A girly issue

**buellbabe** · 14th July 2007, 07:38

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Thanks again everyone! My dad is still stressing out majorily and told my grandparents yesterday (well i am assuming anyway) because I got a text from them (yes a text from my grandparents!) saying how precious I am to them!!

aw...thats so nice...

Glad to hear things are turning out ok

**Nasty** · 14th July 2007, 12:17

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Thanks again everyone! My dad is still stressing out majorily and told my grandparents yesterday (well i am assuming anyway) because I got a text from them (yes a text from my grandparents!) saying how precious I am to them!!

They 1ant you to draw strength from their love

**Curious_AJ** · 18th July 2007, 00:30

Originally Posted by Nasty

They 1ant you to draw strength from their love

thats sweet... would be really great to hear people say that to you, and tell you how precious you are to them...

**BuFfY** · 18th July 2007, 17:04

Originally Posted by Curious_AJ

thats sweet... would be really great to hear people say that to you, and tell you how precious you are to them...

Is kind of upsetting cause they only said it cause they thought I was going to die.

**janno** · 18th July 2007, 17:14

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Is kind of upsetting cause they only said it cause they thought I was going to die.

Or they said it because they suddenly realised they hadn't said it lately! Are you seriously thinking that when you get the all clear they are going to say - uh, just pretend we didn't say that because now that you're better we don't mean it at all . . .

Don't be silly! They either love you or they don't, nothing to do with if you are going to die or not.

**007XX** · 18th July 2007, 17:21

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Is kind of upsetting cause they only said it cause they thought I was going to die.

oh, sweet, don't say that...

Bear in mind that the older generation don't find it as easy to talk of their feelings and they must feel really bad about what you are going through, and they are obviously wanting to back you in your time of need...

For what it's worth, I think you're a lovely young person, and I haven't met you, so your own blood??...of course they love you...

Don't underestimate the generation gap in communication, they are obviously trying as best they can.

**Mom** · 18th July 2007, 17:26

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Is kind of upsetting cause they only said it cause they thought I was going to die.

Hey Buffy, they may be a bit like me mate. I have lost some very dear people to me over the years, and now I make a point of telling people how much I appreciate them and love them while they are still alive. It has nothing to do with them about to die at all. I cared for my best friend for many months in the end stages of her cancer, it was such a privilege to be able to spend that close, everything is important time with her. We said many things to each other which was wonderful! Sadly I have also lost friends in accidents, so now I make a point of letting people know how I feel about them when I can.

For somepeople it might take a little gentle reminder (an illness, or accident) to make you realise you need to say something. Hope that makes sense.

**BuFfY** · 18th July 2007, 17:27

Is a shame that terrible things have to happen for people to share their true feelings though don't ya think!

But yes, I do know they were just worried. They aren't technically my 'blood' as my dad was adopted but I do 'consider' them as my blood.

**Toaster** · 18th July 2007, 20:34

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Is kind of upsetting cause they only said it cause they thought I was going to die.

I know of one who said it, simply because you are precious to him.

**BuFfY** · 21st July 2007, 11:14

Yesterday I got a missed call from my doctor, but being a teacher I can't answer my phone in class. So he rang my mum (I put her as next of kin) and talked to her about my results.
Turns out things are bad. He wants me to have surgery (before he told me it was my decision and got me to book a colposcopy which kind of suggested to me he didn't see the point in surgery). he has booked me in at the hospital for wednesday. Like, this wednesday. Mum said to him that because I am on practicum I wont want to do it, and seen as I will have to have two days off it probably wont work for me at the moment.
He said I have to go in today (12.30) to talk to him so he can convince me to have it so soon.
I am so scared! I had kind of put it to the back of my mind and now... well! its back!!

will keep you updated

**scumdog** · 21st July 2007, 11:21

Originally Posted by BuFfY

Yesterday I got a missed call from my doctor, but being a teacher I can't answer my phone in class. So he rang my mum (I put her as next of kin) and talked to her about my results.
Turns out things are bad. He wants me to have surgery (before he told me it was my decision and got me to book a colposcopy which kind of suggested to me he didn't see the point in surgery). he has booked me in at the hospital for wednesday. Like, this wednesday. Mum said to him that because I am on practicum I wont want to do it, and seen as I will have to have two days off it probably wont work for me at the moment.
He said I have to go in today (12.30) to talk to him so he can convince me to have it so soon.
I am so scared! I had kind of put it to the back of my mind and now... well! its back!!

will keep you updated

Shoot! NOT what you wanted to hear I bet - but get in there and get it sorted, DON'T shilly-shally and 'put it off' -time is of the escence, it's YOUR life, you only have one so look after it.

And good luck!!

**crashe** · 21st July 2007, 11:55

Go and see your dr at 12.30 today.....

Dont worry about school/work....... the operation is important.....

Your life is important.

**klingon** · 21st July 2007, 12:57

Originally Posted by BuFfY

He said I have to go in today (12.30) to talk to him so he can convince me to have it so soon.

Buffy, I have two words for you: DO IT!

What's two days off in the scheme of things?! Your health is INFINITELY more important. You must have the op. And that's that. I won't put up with any arguing, young lady!

PS sending hugs and positive thoughts your way

**Edbear** · 21st July 2007, 13:04

Originally Posted by klingon

Buffy, I have two words for you: DO IT!

What's two days off in the scheme of things?! Your health is INFINITELY more important. You must have the op. And that's that. I won't put up with any arguing, young lady!

PS sending hugs and positive thoughts your way

Wot she said!