Opinions on this situation greatly appreciated....
Firstly:
THE BACKGROUND:
One Saturday evening about three months ago, Stify's brother and my best friend were at our house for a BBQ and drinks.
As the night went by they became quite interested in each other and subsequently slept in the same room, in the same bed that evening.
Stify and I both thought the situation was (to quote Stify) "Icky", but being good sorts and all, chose not to pass any comment at all, I mean they are both over 35.
A relationship started and within about 6 weeks there were differences that were causing friction between them and they decided to cool it off.
Then within two weeks of that, they had decided they could both compromise on their own differences, and in a radical move, thought they should move in together.
To make a long drawn out load of bollocks shorter, the inevitable happened within about three weeks and it was all over.
She was a "Nut sack, bad drunk, who takes her previous bad relationship experiences out on me and needs to get her issues and head sorted" and he was "Totally oblivious idiot who doesn't know how to allow other people to have their opinion, and who needs anger management classes"
THE PROBLEM
They chose to cohabitate for two weeks while each waited for their new place to live to become available. This did not go very well.
One evening after a "discussion", she took her frustration out on him by hitting him (girly style) 20 odd times, he stood and took it and then walked away and hit a wall in frustration.
Not long after this another "discussion" took place. He is adament that she was going for the wine bottle so he took evasive action and pushed her away. She kept coming back (adament she wasn't going for the bottle) he pushed her away the forth time and she tripped on the mat and donked her ankle on the coffee table causing swelling etc.
At this point she decided to call the police. They recommended Male assault female. She laid the charges. She tresspassed him from the rental property (with all of his belongings in the house and nowhere to move to).
I spoke with her in depth about the charge and why she won't drop the charge is because she wants to make his life uncomfortable as she says he did hers (the ankle) and because he will have to do an anger management course (which she believes he needs, so he can learn that he can't push people around).
OUR PROBLEM
Do we either:
Try to reason with her and get her to drop the charge and deal with this situation like an adult, y'know, like take responsibilty for her actions which play a half share in the event which led to the events. Then they can just build a bridge and get on with their lives...
OR
Tell her that if he is charged and/or whatever else, that she is no longer welcome in our home and our friendship is over.
Any/all thoughts genuinely appreciated.
GG & Stify
Originally Posted by girlygirl
)... Its not just a guy thing... I know of many cases (and one was a personal friend, who use to get hit on the head with the frying pan and he did nothing as head would have been seen him beating her when in reality it was the other way round.) where the female abuses the male and male does nothing due to fact if he does it hurts his pride or hes no man enough... 
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