Alone for first time

**chic 'n' charge** · 23rd June 2006, 23:49

I know this is probably way off topic - but I'm just learning to live for first time on my own. Does anyone else live on their own?

I have real trouble with motivation to cook proper meals, do anything in weekends - I'm hoping I don't get too bored of bike cos I've got no-one to ride with now either.

So any suggestions to make this transition easier would be really helpful.

**scumdog** · 23rd June 2006, 23:55

Get into a (flexible) routine and stick with it re chores etc so you don't get snowed under..

Make a 'list' of must do's for each day/week.

Do a meal-swap with a friend twice a week or so - that way you're forced to go out and/or have a guest.

Stay off KB so you actually get these done.!!!!!!!

PS Did you go to the hot-rod display at the school in Blenhiem on Q'birthday weekend?

**jazbug5** · 23rd June 2006, 23:55

Is there anything you've always wanted to do that has been on a back burner for a while? Relationships do cut back on the time you have to do stuff purely for yourself. Why not sit down and make out a list of things (make sure there's some silly stuff on there too!) and then put them in order of priority (I mean by how much fun you will derive from doing them, not how much sense there is in doing them).

Then when you have a day or a few hours free, you have a list of stuff right there to choose from..! Start building up good memories associated with being alone with yourself, and you'll start feeling better about the whole thing, and yourself.

Sorry I'm sort of dribbling, a little sleep deprived today...

**SwanTiger** · 23rd June 2006, 23:55

Accept that your lifestyle is going to change, take up an additional hobby and use it to make new friends. That way they'll help you mold into your new lifestyle, your old friends will keep you in the habit of your old lifestyle.

Just my two cents. Moved out when I was 15 and enjoyed the independance.

Parties every night and picking fights every weekend.

Propper meals was a pizza less than 24 hours old.

**smokeyging** · 24th June 2006, 01:15

Hells teeth, i wished i was single again! make the most of your freedom, go out there and have a ball, make the most of it for when your next partner comes along, you'll wish your single again.

**nsrpaul** · 24th June 2006, 01:20

rule of thumb , if it takes longer to cook than to eat its no good fo the single person

**diggydog** · 24th June 2006, 02:53

Originally Posted by smokeyging

Hells teeth, i wished i was single again! make the most of your freedom, go out there and have a ball, make the most of it for when your next partner comes along, you'll wish your single again.

I agree you still have your life ahead of you, you're still got good friends and love your motorsports.

i'm sure if i was down your way, i would ride with you.

**Joni** · 24th June 2006, 08:55

Kelz ==>

Hang in there hun....

**jimbo600** · 24th June 2006, 09:35

Yeah I remember what you're going through. Tell ya what about the cooking thing. I used to dread cooking but learned to cook properly (not saying you can't of course) and in short time I used to look forward to brewing up a meal, even if it was just for me. Mind you I always made a shit load anyway and saved the rest for lunch. Getting fit is always good. Plenty of time to get training in and self confidence is peaking when you look good.

One good thing to entertain is to tease cowpoos. Keeps you going for days, especially as you're a single girlie.

Being on your own can suck at times but it also has some advantages.

Why don't you hop on a ferry and have a weekend burlah around with the Welly massive (guest starring the Wairarapa hardcore)

**Maha** · 24th June 2006, 09:55

I lived alone for about 2 years, kinda liked it really, sometimes it sucked but i made it happen. Meals were interesting, i could make what i wanted, nobody to please but me. I had a great cd collection and would listen to music rather than watch tv. There was always the computer, pity i didnt have a bike then or new about this site, i would have takeaways on Thursday nights, then head away on Friday's for the weekend. Are you alone by choice or chance?
Look at the big picture................you've got us..............

**rfc85** · 24th June 2006, 09:58

When I first moved down here (10months ago),I was much the same,but have since adjusted and really enjoy the single life style,do want you want when you want how you want. It will all come good for you,hang in there !!!!!

**chic 'n' charge** · 24th June 2006, 10:14

Originally Posted by maha man

Are you alone by choice or chance?
Look at the big picture................you've got us..............

[I]Other half ended relationship - so not really my choice!.

Thanks heaps for your support - I know I will get through, just lonely I guess being away from friends and family I grew up with - came up here for relationship so now that's ended kinda feel lost, but my independence will return.

Thanks for tips.[/I]

**froggyfrenchman** · 24th June 2006, 11:25

Enjoy the time on your own, takes a while to get used to being the olny one in a house, I enjoyed living alone. Got on my bike every weekend and found spots other bikers gathered and met new people. Was kinda fun.

As for meals. On Sunday night i would cook 2-3 meals and freeze them for the upcoming week, takaways on thursday and out and about on my bike all weekend.

**Madmax** · 24th June 2006, 12:49

pets are fun when your on your own, they always listen to
even to the most f**ked up shit.
meals? i enjoy cooking but always make more for when
i cant be f**ked during the week.
(plus i spend more time feeding the pets)
I Have three cats forty odd goldfish and one magpie

Its not that bad only the cats think im mad
(but ill sort that one out later,buy the way i blame the fish)