Assault

**spudchucka** · 26th April 2006, 10:16

Originally Posted by XxKiTtiExX

Sleeping on it for the night, and giving myself and the person involved time to calm down. All up not a good situation but still not worth punching a girl in the face over. Mum would prefer I don't get him charged with assault but exactly what good would it do? The guy needs help. Time for him to realize that if he ever does. Will know in the morning what exactly it is that I am going to do.

Its up to you what you do in terms of making a complaint to the police. But what ever you decide to do the most important thing is that you don't get caught up in the cycle of abuse like so many women do. Take it from me, if he's hit you once he will hit you again or he will learn to abuse you in other ways, I've seen too many arsehole woman abusers to ever advise someone to give him a second chance. Cut yourself free of him while you can.

Edit: You can report domestic violence to police without it ending in a prosecution. Just make it quite clear at the time that you aren't interested in prosecuting, (if that is your decision) but you want it recorded. You might want to get a domestic protection order later on if he keeps on being a twat so if its recorded now that will assist you in getting the protection order later on.

**Finn** · 26th April 2006, 10:26

Originally Posted by The_Dover

If a woman is good enough to run the fucking country...

Two things wrong with that statement Dove. Firstly, she's obviously not good enough to run the country and secondly, calling her a woman is a bit far fetched. She is the antichrist.

**KATWYN** · 26th April 2006, 10:32

Originally Posted by poorbastard

. She even threatened to tip the bikes over that was pretty much when the restraining order threats had to come in.

about 17 Years ago I threatened to do that to my boyfreinds GSXR1100 he said "if you do, i'm gunna make you pick it back up"

- needless to say said bike wasn't pushed over. (temper temper)

**Drunken Monkey** · 26th April 2006, 10:32

Originally Posted by Big Dave

It's called being a gentleman and having honour.
I have never raised a hand to a woman and I've had some laying into me at the pub etc. Walked away.
I want nothing to do with any man who does.

A gentleman of honour does not raise his hand to a lady. I can see where those guys are coming from, I'll certainly take an open-handed slap from a lady, but fists? No lady would ever use closed fists (or worse, kick for the nuts). You can't always walk away Dave. Unlikely situation, I know, but what if you're cornered by two brutish 300lbs Samoan women hell bent on giving you the slap? There are always going to be exceptions to the rule.

**yungatart** · 26th April 2006, 10:33

Report it Kittie, the next time he hits a woman, she may not walk away- the abuse tends to get worse over time, unless he gets help. Look after yourself girl, and there are plenty of really nice blokes out there - much better than this hotheaded tosser!
Take care

**Big Dave** · 26th April 2006, 10:40

Originally Posted by Drunken Monkey

You can't always walk away Dave. .

Yeah you can.
I'd be far more likely to be partying on with the Samoan chics anyway. You just ask them to sing for you and they are putty.

**Winston001** · 26th April 2006, 10:54

Endorse the advice to make a complaint to the Police. The Crimes Act has a specific offence "male assaults female" so the law recognises the physical inequality of the sexes.

For a guy to hit you he either was incredibly outraged - or he's done it before. Maybe not to you but to others. And he'll do it again.

By making a complaint you ensure he doesn't get away with it. The cycle of violence in homes only continues because the victims continually forgive the offender.

**Smorg** · 26th April 2006, 11:04

Originally Posted by Big Dave

I'd be far more likely to be partying on with the Samoan chics anyway.

You say that now

**Winston001** · 26th April 2006, 11:07

Hesitate to post this but there is a study of family violence which found that women contribute more than is popularly recognised. Not that women themselves use physical violence, but rather that they are much more skilled at psychological torment.

Women are good with words. They usually know just the right buttons to press with their partner and it can be done with a look. They don't have physical power so they use much more subtle ways to provoke their partner. If the man loses it there is no way he can adequately explain why.

That in no way excuses men hitting women or children. However it does take two to tango.

**Finn** · 26th April 2006, 11:14

Winston is right. My words upset some people here so much that they want to bash me. I think there is even a club with several members that are planning an annual Finn Bash.

**The_Dover** · 26th April 2006, 11:22

I find it quite extraordinary that a country which champions womens rights and sexual equality and is governed by a "woman" we still have such a bullshit sexist charge as "male assaults female".

It's almost as bad all that affirmative action shit and the "Black Music Awards", fucking prejudice reversed and it really pisses me off.

**ManDownUnder** · 26th April 2006, 11:25

Kittie - I think the answer to your "charge him or not" question is a simple one.

If he needs it - charge him. If he's a violent type that does lash out - then yeah bling him, get the cops onto it, let him know it's been done, and let him know you'll do it again every time it's needed.

If he's done it and feels bad, it's out of character etc then have a word to him, or write to him. Let him know what happened, how it made everyone feel and what you know think of him. Let him know what future consequences will be (i.e. calling the cops) and make sure you are in the position to follow through with your threats.

It's one thing to be a tough guy, it's quite another to be a prick. Sounds like he might have gotten the two confused.

MDU