Alone for first time

**Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)** · 5th September 2006, 11:36

Haven't lived with a guy for 5 years. Had the odd flatmate - forget it. I don't get hung up on the food thing. 'm still alive no matter what I eat -= healthy too. I have a can opener, microwave, and foreman grill thingie. Nobody has died yet from my attempts at cooking - when I make the effort.

Once a week another single friend will make a meal and we share it and I do the same. Guarantees me at least 1 nice meal a week.

Keep busy to take your mind off things. Yak to people on phone, visit, go for coffee. Unfortunately it is time that will heal. Believe in yourself, spoil yourself and find out what you really like and enjoy.

Don't be afraid to go riding on your own - hell I've been doing that for 5 years as well (actually most of my riding life!!) - I can count the number of times on one hand someone has joined me riding. Always got the excuse - you ride too long, too far, too fast - too bloody something.
When or if I get my bike back I hope to do more KB rides.
Cheers

**GIXser** · 5th September 2006, 11:43

Originally Posted by chic 'n' charge

Well it's been 3 months since I started out on my own, and I've survived. Sitting here online Friday night & hello who pops up with a message saying "Hi are you ready to chat with me yet" - yip THE EX.....

So here's the question - is he playing major head games or is he truly interested in finding out how I am - he didn't care when we were together eh so my guess is he just wants to rub it in my face on how happy he is

So any ideas on what I should do about it?

Sleep with him.......

**Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)** · 5th September 2006, 11:59

"Can you give me a reason why I would be interested in talking to you?" His ego could be dented cos you've survived without him!! and presumably you have never contacted him - ouch further dent!! lol

Frankly ignore it. How important is it?? (question I always ask myself)
Cheers

**chanceyy** · 20th September 2006, 21:59

laffing .. well i did say in a post that my ex had backed off ..

text outta the blue today asking if he could come see me in a couple of weeks on a sat & not leave til sunday ..(hmmmmmmm ohh do i detect a sex call ??)

hmm its been 11 months since he walked ..... so guess he has not quite finished with the head games LOL

but is there gonna be sex ...... ummm no, NOPE, NADDA .. lol

**andrea** · 20th September 2006, 22:08

yeah tell him to piss off, better yet just dont reply to any of his txts.
look how far you've come, your doing GREATTTT!!!!

you've proved that you can survive without him and you dont need him lol.
make him hurt, or my favourite phrase hit him where it hurts (afew times)YEAHH!!!lol hey i did

**chanceyy** · 20th September 2006, 22:17

Originally Posted by andrea

yeah tell him to piss off, better yet just dont reply to any of his txts.
look how far you've come, your doing GREATTTT!!!!

you've proved that you can survive without him and you dont need him lol.
make him hurt, or my favourite phrase hit him where it hurts (afew times)YEAHH!!!lol hey i did

would ignore his texts but for the fact we still have money tied up .. & thinking of going one better ... yeah he can stay the night .. along with some of my friends .. there is a spare bed up the front room

hahahahahahahaha after all i can share a bed with a freind & no sex but does he need to know that ..

my thought i doubt he will stay the night .. lmfao ..

**FROSTY:Me** · 20th September 2006, 22:27

Ok as a HUGE favour to the single ladies on here I will loan out one of my rugrats
This will serve double duty First of all youll be so frigging busy chasing after him and cleaning up his mess you wont have time for a life.
second it will put you off kids or the thought of ever procreating so you wont go out looking for a partner.
Ohh and youll never be cooking for just one
As a side effect itll help this poor ol solo dad a bit of a break

**u4ea** · 20th September 2006, 22:47

Originally Posted by chanceyy

would ignore his texts but for the fact we still have money tied up .. & thinking of going one better ... yeah he can stay the night .. along with some of my friends .. there is a spare bed up the front room

hahahahahahahaha after all i can share a bed with a freind & no sex but does he need to know that ..

my thought i doubt he will stay the night .. lmfao ..

gees it must be spring making these men frisky!!my x came over today and like a lamb to the slaughter was shown the door!!!

