When relationships go wrong - what should we do?

**Lou Girardin** · 11th January 2007, 05:52

Run Forrest, run like the wind.

**elle-f** · 11th January 2007, 07:01

Originally Posted by The_Dover

Fuck all you macho, romantic CHAUVANIST pricks. I don't agree with violence against anyone (except maybe gaylander and desperate dan, possible gaymeboy) ....

bloody HELL LMFAO!

**_Gina_** · 11th January 2007, 07:07

Cause I left out that the Police (in conjunction with her) did drop the charge from Male Assault Female to Assault.

What I haven't mentioned which does have some bearing on the situation is that her background, in terms of relationships, is not good. She has been a victim in one way shape or form in every relationship that she has ever been in. Basically she views herself as a victim and to be honest a couple of the relationships she has been in the position to have charged the person for Male Assault Female many times over, but never did!

He has never been in this type of situation in a relationship before.

It does appear that she is manifesting her inaction/s in past relationships to Stify's brother and this situation.

We have seen on many ocassions how things progress between them and it is clear that they are both as bad as each other in their relationship, but in different ways.

A criminal conviction just doesn't seem right for the situation.

**Squeak the Rat** · 11th January 2007, 07:17

Sounds like she's fucked in the head and any guy that deals with her will be given a reason to lose his rag. She will nag, hit, threaten, manipulate until her beliefs that men are shit and that her relationships always end in tears are affirmed.

I've met a few women like this in my time, some friends, all of who I've decided it's safer to say to walk away. If you confront them they will once again be the victim and then you'll be on the receiving end of some manipulative revenge.

My choice: tell her the friendship is over because of what she's done. She can choose to continue or not.

I feel for the poor bastard.

**Ghost Lemur** · 11th January 2007, 07:30

No offence girlygirl but I blame you for this situation. You knew what she was like, and yet you stood by and did nothing as he got involved with her. Of course when she discovered that he wasn't the type she goes for (scumbag) she was going to push him and push him in order to try and turn him into one. She's succeeded enough to make herself feel like a victim (obviously what she wants) and potential fuck up his life.

Best thing you can do is get rid of her. If you can do it in such a way that minimises the damage to him more the better, you owe him at least that.

**Lias** · 11th January 2007, 08:06

See attached..

**imdying** · 11th January 2007, 08:08

Your mate is going down, that's the way of these things.

If he's going to do the time, he might as well do the crime. Tie that bitch face down to a bed, bit the pillow styles, and rape her arse every 45 minutes till someone notices she's gone.

She won't be making any more spurious claims after that.

**Hitcher** · 11th January 2007, 08:10

Don't get involved in this sad, sorry and sordid mess. It's a bad reality television script. Jerry, Jerry, Jerry!

**ManDownUnder** · 11th January 2007, 08:16

Originally Posted by girlygirl

About what part of it? She assaulted him the previous weekend....should he counter charge her?

In short I think the answer to this is that the truth be told. It seems to me no-ones mentioning that wee issue of her hitting him and going for a weapon.

Don't take sides, but offer up the truth. He's fine to charge her with the full knowledge that you're there with corroborating testimony that will back up a common assault charge against her, and quite possibly get him off the hook (from previous actions... i.e. him taking out his rage on a wall.. and not her... those are the actions of someone not so far out of control)

My sinlge most important pieces of advice.
Don't take sides - and tell them you are not going to
Tell the truth (it's actually part of the don't take sides thing if you think about it)

You can remain friends afterwards. Be there for her help her get the help she needs, but right now they have this mess to sort.

Violence is never acceptable, Male on Female or vice versa. Lying to cover up violence makes the liar party to it. Don't do it.

**Colapop** · 11th January 2007, 08:18

If she is that good a friend then you should be able to show what you've written and let her make uo her mind. Unfortunately she wants him to "feel the way she felt" and she doean't want to feel good about things so I can't any good coming from this. Tell her that you value your friendship with her but that you can't take sides.

**The_Dover** · 11th January 2007, 08:23

Originally Posted by Colapop

If she is that good a friend then you should be able to show what you've written and let her make uo her mind. Unfortunately she wants him to "feel the way she felt" and she doean't want to feel good about things so I can't any good coming from this. Tell her that you value your friendship with her but that you can't take sides.

Show her what I've written too and tell her she needs a good hiding.