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    Today's perspective

    Two Choices
    What would you do?....you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line,
    there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is:
    Would you have made the same choice?
    At a fundraising dinner for a school that serveslearning-disabled
    children, the father of one of the students
    delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After
    extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered aquestion:
    "When not
    interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with
    perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He
    cannot understand things as other children do.
    Where is the natural order of things in my son?"
    The audience was stilled by the query.
    The father continued. "I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically
    and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize
    true human nature presents itself, and itcomes in the way other people
    treat that child."
    Then he told the following story:
    Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew ere
    playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?"Shay's
    father knew that most of the boys would notwant someone like Shay on thei
    team, but te father also understood that if his son were allowed to play,
    it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to
    be accepted by others in spite ofhis handicaps.
    Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not
    expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy lookedaround for guidance and
    said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is inthe eighth inning. I
    guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth
    inning."
    Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a
    team shirt. His
    Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The
    boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the
    eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
    In the top of the ninth
    inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no
    hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on
    the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved tohim from the
    stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now,
    with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base
    and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.
    At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win
    the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit
    was all but impossible because Shay didn'teven know how to hold the bat
    properly, much less connect with the ball.
    However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the
    other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved
    in a few steps to lob the ball insoftly so Shay could at least make
    contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The
    pitcher again took a few steps forward totoss the ball softly towards
    Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung atthe ball and hit a slow ground
    ball right back to the pitcher.
    The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and
    could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have
    been out and that would have been the end of the game.
    Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head,
    out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams
    started yelling,
    "Shay, run to first! Run to first!"
    Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.
    He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.
    Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay
    awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the
    base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had
    the ball ... the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to
    be the hero for his team. He
    could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he
    understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the
    ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base
    deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
    All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay"
    Shay reached third base because the
    opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third
    base, and shouted, "Run to third! Shay, run to third!"
    As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were
    on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home! Run home!"
    Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who it
    the grand slam and won the game for his team.
    "That day", said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face,
    "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity
    into this world".
    Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never
    forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home
    and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
    May your day, be a Shay Day

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    A heart-warming post.

    However the bastard in me would probably have cheered Shay around for a second lap...
    "Standing on your mother's corpse you told me that you'd wait forever." [Bryan Adams: Summer of 69]

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hitcher View Post
    A heart-warming post.

    However the bastard in me would probably have cheered Shay around for a second lap...
    Nah that is not being a bastard mate...........

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    Now for a reality check.

    Jay is chromosomally challenged but is diligent and has a spectacular hobby that borders on obsession.

    Jay is a coffee connoisseur. Jay attends a barrista course where he surprises everyone, parents and family included, by topping both the written and practical exam. Jay can make practically any pattern you want on top of a coffee with milk froth.

    Jay and his parents believe that he now has a decent chance at an independent life, good barristas are difficult to find and with his exceptional skills finding a job should be no problem.

    Jay applies for 35 jobs. The interviews are terminated post haste as soon as a prospective employer sees him. Plausible excuses are given to make sure that anti-discrimination and employment law guidelines are met, but deep down, Jay and his parents know that he has been turned down because of a condition that isn't his fault.

    Just when things are looking pretty bleak for this A class barrista, a McDonald's McCafe Owner offers him work experience with a view to possible employment. Unfortunately the location of the McCafe isn't the best, but Jay's Mum is thrilled that he has an opportunity and and offers to travel to and from the site if they can work around her part time job.

    Jay makes 350 perfect coffees before lunch. He also makes $250 in tips, which McDonald's don't allow, but as he is not officially employed he is allowed to keep. He's made the weekly wage of the average McDonald's part time worker in one morning. He doesn't want to go home and is having a ball, so his mother who is supervising heads off to do some shopping and leaves him there to continue with his hobby. Remember this guy, Jay, has cracked something the rest of us mostly never manage. He's made his hobby his job, and he'll never work again.

    When Jay's mother gets back from shopping, Jay is wiping tables down and being berated by a duty manager for being "stupid". Words ensue, and Jay and his mother are asked to leave. Remember he was on work experience making coffee. That was the deal.

    My wife watched this unfold at the McDonald's McCafe, where there is a train, in utter horror.

    Shay's story, while jolly nice, is no more a reflection of Human Nature than George Bush's politics are a reflection of the "average" New Yorker. The default setting for Humans Being is to shun those who are different, to loathe and ridicule that which they don't understand.

    People suck. Never let your guard down. Protect those you love. Be careful who you trust.
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    I see where you are coming from, however Life is not perfect Jim2..........I prefer to look on the bright side of life and try not to look at the dark side.......life is to be enjoyed at every opportunity, not wasted on lifes bowls of cherries with pips lying everywhere....for every 1 bad thing there are always 2 good things or more..........

    Possibly the case you mentioned was about misunderstanding and feeling threatened and could have happened to anyone, challenged or not

    I was going to say you are a grump bugger but decided not too....oh too late I just did.....he he.

    Enjoy your day Sir.

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    It must be nice to be delusional. Being a parent of a person in the above category has been quite useful. You can use people's reactions to gauge whether or not they are decent people. 90% of people fail a face to face encounter.
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    These stories are very insipiring - reality is often less so I'm afraid.

    I'm not perfect, I don't behave predictably or even well some days - sometimes my condition loses me friends and I deal with that, I'm lucky that I can.

    Society is probably more tolerant than it has ever been but I'm afraid - thats still not very tolerant and in some cases still quite barbaric and to my knowledge no one has all the answers yet.....

