Secrets of a happy marriage

[Storm]

All this wisdom !! And to think, some sections of the public think all bikers are hairy chested gorillas who never had a sensitive bone in thier body. Good to see the prejudices are all wrong !

[toads]

Well I can never understand it when people say marriage
is hard work. What the heck is so darn hard about it?

Being single is hard work I reakon. I was single for 5 years
There was absolutely no man in sight etc and THAT was a slog

What we mean by that I spose ( speaking for myself here) is not being guided by how you feel and doing what is morally right on occasions is uncomfortable and requires effort, it is impossible to feel "in love" with your partner all the time neither are your feelings/emotional state always a good guide, when hard times come a relationship must be able to endure without the warm fuzzies. Feelings are fickle and change, true love hangs in there waiting for better times. CSL says it right when she says both partners have to work at it though, no good just one person putting in the effort, compromising etc and the other just doing their own thing regardless

[toads]

All this wisdom !! And to think, some sections of the public think all bikers are hairy chested gorillas who never had a sensitive bone in thier body. Good to see the prejudices are all wrong !

oh we all have hairy chests storm don't ya worry about that, but only us cruiser/chopper riders are gorillas LOL

[bluninja]

oh we all have hairy chests storm don't ya worry about that, but only us cruiser/chopper riders are gorillas LOL

But gorillas don't have hairy chests!!! But they do have a hairy ass

[Mongoose]

But gorillas don't have hairy chests!!! But they do have a hairy ass

And so do ......... Ooops, nearly got sucked in to admitting something there

[toads]

But gorillas don't have hairy chests!!! But they do have a hairy ass

You know this because....?????? I won't live with a hairy ass mate mine or anyone elses!! I have some standards

[Skyryder]

Hard work is when you do not have the time to have all the fun. So it's pissing down with rain and you promised the kids a day out..........someone forgot to put the milk out or bring it home..........there's a little bit of sex in the air and the kids cancel there eveing out...........well that's the hard work etc

Skyryder

[toads]

Hard work is when you do not have the time to have all the fun. So it's pissing down with rain and you promised the kids a day out..........someone forgot to put the milk out or bring it home..........there's a little bit of sex in the air and the kids cancel there eveing out...........well that's the hard work etc

Skyryder

very very true

[bluninja]

You know this because....?????? I won't live with a hairy ass mate mine or anyone elses!! I have some standards

You'll just have to go to the zoo and check if they have a hairy ass...but here's the bare chest.

[Coldkiwi]

good point Blu... I have heard some good reports about the mars/venus books. The love tank idea is also discussed in the 5 love languages book and encourages couples to tell each other how full their tank is each night and then ask what they could do to top their partners tank up. And depending on their love language, it might be anything from doing laundry to some good extra lovin! Sounds odd I know... just read the book

[F5 Dave]

Come ‘ere baby I’ll top yer tank up!

Here’s a deposit, coming ready or not!!


(I'm hoping my girl never finds this site). She did find that book however & I had to hear all about it. . .

[toads]

You'll just have to go to the zoo and check if they have a hairy ass...but here's the bare chest.

that's a blonde gorilla, kind of different looking to the sort I was imagining, black and hairy, but you are quite right, bare chested, quite cute really, if you are into that sort of thing.

[Gixxer 4 ever]

The love tank idea is also discussed in the 5 love languages book and encourages couples to tell each other how full their tank is each night and then ask what they could do to top their partners tank up. And depending on their love language, it might be anything from doing laundry to some good extra lovin! Sounds odd I know... just read the book

You have got to be kidding.
Definition of men == Always full. Need to empty all the time
Definition of woman==Usually full, some times empty..who know. :spudwhat:
It is wise to always offer to fill their tank and even if they do not think they want it they usual do so we get the odd freebee with out having to go to all the trouble of dipping the tank to see how much is needs. Just let it over flow darling but on your side of the bed please. And remember we spend all day making this stuff just for you girls, so please appreciate it when we give it.
That is why we men are so stable. Always full ready to give Aren't we great. Guess that's why you girls love us so much.


[/QUOTE]And depending on their love language, it might be anything from doing laundry to some good extra lovin! Sounds odd I know... just read the book [/QUOTE]Very Scarry in fact

[Pwalo]

Not too sure about the secrets of a happy marriage, but I find that not speaking too soon is ALWAYS a good idea. Patience??

Or it could just be that I know that I'm probably in the wrong anyway.

Seriously though I do think it helps if you don't take everything your other half says too personally. Well only when it matters.

I've been married 23 years and I still don't have any idea why things have worked out, and to be honest I'm not sure that I really want to analyse too much.

Just my thoughts.

Cheers, Pwalo

[dhunt]

This thread reminds me of a book my mate has. Called something like everything a man can say to a women. And the book is full of 40+ BLANK pages. Looks very professionally written and everything, author claims to have worked with relationships for a long time.

David