How do I relax around my twat (motorcyclist) boss?

[LardEmbargo]

It makes me SO ANGRY! I get all trembly with rage because I hate being lectured and told what to do all the time by someone who knows less than me. I am on the verge of quitting.

Dood. Honestly. Stop It. You don't need a job that makes you feel that way. Life's too short. Even for 6 months. I mean, as long as you're not just all aggrieved cos you keep getting lectured for slacking off (doesn't sound like it, but then I've known useless junior people before who were absolutely convinced their piss-poor performance was all their boss's fault. The working day consisting of a 2hr lunch, 2hrs reading the paper, 10 lots of 10 minute ciggie breaks and 2hrs surfing dating sites had nothing to do with it :) ).

So if you're doing your best at work - you don't reckon there's any way you deserve to be treated like you're stupid - and if it's a job you like apart from Mr Twat (and it sounds like you've stuck at it so far, and are trying to make things work so you can keep sticking at it) then you really need to change something. I think you've had some fair suggestions so far anyway

1) Ignore it. Grit your teeth and stick it out for the remaining 6 months.

2) Try and fix things up. If it's worth trying to sort things out then give it a go. Have a chat with him next time he tries talking to you like an idiot and explain how you've got no problem with constructive criticism but you don't think the way he directs you is all that helpful - you'd much prefer it if maybe he just told you what he wanted doing and then left you to it. If there's a problem with the quality of your work (like, how clean the floor was after you've vacuumed it) then sure, you want to know, but maybe you're old enough to look after the finer points of the actual vacuuming yourself now :)

3) Quit. Go and find something else to do. Sometimes things just aren't meant to be. If you've honestly tried to sort it out (or if it's honestly not worth the trouble) then walk away.

4) Bludgeon the fscker about the head and upper body with a Clue-By-Four and have some tragic nautical accident befall him.


Important Note: doing (1) only works if you can genuinely really completely ignore the things he does that wind you up. The point of changing things is to stop you getting wound up - if you find he's still winding you up then (1) isn't working and you need to try (2) or (3).

Or (4).

Or something else.


LardEmbargo - dispensing potentially unsound employment relations advice since 2006

[Steam]

LardEmbargo - dispensing potentially unsound employment relations advice since 2006

Thanks Mr Lard, you speak true.
On other matters, six posts from you so far and you're still speaking rationally. Kiwibiker will be beating that rationality from you within your next 100 posts I wager!
This place is contagious in its madness! Welcome to the site.

EDIT: HOLY CRAP is that YOUR Tesla Coil??? Awesome! What did you build it for? How many volts? More pictures please!

EDIT#2: 500 posts, happy half millenium to me! (note to self, spend less time on internet, more time on bike.)

[smokeyging]

Good workmates are hard to find. sounds like a personality clash. sack your boss, theres plenty of work out there, bush telegraph is an amazing thing

[LardEmbargo]

On other matters, six posts from you so far and you're still speaking rationally.

ah shit was I doing it again? no worries, bit more time I'm sure I'll get the hang of spouting more in the way of bollocks and fit right in :)

HOLY CRAP is that YOUR Tesla Coil???

yes :) it lives in The Subterranean Tesla Laboratory. along with a whole heap of my other junk

What did you build it for?

erm... For? I'm not sure I understand the question :) You mean, like, was there a reason? I just wanted to build one cos a) I thought it looked like a cool thing to make, b) I like making things, c) I didn't know anyone else who'd made one, and d) it makes lightning - why would anyone need another reason :)

It's not actually useful or anything.

How many volts?

maybe about 150kV? bit more? just a guess really, you can't go by the spark length unless you arrange for it to only fire once and then stop, otherwise the next spark just travels along the old one and stretches it out some more.

More pictures please!

there's some stuff at http://hot-streamer.com/drilling/dccoil.html and a couple more photos at http://hot-streamer.com/drilling/dcsparks.html

I was thinking of firing it up for New Years but maybe I won't go plugging it all in in the rain! Have a good one anyway :)

[oldrider]

Try reading your own posts as a stranger and then ask your self, who has the most credibility here, you or the skipper?

I am sorry but you sound like a twat so you are on a hiding to nothing without a strong evidential case.

Now I have spent enough time at sea to know that you are probably right and I have seen enough Skippers that really need medical attention or at least psychiatric help. (it goes with the territory)

You will have to either change your attitude and approach if you want to change the situation because the initial credibility will be with him unless there are a lot of other crew members who are effected the same way too.

Even then the odds are stacked against you so be bloody careful.

Failing that it is a change of ship or a change of job for you. Good luck, John.

PS: I PM'd you about the tractor seat but you didn't reply! I guess you don't really want one then!

[Toaster]

I'd put wasabi in his undies (undies undies TOGS!!)..... and deep heat in his sammies.

[Steam]

Thanks everyone for your sensible suggestions. Wasabi is the best strategy I think.
Now, as I'm slightly afraid he'll pick this time to see what I've been raving about when I talk about Kiwibiker,
can you please not add any more to this thread,
and thus allow it to sink into the obscurity of the archives, never to be seen again except in three thousand years, when a cyber archeologist may be trawling fossilised netspace for clues as to what life was like in 2007.
Oldrider, I'll PM you about the seat tonight. Thanks again all!