Definition of cheating?

**yungatart** · 10th November 2006, 13:03

PF, it is not MY (or anyone elses) definition of cheating that counts - it is YOURS.
Personally, for me, it is anything that I would not be comfortable doing in front of my man.
Only those in the relationship can decide when the line has been crossed, and what to do about it, if anything.

**Mrs Busa Pete** · 10th November 2006, 13:05

Originally Posted by RantyDave

Anything you lie (or not tell) about.

Whether the converse is true is a matter of personal choice, I suspect. Edit: If you think you've been cheated on then almost by definition you have.

Dave

I agree with this.i knew with my first husband and i don't no why i just felt it every time he was around. And when i asked him he went into denial mod then i got the phone call from his bit of fluff

a relationship to me is being exclusive to each other and weather that be holding hands kissing or having sex or what ever. And as far as i'm concerned if you are doing any of that with someone else then you are cheating.
my motto is do to others as you would want done to yourself. I wish you luck in your decision and will be thinking of you. This is not a nice possion to be in.
GOOD LUCK

**98tls** · 10th November 2006, 13:07

ASper the posts on forgiveness....in my opinion forget it....having done it (cheated) many moons ago and then been forgiven so to speak it just doesnt work..in a good relationship the two involved should be equal...once you do the deed thats it..trust is gone...anytime the other pisses you off and you bring it up you are reminded of your previous indiscresation...every time your late home...every time you say you will ring and dont....it just doesnt go away..ever...if you have been cheated on you are best to walk away..straight away...very easy to say i forgive you on the spur of the moment when all that emotional craps going on...looking back on my bad deed i remember saying shit like i will never do it again blah blah blah...its bullshit but at the time you think you really mean it but no...looking back the thing that bothers me most is who did i think i was far@k%n someones life up like that....most selfish thing ive ever done....move on..plenty of fish in the sea as they say

**Mrs Busa Pete** · 10th November 2006, 13:09

Originally Posted by yungatart

PF, it is not MY (or anyone elses) definition of cheating that counts - it is YOURS.
Personally, for me, it is anything that I would not be comfortable doing in front of my man.
Only those in the relationship can decide when the line has been crossed, and what to do about it, if anything.

To true wise old lady

**The_Dover** · 10th November 2006, 13:11

Originally Posted by 98tls

ASper the posts on forgiveness....in my opinion forget it....having done it (cheated) many moons ago and then been forgiven so to speak it just doesnt work..in a good relationship the two involved should be equal...once you do the deed thats it..trust is gone...anytime the other pisses you off and you bring it up you are reminded of your previous indiscresation...every time your late home...every time you say you will ring and dont....it just doesnt go away..ever...if you have been cheated on you are best to walk away..straight away...very easy to say i forgive you on the spur of the moment when all that emotional craps going on...looking back on my bad deed i remember saying shit like i will never do it again blah blah blah...its bullshit but at the time you think you really mean it but no...looking back the thing that bothers me most is who did i think i was far@k%n someones life up like that....most selfish thing ive ever done....move on..plenty of fish in the sea as they say

you mean you're not allowed more than one sheep in oamaru??

**yungatart** · 10th November 2006, 13:13

Originally Posted by busa pete

To true wise old lady

Who you callin' old????? I'm young (at heart)
Cheeky wench, and after I cooked ya blardy eggs an all. Cheek!

**Mrs Busa Pete** · 10th November 2006, 13:16

Originally Posted by yungatart

Who you callin' old????? I'm young (at heart)
Cheeky wench, and after I cooked ya blardy eggs an all. Cheek!

Was waiting for that.
Bloody nice eggs as well we will have to come back for some more.

**sels1** · 10th November 2006, 13:17

Originally Posted by yungatart

I'm young (at heart)

aha....and here was me thinking it was yunga tart, lol, glad thats been explained....

**jetboy** · 10th November 2006, 13:17

Originally Posted by The_Dover

you mean you're not allowed more than one sheep in oamaru??

sorry mate - best let one of them go

**98tls** · 10th November 2006, 13:17

Originally Posted by The_Dover

you mean you're not allowed more than one sheep in oamaru??

Wipe your mouth theres still a bit of bullshit on it......

**The_Dover** · 10th November 2006, 13:18

Originally Posted by 98tls

Wipe your mouth theres still a bit of bullshit on it......

no, that's peanut butter

**SixPackBack** · 10th November 2006, 13:26

Cheating?...hell thats easy, getting caught up to your nuts in guts on the power stroke. [otherwise its foreplay!!]

**Harry33** · 10th November 2006, 13:59

Isit cheating if you use your left arm instead of the right?

**KATWYN** · 10th November 2006, 14:39

Originally Posted by McJim

And here was me going to go on about:

Holding a set of aces in your cuff.

Lead weights in dice.

Paying a boxer to lie down in Round 4.

answers written in ya hand and up your arms and legs in an exam....lol

Damn it Placid. If someone has been cheated on in any way shape or form, I reakon defined
by the innocent party feeling betrayed....then I am unsure about this whole trust can
be rebuilt thing - the relationship takes on a whole new dynamic after that - one I
know I sure as heck wouldn't waste my time living in.