Urgent - Missing child (20 June)

**Reckless** · 21st June 2007, 21:34

Originally Posted by Conquiztador

Yep, there is not enough hugs these days. Should be on everyones "To Do Today" list.

Shit mate can you tell my missus. I try to make everyday a cuddle day

, but somehow she don't have the same "To Do Today" list we have.

**Lissa** · 21st June 2007, 21:34

So glad he came home sarge, awesome!!

I lost my two year old in the book shop today for about 2 minutes... scared the living daylights out of me, luckly she wasnt hard to spot with her Black and Red 'Super Girl' cape on... you must have been going out of your mind.

Its a start of a happy ending... thats all that matters.

**Pussy** · 21st June 2007, 21:47

Great news, Sarge. All the best to you and your family

**NUTBAR** · 21st June 2007, 22:00

Hey bud, glad to here he is home & safe, might be a good time for some father, son bonding.
take him some where for the weekend just you & him.
do something that you both can do.
it worked with me & my son when we had difficulty comunicating.
well its a good start anyway.

**McJim** · 21st June 2007, 22:05

Glad everything is better than it was 24 hours ago.

I won't offer you any advice - just best wishes.

All the best big fella.

**GOGAL** · 21st June 2007, 22:08

I have been reading this thread over the past couple of days, and I am soooo pleased to hear your son is home safe and sound, Sarge. Scary time for you both - hopefully it will become a real positive turning point in your relationship.

**NotaGoth** · 21st June 2007, 22:17

Originally Posted by oldrider

If he turns to CYFS or any other government service they will grab him and make sure you will lose him

I have to agree...

As a child I watched my older sister run completely off the rails... My parents did everything they could...

They even tried getting help...

Next thing you know they were trying to take all us kids away from my parents...

Even now I know for a fact that my parents not once did anything that would deserve for us to be taken off them..

All it was was one child taking the reins... A parent can only do so much.. Yet when they are at their wits end and try seeking help there is all this finger pointing, and families being destroyed...

This is something that SARGE and his son need to work through together...

For now Shelby is home.. Small baby steps as a father and son team... They'll get there.. No one else needs to be involved..

**Winston001** · 22nd June 2007, 16:43

Wonderful news Sarge, give the boy a chance to explain with dignity, he's struggling with growing up and has to make his own mistakes. Make him feel that home is the safest place for him to be, no matter what he does wrong.

**SARGE** · 22nd June 2007, 16:50

Originally Posted by Winston001

Wonderful news Sarge, give the boy a chance to explain with dignity, he's struggling with growing up and has to make his own mistakes. Make him feel that home is the safest place for him to be, no matter what he does wrong.

he has, i have, Looks like he is going back to the US to live with his mom though

I cant give him the happiness he deserves in NZ. I can only hope that she has changed her ways and her associates over the past 6 years

**MSTRS:Me** · 22nd June 2007, 17:03

That doesn't sound too flash. Frying pans and fires? Can you change his school? That is often very effective at breaking cycles/habits/associates....

**deanohit** · 22nd June 2007, 17:41

Originally Posted by SARGE

he has, i have, Looks like he is going back to the US to live with his mom though

I cant give him the happiness he deserves in NZ. I can only hope that she has changed her ways and her associates over the past 6 years

Theres still hope there mate.A friend of mine came back from canada in january after living with his mum there for a year.Didnt work out there with his mums new man.Found out while it is no easy ride here with his dad,it is easier than the alternative.

**raster** · 22nd June 2007, 19:45

Best wishes Sarge, glad he is back, hope it works out.

Prayers from us all!

**ynot slow** · 22nd June 2007, 22:42

Great to hear he came home.mind you after being named after the greatest car designer( carol Shelby)what did you expect.My wifes youngest son lives with his dad in the states,the dickhead(father)met a chick from nz via internet and wanted to take both her boys over.He got really pissed when she got her lawyer to place an embargo on getting passports for them.Went to court twice before he realised the eldest wanted to live with his mum,they agreed to let youngest go to states.Time may bring him closer to you and as stated you might laugh about it in years to come.

**howdamnhard** · 22nd June 2007, 22:56

Glad to hear your son is back,hope you two work it out.Blood is thicker than water.

**Winston001** · 22nd June 2007, 23:43

Originally Posted by SARGE

he has, i have, Looks like he is going back to the US to live with his mom though

I cant give him the happiness he deserves in NZ. I can only hope that she has changed her ways and her associates over the past 6 years

I'm sure you can give him happiness but he'll have to come to that realisation himself. He is old enough to make this choice even if it is a mistake. Give it time. I've seen plenty of children run off as teenagers to the irresponsible parent only to eventually come quietly home.

Good luck, and keep in regular touch with Shelby so he knows you are there for him. I'm sure you know that anyway.

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