Depression...

[jonbuoy]

I don't get it, if you have two arms two legs a pulse live in a nice western country whats to be depressed about?

[yungatart]

I don't get it, if you have two arms two legs a pulse live in a nice western country whats to be depressed about?

It is not something that you can control. I am sure that everyone who suffers from depression would like to be able to get up in the morning and say today is going to be a great day - and have it happen. Unfortunately it does not work like that.

[jonbuoy]

I Spose I was making light of it -a shit day for some people is scrabbling around for something to eat and drink, or going for cancer treatment and some people feel like that every day for no particular reason.

[Busy]

To some a good day could be just a suicide thought without action, to another it might be being able to keep down a meal, or clean a cup. So many variations.

If a person is depressed for long enough their world crumbles around them, they have very few friends and social life could be that of a house cat (or carrot).
The internet has made life for depressed people way to easy. On here you can hide, no one can see you blush, hear you fart or judge you by your looks, your height (or lack of it), on here you can be anything you want to be, in a way we all start as equals and our personalities pave the outcome.
depressed people need to get away from the computer and interact with the real world, to be themselves so they can heal instead of making the internet their comfort zone where nothing can hurt them.

Depressed people need a kick BUT only when they are ready, once they can accept they are depressed taking baby steps can lead to recovery but it is often one step forward two back.

The best thing you can do for someone that is depressed - be there for them without the "I am here for you ..." speech, when they are ready, having someone there can be the diference between a smile and a frown.

When I went to the doc's I told him I was suffering from panic attacks, he told me I wasn't, but I'm street smart as have had that before (just before my apendix burst) so got second opinion.

[Kittyhawk]

Yes the internet has made a difference with people whom have depression.

Sometimes it's an outlet into the world where they cant face physicially. It is hard to get out and do social activities when you are feeling upset and low.

Yesterday bought a bike. For a non-depressed person, they would be happy and over the moon and wanting to ride it and enjoy time with it. I rode it once last night, and now want to put it away and not see it for a while. It didnt make me happy and I am very passionate about biking.
Cant work out why. I know I should be happy but Im not.

A struggle with the good things is hard. And socially it's harder.

You can keep busy with lots of things but at the end of the day you cant escape your mind no matter where you are it's always going to be there.

Its like a storm cloud hovering above you, waiting to strike with a lightening bolt at any time. No one knows when not even you.

[Busy]

Being sad takes no effect at all, being happy takes a lot.

The not wanting to ride the bike will be the drugs. The drugs kind of balance you out so the rollercoaster of emotions becomes more flat lined (stable) then they reconfigure themselves so as your emotions are clustered.

*I should of been a doctor, brain surgery anyone *

[avgas]

I Spose I was making light of it -a shit day for some people is scrabbling around for something to eat and drink, or going for cancer treatment and some people feel like that every day for no particular reason.

But it is situations like that make you feel alive.
I don't know about you - but i ride bikes just purely cos it doesnt feel false like driving a car.
Modern 1st world is more depressing then 3rd world as you have so much that you 'should' have or 'should' do.
How many people stress over money?

[jonbuoy]

Exactly, all those africans with sweet FA to their names all seem to be smiling about something - the ones that aren't actually starving that is. Makes you appreciate turning on the tap and seeing clean water spewing out thats for sure. Rich people always seem grumpier in comparison. Its the little things that we take for granted. Always gets me how you see those people on TV with hideous birth defects and disabilities, most of them seem to have pretty good attitudes. A few months on crutches and you never forget how nice it is to be able to run and walk.

[Kittyhawk]

I have come to my conclusion....Depression is like being a mental vegetable.

You cant do everyday stuff, without questioning things in your mind...

When you are happy theres a storm cloud brewing....

People who have never experienced depression will never understand...

If you are doing something you love doing and are happy you can snap at an instant and cry.

[Indiana_Jones]

How apporiate for this thread to pop up when I'm feeling like shit lol

-Indy

[Disco Dan]

Have a giggle INDY...

Kitty... just remember... "You are fantastic"

[Kittyhawk]

Thanks Disco. *hug*

Yup Indi, Im in one of those downer moods.

[Busy]

When you feel down you feel alone and abnormal, but remember you're never alone nor abnormal, just having a crap day.
Set yourself a little goal (like making a coffee or reading a page in the paper) and although you may not think it much your subconious will.

Guys are different to gals (in more ways than one) but it can be good to talk to someone, or even be with someone you can talk to but don't talk - confused?
It's like with your best friend, you go sit on the porch, say nothing but walk away feeling as if it was the best conversation you've ever had. Just having someone there that can listern or talk if needed can be a great help when your down, your mind can do the talking without you actually saying anything.

[jazbug5]

Kitty, if the internet is where you feel it most appropriate for you to seek help, you may find that there are better forums than this one.

This one, for example: www.uncommonforum.com.

Also, I suggest that you look at The Depression Learning Path ...if you really want to change things, it's a good place to start.

[Kittyhawk]

Kitty, if the internet is where you feel it most appropriate for you to seek help, you may find that there are better forums than this one.

This one, for example: www.uncommonforum.com.

Also, I suggest that you look at The Depression Learning Path ...if you really want to change things, it's a good place to start.

Thanks, I've had a look at the sites and once again its given everything another different angle to look at.

It's not so much as seeking help online, but just to see how others cope. I've got my own ways as well as getting help etc, I guess this thread is here really to discuss what it's all about. How others see depression and interact with others.

Those who have it see it so differently compared to those who dont. It's very interesting.