Kids and porn on internet...

[James Deuce]

Guess what? Too late!

There are a bunch of parental controls built into IE and Firefox. My kids can't go anywhere I don't let them and it is password controlled and they have their own limited profiles on a shared PC in a public space (the lounge).

Genie's out of the bottle now so you'll have to do the "speech" and discuss limits and start of by establishing a trust relationship with consequences if the trust is broken.

[Mom]

Yes the computer is in the lounge room and it is MY computer. The kids rarely use it especially when I am home.

Explain the dangers? Like read the fine print. A movie and coffee down and the rest of your paychecks for life?

You can have all the protection in place and he will still find a way if you make it a HUGE thing, he will probably still find a way......shit we have all been exposed to porn.........whether you like it or loath it makes no difference...talk to the lad, quietly and dont embarrass him!!!!!!!!!! You young fellas really hate that

If you are really concerned do what I did when mine would not get off the puter when i wanted them too.........password the thing so they cant use it!

They have to ask me if I will log them on......best of all the password for one logon is ......"askmom" go figure that.......LOL

[doc]

yeah. I think we will be chatting if his mother ever makes an apperance.

I have never been interested in porn to be honest. I haven't ever seen a porn movie but just kinda think it would be frustrating. A little liken to sitting on your bike with the keys in the igintion watching other people ride. That just me though.

Second opinion close your internet account and show him your stash of "PLAYBOYS"

[pixc]

I caught my 11 year old looking at unexceptable content. I talked to him about it. Told him that I knew what he had been looking at (he went bright red) we talked about why its there, and why its adult content, why i didnt like him looking at it, how serious i thought it was, the consequences of him going there again ( he will go cross-eyed and his testicles will grow the size of basktballs and everyone will know..jk) We are an open, very matter-of-factual family. A penis is a penis..not a willy or diddle.

PC in office is now off limits to the kids but still have access to the one in family room. ...I also had issues with the amazing disappearing wine and bourbon. But i think i narrowed that saga down to the 14 year old.

..and can someone tell me this. I believe I have a right to read my daughters (14 yo) txts when i feel like it ...much to her disgust and horror. Where is that line between being a concerned parent and invading privacy? How old before it becomes invasion of privacy?

[MSTRS:Me]

Oooh. That's a dilemna alright mate. I'd be talking with him in a fairly straight-up, non-punitive way. It's probably worth acknowledging his natural curiosity but letting him know what your family boundaries, and expectation are around porn. Think about what you want. If you have any ideas about what age he can start making his own decisions about this, let him know. If he has questions, let him know that you are willing to answer them for him (if you are). If you have reasons why you don't like him looking at porn, let him know. Chances are though that he will access porn somehow, but the least he can do is smarten up and not get caught.
Good luck.

Good advice. And add a password to Windows

[MSTRS:Me]

..and can someone tell me this. I believe I have a right to read my daughters txts when i feel like it...much to her disgust and horror. Where is that line between being a concerned parent and invading privacy? How old before it becomes invasion of privacy?

Who pays for the phone? If it's your daughter, then she probably has the right to privacy there.

[pixc]

Who pays for the phone? .

I do, I paid for the phone and she gets $20 credit a month.
All courtesy of the home of Valda-rama-vander-smurfin-housin

[mstriumph]

no point in mentioning it - you've raised him properly and he'll know what's acceptable and what's not without you belabouring the point
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but act immediately
parental control software
limited profile
password protect
(he'll know why without you saying - but if he does come over all innocent and ask, just smile and say 'security']
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yes, he will probably try and access it elsewhere sooner or later but that's pretty normal and there's a strong case for not making it easy for him to do what you'd prefer he didn't do [or didn't do just yet anyway]


as a child i was always permitted free access to whatever i wanted to read ... but the internet has given straightforward bawdiness a deeper, more sinister dimension - perhaps depicting stuff you'd not find in print and which could cause real harm if a curious 8 year old stumbles onto it unaware ........ i'd be erring on the side of caution at the moment.

[doc]

I caught my 11 year old looking at unexceptable content. I talked to him about it. Told him that I knew what he had been looking at (he went bright red) we talked about why its there, and why its adult content, why i didnt like him looking at it, how serious i thought it was, the consequences of him going there again ( he will go cross-eyed and his testicles will grow the size of basktballs and everyone will know..jk) We are an open, very matter-of-factual family. A penis is a penis..not a willy or diddle.

PC in office is now off limits to the kids but still have access to the one in family room. ...I also had issues with the amazing disappearing wine and bourbon. But i think i narrowed that saga down to the 14 year old.

..and can someone tell me this. I believe I have a right to read my daughters (14 yo) txts when i feel like it ...much to her disgust and horror. Where is that line between being a concerned parent and invading privacy? How old before it becomes invasion of privacy?

You have got it so wrong the 11 yr old is into the bourbon and mum is a pervert cos she want's to read teeny bopper txt's. I know this sitting here with large testicles and cross eyed vison you didn't mention deaf.

[cowboyz]

..and can someone tell me this. I believe I have a right to read my daughters (14 yo) txts when i feel like it ...much to her disgust and horror. Where is that line between being a concerned parent and invading privacy? How old before it becomes invasion of privacy?

the moment they get a job and move out.

[cowboyz]

had a chat to him.
I started by asking him if he was aware of my computer knowledge.
He said yes.
I asked him if he was aware that I could tell what he was doing on the internet.
He said no.
I asked him if he was worried.
He said yes.
I asked why.
He said cause he was looking up porn cause the kids at school were talking about it and he wanted to see what the deal was.
I asked if he found anything.
He said only disgusting womans bits and stuff.

I knew he was gay.

I

[bobsmith]

Ummmm teach your kid how to use the computer properly so you don't find out about it afterwards???

Hmmm... Like someone else said, if you don't want it to happen again try a program like net nanny or whatever there are lots of them around.

[Lissa]

I have had the experience of my little kids googling? (sp) "sticky tv" and bringing up some amazing shit online.....you can not be too careful....as kids get older they will go looking, shit we make a big enough fuss about it, they cant help looking, it is all about talking to them really......good luck for the people with younger than mine kids........

Ahhh well he has only just turned eight…. He uses google to look up dinosaurs mostly, haven’t caught him looking at anything else. I’m sure he’s going to pick up things from school at some stage, should prob have a little talk with him sooner rather than later.

[NighthawkNZ:Me]

Search engines are good, but can be bad... you can get porn on 99% of your searches will return porn somewhere in the listing... even the most innocent search

[cowboyz]

actually we went on to discuss repect for woman and respect for others in general. About what type of person he wants to be and what he is willing to do to get there. Interesting few years this will be.