    Good on you for trying, stories can change the world but it takes a pretty good one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jim2 View Post
    It must be nice to be delusional. Being a parent of a person in the above category has been quite useful. You can use people's reactions to gauge whether or not they are decent people. 90% of people fail a face to face encounter.
    Remember I am a parent of a special person too and I tend not to use that person to gauge other people.

    "Delusion is based on your vision"

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    I enjoyed the story, cheers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jim2 View Post
    It must be nice to be delusional. Being a parent of a person in the above category has been quite useful. You can use people's reactions to gauge whether or not they are decent people. 90% of people fail a face to face encounter.
    I'm not a mean spirited person, not in the slightest. But having limited interaction with special needs children it can be hard to know how to act. I know we shouldn't act any other way, but it isn't easy. I wouldn't point or stare etc, but I know it would be uncomfortable for me initially. I wouldn't want to react in a way that could scare or upset or insult the child, so I would be very self aware during any encounter and that may show itself to others as a different reaction, one the parents of the child may see as a negative.

    In my last job I managed a company of about 25 people, one who was a Downs Syndrome suffer. He is about 44yrs old and was employed as a yard detailer. I treated him no different to any other of the staff and he respected this. Others he would not listen to, but if I asked him to do anything he was at it straight away. I also had to pull him into line on the odd occassion, mostly to with money as he would 'leave' his money at home and ask other employees to buy his lunch (most knew of his ploy but some would still buy him lunch) and not pay the money back. He was easy to handle as he was a grown man, independent enough to make his way in the world with minimal support. But around children I just don't know how to conduct myself initially. Once I've spent some time with them it's easy. My main point is that while it is hard for the child and their family, it can be equally hard for people who want to interact but are not sure of how to.

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    Great story G.
    Sounds like it was an inspiring evening and one that hit a few reflective chords with you.

    I admire you for raising your daughter on your own and having to awaken everyday with your reality - which I hasten to add has probably evolved over time into a blessing for your both.

    I doubt many of us in more 'fortunate' circumstances could even cope...and I include myself.

    May many more stories like the above go your way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onearmedbandit View Post
    I'm not a mean spirited person, not in the slightest. But having limited interaction with special needs children it can be hard to know how to act. I know we shouldn't act any other way, but it isn't easy. I wouldn't point or stare etc, but I know it would be uncomfortable for me initially. I wouldn't want to react in a way that could scare or upset or insult the child, so I would be very self aware during any encounter and that may show itself to others as a different reaction, one the parents of the child may see as a negative.

    In my last job I managed a company of about 25 people, one who was a Downs Syndrome suffer. He is about 44yrs old and was employed as a yard detailer. I treated him no different to any other of the staff and he respected this. Others he would not listen to, but if I asked him to do anything he was at it straight away. I also had to pull him into line on the odd occassion, mostly to with money as he would 'leave' his money at home and ask other employees to buy his lunch (most knew of his ploy but some would still buy him lunch) and not pay the money back. He was easy to handle as he was a grown man, independent enough to make his way in the world with minimal support. But around children I just don't know how to conduct myself initially. Once I've spent some time with them it's easy. My main point is that while it is hard for the child and their family, it can be equally hard for people who want to interact but are not sure of how to.
    That is very true. People are often in a catch 22 situation and parents of disabled children are often still dealing with having a disabled child themselves so can be extra sensitive.....

    At first, I got some really dumb comments........"her legs move so why is she in a wheelchair"............"oh isn't she lucky have a neat wheelchair"....you can imagine.....I just ignore but the worst is "Oh I wish I had one of those".....I just respond "well try it for a week and let me know what it's like eh".....talk about tail between your leg....good thing about Devonport is that locals are used to Nats and really great..........we laugh about getting a roll cage, numbers down he side etc.......

    A lot of people think that a kid in a wheelchair also has a mental disability....

    It is quite amusing when I let Nats whizz around the park on her own and watch parents wondering where the parent is....I have a remote stop button.

    Nats is interesting in that outwardly she does not look disabled which throws some people.

    Thank you for your post mate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jim2 View Post
    90% of people fail a face to face encounter.
    i didn't know it was a test, how do ya pass?
    F M S

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    I enjoyed that thanks, and enjoyed the sad cunts trying to "put things in perspective". Lifes funny, sad, good and bad and I wouldnt have it any other way. It has its own perspective and you either see it, or make your own.

    Personally I was laughing my arse off at the though of a shitty smelling spastic have a fucking good laugh at kids letting him win
    "Speak in short, homely words of common usage"

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    Quote Originally Posted by BarBender View Post
    Great story G.
    Sounds like it was an inspiring evening and one that hit a few reflective chords with you.

    I admire you for raising your daughter on your own and having to awaken everyday with your reality - which I hasten to add has probably evolved over time into a blessing for your both.

    I doubt many of us in more 'fortunate' circumstances could even cope...and I include myself.

    May many more stories like the above go your way.
    I actually have equal shared custody but statistically, I am one of the few seperated Fathers who a) has not walked out and b) wants equal custody.

    Sounds like I am blowing my own trumpet, however, Fathers often get a bad name and I still face prejudice with the Dhb who have turned me in into an invisible Father despite going through the complaints process.....it is just they they are not used to dealing with a disabled child who has a Father sharing custody.............lucky for me NZ Law allows this......Mum was not happy and still is not but tough.

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