Smacking kids?

[Quartermile]

Ok so here we go what is your opinion on smacking kids ??

Personally I don't see making it illegal making a huge difference as it will be hard to stop the ones whe get serious hidings, and some almost innocent average person is going to get slammed for a slight tap on the hand.

[FROSTY:Me]

My opinion--its the biggest crock of shit Ive ever heard. A Law change still isnt gonna stop the people that beat up their kids but will simply make normal parents criminals

[Lissa]

This is a hard one to answer honestly. I tend not to smack my kids... I use other punishments such as taking stuff away or time out. When they have been particularly naughty (and they can get very stubborn and temper tantrum etc etc) I have been known to throw their stuff in the rubbish bin.... well for my older children. My two year old, I dont tend to punish at all, as shes too young and such a sweetie.

But on the other hand... making it against the law I really honestly dont think that it is going to stop the people who 'punch, kick, hit, abuse' their children.... which is who they are trying to target.

Edit/ also kids can get alittle out of hand, esp in supermarkets or any where public, are you going to have silly old people ringing the police because some stressed out mum, smacks their child on the hand, I can see it happening.

[Her_C4]

My children are in their mid to late twenties and tend to get a bit stroppy if I slap them these days (what is THAT about?) ...wouldn't stop me if I felt they deserved it though....

delivered with love - of course

[Quartermile]

Yea all I see it as is a vote collector, we care soooooooooo much, when they know it won't make a difference to the incidents that mater like the Kahui twins!!!

[Lissa]

Also seeing as its going to be illegal (?)... if an older kid goes to school and tells their teacher "my mum or dad smacked me last night" does the teacher then have to tell the authorities? Have we got enough police to tend to all this?

[Quartermile]

does this mean I can get into a fight with my dad as I do and if I loose take him to court

Oh this is all going to go down the sh!tta, stupid NZ Govt, again

[Deano]

It won't stop "child abuse" will it - E.g. Kahui twins.

It will however make criminals of parents who spank their kids (like most of us were spanked without destroying us psyhcologically or emotionally ?), despite Sue's reassurances that Cops won't ever kow about that sort of thing...we know that a lot of the time the cops will prefer to charge someone and leave it up to the courts to decide..........

My opinion has changed somewhat after watching the 'nanny' programs with problem children - it seems that 'time out' and honest, up front communication seems to work....I could be wrong...will try it with my kid when he ? arrives.

Sue Bradford - she doesn't come across well though does she ? Wasn't she a dole bludger before becoming an MP ? Talks like Lynn of Tawa...LOL

I tell ya something though - if at teenage years my kid ever tries to strike me or the missus, they won't know what hit em. Might make sure thay realise this before that ever possibly arises.

[98tls]

SMACK...........he said smack for fucks sake..........what the hell has ever been wrong with smacking your kids arse..........i got smacked........what did it teach me..........dont do it again......simple......anyone that votes for this shit needs there head read............i simply cant believe that we have reached the point of this becoming an issue........abuse is abuse........for fucks sake when/how did the average kiwi lose the ability to tell the difference..........when will the spiral of do gooder lets fuck this country once and for all shit end.........................then again when our kids go bad we can always comfort ourselves with the fact that maybe they just have ADHd........or whatever the greenies call it.............bullshit

[Lissa]

My opinion has changed somewhat after watching the 'nanny' programs with problem children - it seems that 'time out' and honest, up front communication seems to work....I could be wrong...will try it with my kid when he ? arrives.

Some days... NOTHING seems to work. All I can say is, if you threaten them with some sort of punishment... carry through with it, or they might run rings around you.... (from personal experience)

[Brett]

Smacking for discipline and beatng the living shit out of a kid are two different things. I had my arse regularly smacked...when i was really bad a belt was used, and if I had not been disciplined so, I would have been a delinquent. Sometimes boys only understand pain, girls are slightly different, I dnt recall my sisters getting their backsides smacked much at all...my brother and I made up for that.

As has previously been stated, those that are abusing their kids and fmaily physically dont give any regard to the law as is, and making this new statute law is not going to change a thing, lets be honest, if you are caught smacking your child for discipline...what are they really going to do? I very much doubt it will really become a criminal offense...no more so than being overtly drunk in public. Therefore the bastards that hit their wife and kids will barely even think of the law, and naughty kids like i was will be given that little bit extra rope that we really didnt need, I mean any father of a few boys will testify that trying to get a kid, let alone a boy, to go to 'time out' (what a crock of crap) is really impossible.
Being sent to a corner or into a cupboard as such as a kid never made me regret or learn from my actions, it was more like a chance to get a bit of rest...getting a good old smack however, now there was something you avoided where possible, and if a known offence would incur such a bottom warming, then hell, we actually obeyed our parents once in a whle...

DOWN WITH THE ANTI-SMACKING BILL.

[Ghost_Bullet]

Fair call to try and stop people beating the shite out of there kids in an abusive mannor... though what the' is abussive these days, hell probably saying "You are a naughty boy/girl" is mucking with their heads.

I dont support the anti smacking thing, though dont support smacking where ya say would be leaving marks or bruises.
It's all about balance, talk, time out and physical force all in a fashin to obtain direction.
I was a factor of as a child. There were times when ya just dont listen, and the ole mans hand sorta made me sit back and think....

The politicians will sort it??

[shafty]

I didn't vote as I don't agree with the choices given in the poll as a reasonable choice = pity it nullifies the vote to some extent;

I would defy the Bill on the basis that I wouldn't want a child saying to me:

"You can't smack me...................hah nah na nah............."

[scracha]

I'd only smack them in self defence

[Quartermile]

I didn't vote as I don't agree with the choices given in the poll as a reasonable choice = pity it nullifies the vote to some extent;

I would defy the Bill on the basis that I wouldn't want a child saying to me:

"You can't smack me...................hah nah na nah............."

Sorry by wallop the little buggers I do mean, PC: [I agree with the option to use a small amout of force to help the child in question lean to distingish between doing an act correctly, right or incorrectly, wrong]

but im not really a serious person nor a Politicaly Correct person