Would you be pissed off?

**Str8 Jacket** · 22nd June 2007, 20:52

If found out through the oldfriends website that your lil brother had gotten married a coupleof months ago and hadnt told or invited you, would YOU be a bit miffed?

**Steam** · 22nd June 2007, 20:54

Yep. Something SERIOUSLY wrong there.

**Nasty** · 22nd June 2007, 20:54

Totally ... but then again I was invited to my brothers girlfriends birthday and they got married then (the first wife) ... that also annoyed me a little

**janno** · 22nd June 2007, 21:02

Janno's rules for dealing with shite.

Rule number one. Just because they are your relative doesn't mean you have to like them.

Rule number two. You can love someone but not like them, or not like what they've just done.

Rule number three. Sometimes people have their own demons, and it's not about you at all, therefore, nothing you have done or not done.

But is your brother doing this a hurtful thing? Sure it is.

**Str8 Jacket** · 22nd June 2007, 21:04

Originally Posted by janno

Janno's rules for dealing with shite.

Rule number one. Just because they are your relative doesn't mean you have to like them.

Rule number two. You can love someone but not like them, or not like what they've just done.

Rule number three. Sometimes people have their own demons, and it's not about you at all, therefore, nothing you have done or not done.

But is your brother doing this a hurtful thing? Sure it is.

OR.... you could be the biggest bitch in the world and totally deserve what you get.

**janno** · 22nd June 2007, 21:06

Originally Posted by Str8 Jacket

OR.... you could be the biggest bitch in the world and totally deserve what you get.

You mean you did something you now regret? Then talk to the man! Or write a letter and then leave the ball in his court.

You may not get the happy ending you want, but you'll feel more respect for yourself if you front up and apologise, if this is what you need to do.

(Talking from personal experience here.)

**stag21** · 22nd June 2007, 21:09

Hey look on the bright side,it saved you buying a present .

**Str8 Jacket** · 22nd June 2007, 21:09

Originally Posted by janno

You mean you did something you now regret? Then talk to the man! Or write a letter and then leave the ball in his court.

You may not get the happy ending you want, but you'll feel more respect for yourself if you front up and apologise, if this is what you need to do.

(Talking from personal experience here.)

Umm what? I dont get what you're trying to say?!!

**janno** · 22nd June 2007, 21:26

Ah, the wonders of the weeb. So easy to miscontrue what the other is trying to say.

If you meant to say that I'm a big bitch and deserve everything I get - well, I don't think like that and don't behave like that either. Achieves nothing and gets you nowhere.

**Str8 Jacket** · 22nd June 2007, 21:30

Originally Posted by janno

If you meant to say that I'm a big bitch and deserve everything I get - well, I don't think like that and don't behave like that either. Achieves nothing and gets you nowhere.

For sure. But often lessons are learnt for a reason!

**Mental Trousers** · 22nd June 2007, 21:32

Wouldn't bother me. I'd be surprised but the only thing I'd be pissed off about is missing out on a feed and lots of drinks. But then, those are the 2 reasons why nobody would be told about the wedding. Ever checked out how much a wedding is?? You can buy a brand new bike for the price of one of those.

**Str8 Jacket** · 22nd June 2007, 21:34

Originally Posted by Mental-Trousers

Wouldn't bother me. I'd be surprised but the only thing I'd be pissed off about is missing out on a feed and lots of drinks. But then, those are the 2 reasons why nobody would be told about the wedding. Ever checked out how much a wedding is?? You can buy a brand new bike for the price of one of those.

What if you were the ONLY person from youre entire family to not just not be invited but not be told by others close to you months after the wedding when you spoke with them?

**Mental Trousers** · 22nd June 2007, 21:41

Originally Posted by Str8 Jacket

What if you were the ONLY person from youre entire family to not just not be invited but not be told by others close to you months after the wedding when you spoke with them?

You probably shouldn't have picked on him and tortured the little bugger when you were kids then eh.
I'd be pissed off at everyone else for not telling me. It's his wedding so it's his choice whether to invite you or not. No one else has an excuse. Did they think you weren't going to ever find out??

**Str8 Jacket** · 22nd June 2007, 21:45

Originally Posted by Mental-Trousers

You probably shouldn't have picked on him and tortured the little bugger when you were kids then eh.
I'd be pissed off at everyone else for not telling me. It's his wedding so it's his choice whether to invite you or not. No one else has an excuse. Did they think you weren't going to ever find out??

Thanks for post. What if you were always close with your bro (even if the family never really knew and would have hated it no matter what) and you just cant understand why he wouldnt tell you, even though he knows that he would never admit that he spoke with you to the family....

**Cibby** · 22nd June 2007, 21:49

hmm that is bad, I think you are not telling us the full full story as far as your history with your brother..

I think you should call him and ask, so hows things bro? been married lately?

smooth huh?

Seriously thou, talk to him, communication is the key,

i know it is hard to open up in this situation especially if you are feeling hurt, which you obviously are, but there could be a good reason for it in which case you can congratulate him adn get on with it, or there could also be a bad reason in which case, atleast you will know and can get on with it, either way.. good luck