** · 18th April 2006, 16:39

Good on you for not taking his bait. He wanted you to stoop down to his level. It sounds like the judge made the right call anyway so you get the last laugh. Venting on here is a good way to cool off bud. By the sounds of things you are ten times the man he is anyway.

**Lias** · 18th April 2006, 16:39

Sounds remarkably like my ladies ex.

I'm still waiting for him to show up on the doorstep one day so I can shoot the cunt.

**Colapop** · 18th April 2006, 16:41

Thanks guys. Sometimes you just do what you can. He's got no idea where she lives and she's got her life pretty together now. She said thanks and in reality that's all I could have ever wanted.

**Paul in NZ** · 18th April 2006, 16:42

The only option he has is to drag you down to his level. It's very easy to lower your standard, it's very hard to bring them back up. You did a good thing not responding.

Paul N

**Lias** · 18th April 2006, 16:44

Originally Posted by Colapop

Thanks guys. Sometimes you just do what you can. He's got no idea where she lives and she's got her life pretty together now. She said thanks and in reality that's all I could have ever wanted.

On a side note, dont you hate it when your sisters wont let you thump people for them? My sister still to this day (nigh on 7 years later) wont give me the name of her ex-flatmate who pointed a loaded rifle at her and set his dogs on her because she wouldnt fuck him. She managed to keep the whole saga from me for nearly a month after it happened. I damn near lost the plot when I found out, and I still want to go have a quiet word with the gentleman if she ever tells me who he was.

**RantyDave** · 18th April 2006, 16:47

Originally Posted by Colapop

I'm left thinking, is it because I'm older, wiser or more mature that I didn't fuck him up at half-time?

All three presumably. Well done for keeping your hair on.

Dave

**Colapop** · 18th April 2006, 16:47

I was wild enough when I finally found out. I'm sitting here chuckling to myself coz I know he'd piss his pants if I got to have a go at him proper. There'll be a time and place and it may not be me (dammit!) but he will get it.