Suzuki TS50-XKR for sale! - spousal emergency!

**imdying** · 19th June 2006, 12:02

Was it the spending with consultation, or the fact that it's a bike, that was the problem?

**The_Dover** · 19th June 2006, 12:24

Take your testicals out of her purse and send her on her way.

NEXT!

**Swoop** · 19th June 2006, 12:32

Originally Posted by Goblin

Grow a spine!

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Goblin again.

**jdmwellington** · 19th June 2006, 12:41

Originally Posted by imdying

Was it the spending with consultation, or the fact that it's a bike, that was the problem?

It was the spending without consulation apparently

**C_A** · 19th June 2006, 12:46

meh, pay it back asap, problem = not apparent.
i'm sure you can regulate your 'recreational spending' until it's paid off.
show me a woman that's never ticked up, or paid out her arse for something before consulting her other half!!!

**madboy** · 19th June 2006, 12:53

Originally Posted by jdmwellington

It was the spending without consulation apparently

I can understand that argument, particularly if you're in a relationship so "serious" that marriage is on the cards. It is supposed to be about partnership, open communication and all that. In saying that, is $2k (bike + gear = $2k I guess??) considered a big spend in your family? I can understand her wrath if it eats into the wedding/food/shelter budget, but if it's just eating into the pizza/chips/DVD budget then who friggin cares?! Surely the relationship has enough independence left in it that you (and her) can make minor discretionary spending decisions without consultation?

If you spent the food money, you are bad. If you only spent the toy money, then spend some more on nzdating.com.

**jdmwellington** · 19th June 2006, 12:56

hahah madboy thats classic. yeah supposed to be heading off to UK at the end of next year and getting married and all that. We don't have joint bank accounts, and I spend lots on records and music related stuff, but I think this was an issue as it was sizeable and kind of in the opposite direction of saving for something... oh well..

**imdying** · 19th June 2006, 12:56

I would be inclined to think carefully about marrying somebody who presented you with an ultimatum, without at least discussing some other compromise.

**Wasp** · 19th June 2006, 12:58

How tall and heavy are you? Im keen on getting some gear and seriously considering Quasi's stuff.

**Cibby** · 19th June 2006, 12:58

Originally Posted by imdying

I would be inclined to think carefully about marrying somebody who presented you with an ultimatum, without at least discussing some other compromise.

yes i agree. I assume you are paying for this with your own money so why does she have the final say???

Surely a comprimise? or a "think about it" period woudl be in order!!!!

You are an individual whether you are in or out of a relationship and whilst perhaps you should have consulted her out of honest/respect, why does she control you?

**madboy** · 19th June 2006, 13:01

Originally Posted by imdying

I would be inclined to think carefully about marrying somebody who presented you with an ultimatum, without at least discussing some other compromise.

Had an ex like that. No motorbike. You ever buy a motorbike and we're history. No way in hell will you ever get a motorbike while you're with me.

After we split it became, no way will I get back together with you while you've got that damn thing.

And then it became, don't friggin expect me to get on the back of that damn thing.

(I should point out it was a perky blonde not a bike that caused the split).

**Sniper** · 19th June 2006, 13:11

Give her the flick. There are plenty of other women out ther who would be more understanding.

Fecking femanistic women....... (pt)

**Str8 Jacket** · 19th June 2006, 13:11

Originally Posted by Wasp

How tall and heavy are you? Im keen on getting some gear and seriously considering Quasi's stuff.

Actually Doug, he'd be almost identical in size to you... But for now lets encourage him to keep it!

JDM- the other thing is that you could sell that bike for practically what you bought it for and you'll be able to sell the gear too... Why not keep it till a few months before you go away and then sell it all that way you wont lose as much if anything.... just an idea. Whatever you do stand your ground, if she really cares for you she'll want you to be happy. Partners are not possessions!

**crashe** · 19th June 2006, 13:17

Work out a budget of what it costs you per week to get to work in a car.

Then show her how much it will cost you to get to work on the bike...

Tell her the saving's outweigh the other.

Ok maybe you should have mentioned the bike in advance... then she had time to mull it over in her head.

Ok make a deal with her since you buy heaps of Record's/CD's etc every week. So, No more buying music stuff, until the amount you spent on the bike is cleared off.

You BOTH must learn to compromise at this stage of the game....
or she will walk all over you for the rest of your life together...

Ask her to give you both time to really think about selling the bike... Like two weeks.

All the best for you both.