The couple that spends together stays together? Or Not?

[toads]

Best thing is to let your wife take care of the finances. It's all terribly dreary anyway, and the hours spent balancing the cheque book could be better spent riding. Women actually enjoy writing out cheques and filing away bills with a little "PAID" stamp neatly in the corner. As well, it gives them the illusion of power. But actual decisions about what to spend the money on are another matter. It would be unfair to burden the female brain (subject as it is to illogical and emotional impulses) with the responsibility for choosing between a new bathroom and a new bike...

hello, this is the 21st centuary, we mere females can even appreciate the rugby these days burdening our female brains be blowed, it's you and your lack of desire to think at all that's the problem. Of course the bike is more important than a bathroom rennovation

[toads]

Sometimes you just never get it right tho' I was married for 14 years and spent most of that time self-employed ..... she worked in the business too and ran the accounts.... when it came time for us to start a family she was in charge and that was fun .... I just did what I was told and enjoyed the ride ... then 4 kids and 14 years later she changed her mind and took her blackbelt in shopping and the rest of our money and fucked off to the UK to live ..... one minute here going to Welly for a weekend with her girlfriends the next ringing from Heathrow to say "you're on your own mate " ....
I never stopped her spending or having what she wanted ... I even gave up bikes for that time ... to be a responsible father & husband .... So I don't think that there is a right way .... and yes I am a cynic but I'm gonna go out fighting, this time no matter what, I am making sure that what I want to do gets some consideration and at least my kids are keen to see me have some fun .... So I'm off chasing WT in that pre '89 class if I can ... got heaps to learn and even more to do but it's something that has to be done .... Now all I have to do is get myself a job that lets me have the school hols off and only needs me to work school hours .....

you have every right to feel twitter and bisted matey, sorry you have been dealt such a rough blow, not all females are like that though

[LB]

I still introduce her as my "first Wife"...just in case..


F/F

I introduce Hamish as "the current husband" - just to keep him on his toes

[Firefight]

I introduce Hamish as "the current husband" - just to keep him on his toes

well it seems to work

F/F

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you have every right to feel twitter and bisted matey, sorry you have been dealt such a rough blow, not all females are like that though

Of course not toads. Only ex-wives.

[Lou Girardin]

Best thing is to let your wife take care of the finances. It's all terribly dreary anyway, and the hours spent balancing the cheque book could be better spent riding. Women actually enjoy writing out cheques and filing away bills with a little "PAID" stamp neatly in the corner. As well, it gives them the illusion of power. But actual decisions about what to spend the money on are another matter. It would be unfair to burden the female brain (subject as it is to illogical and emotional impulses) with the responsibility for choosing between a new bathroom and a new bike...

Ahh, the benefits of being married to an accountant. I know exactly how much I can't spend at any given moment.

As for the female brain; in As Good As It Gets, Jack Nicholsen is asked how he knows so well how women think. He said, "I think of a man and take away reason and accountability".

[Coldkiwi]

wow. I thought i was the only one bloke who couldn't be arsed doing the bills! My wife loves doing it which suits me just fine. We have a set amount for personal spending each week but all joint stuff goes out of the main account. Works great

F5 Dave.. its not all bad having joint accounts after being a solo guy with a master-of-all spending attitude. I was having a bit of trouble keeping up with my bike payments and my over draft before getting married. Now that we've joined accounts, she's essentially helping me pay off my debt (which is now 'our debt') and i'm not stressed about it anymore! its great Having said that, although we're earning similar amounts, my career will end up netting us way more than hers so there's a mutual benefit to both of us.

Don't let money put you off marriage anyway. With the right person, money concerns won't be the driving force in your relationship and it simply won't be a major issue.