NZ's privacy laws allow Children to keep information from parents. Social Workers and Doctors have no recourse but to follow the Child's wishes.
Good to hear that Shelby is OK.
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NZ's privacy laws allow Children to keep information from parents. Social Workers and Doctors have no recourse but to follow the Child's wishes.
Good to hear that Shelby is OK.
If a man is alone in the woods and there isn't a woke Hollywood around to call him racist, is he still white?
Buttered Chicken
Pleased to hear that he is safe.
Hibernating
real good news there Sarge .. now the hard bit begins ...
good luck to you both ..
Have toKarma ... Justice catches up eventually !!
LOOK.. ZOMBIES!
Shelby was just returned home an hour ago.. he arrived in tears and threw his arms around me
i wish to thank everyone for all the support and help that has been freely given,,
right now, i have some serious repair work to do with my son and my family in general.
i will see you when i see you
thank you everyone .. you rock
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Glad to hear your boy is safe and well.
I left home at 15 and never went back. My mum did her best (on her own) and it was a good home, I was just wild. I sure regret what I put her through, and now shes been gone for 10 years I have to live with the fact I was an arsehole during that period. Hopefully it has made me a better perant.
You may only need the simplist thing my friend, "TIME" with him. I did it by buying MX bikes, not flash ones either. But they give us time together, and with it comes patience, understanding and respect.
Fucking good news mate!!
On a Motorcycle you're penetrating distance, right along with the machine!! In a car you're just a spectator, the windshields like a TV!!
'Life's Journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out! Shouting, ' Holy sh!t... What a Ride!! '
The instructions are simple...
That is such good news. Shelby's 'attitude' shows he has thought long and hard about his part in this, and I'd say he is ready to do his part in repairing whatever damage has been done. That takes a measure of maturity on his part.Originally Posted by SARGE
I hope that the CYPS cretins will now back off and let you all get on with it.
Do you realise how many holes there could be if people would just take the time to take the dirt out of them?
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Enough evidence to show you aint all bad big guy and it aint all lost! Love heals all mate...
on the wagon
Wishing you all the best Sarge.
Kind Regards, Allan.
Just faidin away!
Why not?
He is going to have to take charge sometime in his life, why not now?
He obviously thinks he's ready!
All he needs now is your trust, love, guidance and support, as he makes his way.
Funny thing about being a parent; we work, scrimp and struggle to give them the best opportunities in life.
Then when they reach out and grab the ball, we are outraged that they are not doing what "we" tell them to do!
Forgive him for what you think are his transgressions and just start again going forward in life.
Congratulations SARGE, you have got a live one there, let him take the reins and watch him grow.
Every now and then he will turn and seek your approval and support as he makes his wobbly way forward!
The best thing you can do is, "be there for him" when he feels he needs you!
Best news I have heard here is that he is coming home, keep that door wide open for him.
If he turns to CYFS or any other government service they will grab him and make sure you will lose him.Cheers John.
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Excellent news Sarge, very happy for you.
Scooter boy
Great news Sarge, I bet that was one of the best hugs you have ever had!
Born to be mild
Well that's the best possible start. If you two just work on it together now you'll be fine.
I'll bet there's lots of KBers out there whose shoulders suddenly feel a whole lot lighter too.
Grow older but never grow up
Just faidin away!
Just like the nursery rhymes tell us;
Little Bo Peep (SARGE) has lost his sheep (Shelby)
and doesn't know where to find them!
Leave them alone,
and they will come home.
Wagging their tails behind them!
It's most important that little Bo be there when the sheep come back!
Love Live Ride
yay!!!!!!!! you and Shelby and Mum can all rest easy..absolutly fantastic.......""""hugs"""""
Stabiliser Squad
Great news, Sarge- and also some very sage advice from other parents here (thinking in particular of oldrider's input here).
Just to add my agreement to those who have cautioned you not to go in with the Big Boots on: it's bloody hard at that age to put up with adults, rules, school etc all of whom have opinions about you and your life and what you should be doing, just as you hit the maelstrom of hormones, anger, exams... gah. I mean, we all know this, right? Your mates become the only ones who don't have a list of demands ten feet long, and who let you have fun and hang out just being you- whoever the hell that is.
Running away becomes the only logical option, and the more you dread home the more you will put yourself in actual danger in order to stay away and not be lectured and screamed at- even if that is the place which is actually safest. It's almost as if it's pure instinctive survival- fight or flight. A basic impulse, and who is more impulsive than a human at this age? In more 'primitive' times this would have propelled us out of the nest to begin our adult lives, fending for ourselves. The world has changed, but I'm guessing our biology hasn't adapted quite yet.
I ran away when I was his age, and some of the situations I put myself in don't bear thinking about. One of my biggest fears, though, as it got more serious, was what would happen if the authorities got hold of me. I don't think that has changed at all: avoid like the plague. I don't know anyone who has gone through the system anywhere and emerged intact- most care homes I know of are excellent places to learn about thieving and drug taking. 'Abandon all hope' and all that.
Have you met any of the Somalian friends he's been hanging out with? Or their families? Is it worth considering whether it might help the situation in the longer term?
The world is my oxter
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