**andrea** · 20th September 2006, 23:11

Originally Posted by FROSTY

Ok as a HUGE favour to the single ladies on here I will loan out one of my rugrats
This will serve double duty First of all youll be so frigging busy chasing after him and cleaning up his mess you wont have time for a life.
second it will put you off kids or the thought of ever procreating so you wont go out looking for a partner.
Ohh and youll never be cooking for just one
As a side effect itll help this poor ol solo dad a bit of a break

noway ive had my fair share of looking after kids and cleaning up after them, its a bigggg job. but they are cool, i always look forward to seeing my nephews and nieces in the weekend. the worst experience was when i was looking after my nephew

we were in my car and eating McD's and then all of a sudden he does a loud fart, and he had this big smile on his face. i giggled

at first but the smell just wiped the smile off my face

, it was just killing me

. i looked into the bag that my niece gave me cause their were supposed to be nappies in there, but there were none, so i had to drive all the way back to their house and as soon as i pick him up i ended up with shit on my arm. i took him into the house, found some nappies but i couldnt find anything to clean him so i used one of their tea towels

. all this and i was running late for an important appointment

oh mannn!! ill never do that again its a full time job i tell you and one im really not suited to

**buellbabe** · 21st September 2006, 06:48

Originally Posted by chanceyy

would ignore his texts but for the fact we still have money tied up .. ..

DON'T DO IT!
Cut yr losses and FORGET him!

I stayed 'friends' with my EX cos he owed me $15Gs...in the end I just had to kiss that debt goodbye cos he was starting to take over my life again and I got sick of my place getting trashed and threats being made towards me...
THEY DON'T CHANGE!
Forget the money... He will just use you as long as it suits him...

**ajturbo** · 21st September 2006, 07:50

Originally Posted by buellbabe

DON'T DO IT!
Cut yr losses and FORGET him!

I stayed 'friends' with my EX cos he owed me $15Gs...in the end I just had to kiss that debt goodbye cos he was starting to take over my life again and I got sick of my place getting trashed and threats being made towards me...
THEY DON'T CHANGE!
Forget the money... He will just use you as long as it suits him...

i have to agree here... forget the money. if he has any moral standing, he will pay it.
if he doesn't pay, YOU CAN LOOK HIM IN THE EYE... and know that he CANNOT...

hang in there matey

**chanceyy** · 21st September 2006, 07:50

Originally Posted by FROSTY

Ok as a HUGE favour to the single ladies on here I will loan out one of my rugrats
This will serve double duty First of all youll be so frigging busy chasing after him and cleaning up his mess you wont have time for a life.
second it will put you off kids or the thought of ever procreating so you wont go out looking for a partner.
Ohh and youll never be cooking for just one
As a side effect itll help this poor ol solo dad a bit of a break

LOL thanks for your generous offer Frosty ... I am one of the woman who do not feel the need to procreate. If the right man came along, & its what we both wanted then fine .. but to have kids for the sake of having a part of you running round .. no thats not a reason to have kids

& My bro has 4 kids who are fantastic, & aunty chanceyy darlinggggggggggg
(yes they call me that .. & they will be 50 & still calling me that hehehehehehehe) loves them back & now they are getting older I can talk to them via PC & phone .. its great ..

I love kids .. but still will not have them for the sake of having them

**chanceyy** · 21st September 2006, 07:58

Originally Posted by buellbabe

DON'T DO IT!
Cut yr losses and FORGET him!

I stayed 'friends' with my EX cos he owed me $15Gs...in the end I just had to kiss that debt goodbye cos he was starting to take over my life again and I got sick of my place getting trashed and threats being made towards me...
THEY DON'T CHANGE!
Forget the money... He will just use you as long as it suits him...

Originally Posted by ajturbo

i have to agree here... forget the money. if he has any moral standing, he will pay it.
if he doesn't pay, YOU CAN LOOK HIM IN THE EYE... and know that he CANNOT...

hang in there matey

Yeah thanks guys

it is a bit more complicated (as marriage bust ups usually are) .. but there is no threat from him & I am a pretty strong individual (thank god)

In a lot of respects I am lucky as I have fab freinds & her hubby tells me what his next move will be .. & he is batting 100% so far ..

So essentially the head games crap does not work cause I am mentally prepared for the next round, & then I am not responding like he thinks I will, gotta admit when it first started I was confused as hell .. not any more .. all I know is most men are a strange breed

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