What to do if your girlfriend/wife/partner is upset

[Swoop]

He wants to fix stuff for me - but there are some things he just can't fix.

Now, as much as I love you Kiwi Blokes, you have to admit that a lot of you are USELESS at dealing with an upset woman.

You have read "the book" haven't you?

If you want something fixed, then tell your partner.

See below.

Their job in the cave...

Someone who has read the book!

Shame there aren't many mammoths in Mt Albert any more.

Are you sure? The "thing" coming out of the Postshop at 1.30 REALLY needed a good harpoon, or a few spears thrown at it. Where the fuck is greenpeace when you really need it?

[janno]

Ahh, bugger it.

I'm going to solve all my man problems and become a lesbian.

I'll just have to get one o'dem strapadiktome thingies . . .

[SPman]

Male Rule no.1: - if a woman is talking about a problem to you,- unless she specifically asks, don't try to "fix it up" - just shuddup and listen whilst making agreeing nodding motions of the head every now and then, whilst muttering words of consolation, encouragement or acknowledgement.
If somethings wrong, just ask, then say no more - just listen - they don't want you to fix it!

[scumdog]

Your advice was going well up to the "Ignore KB" bit!! (p/t!)

Seriously, the basic difference between the sexes and their thought process makes doing what you ask a fair chore for the average guy.

We DO try in our own clumsy way and at times succeed - but it takes untold concerted effort.

[janno]

You have described a woman, not a man.

Not quite, she hasn't. She's left out the "no speakies until you work out what is wrong" tactic, or the even more useful

Him "What's wrong?"
Her "NOTHING!!" followed by icy silence, glares intensifying if the male is stupid enough to think she meant what she said.

[Joni]

but it takes untold concerted effort.

Which is appreciated....

[Edbear]

For what it's worth you're giving advice that most men take 60 years to accumulate.

I must be a fast learner, it's only taken me 30...

[Skyryder]

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex.

It's not a pretty sight but it's a dead givaway to see where their 'real interest lies; your mental well being or the state of their dick. Hope it's the former but don't count on it.

As for you other lot making excuses about the difference of the sexes etc. that's complete and utter crap. The real problem is that you can not keep still long enough to listen. Try expanding your attention span.

Hope all well that ends well.

The sisters are with you.

[Edbear]

I've been going through some very difficult times recently (for example last week I was told that my father is terminally ill and probably only has a few weeks left to live).

Sorry to hear, klingon. Our thoughts are with you and your family. Been there twice, my Dad and my wife's Dad. My wife actually moved in with her Dad for 6 months and nursed him until he was admitted to a Hospice for the last 2 weeks when she was able to be just his daughter and let the professionals do the nursing. A very tough time!

[scumdog]

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex.

It's not a pretty sight but it's a dead givaway to see where their 'real interest lies; your mental well being or the state of their dick. Hope it's the former but don't count on it.

As for you other lot making excuses about the difference of the sexes etc. that's complete and utter crap. The real problem is that you can not keep still long enough to listen. Try expanding your attention span.

Hope all well that ends well.

The sisters are with you.

I was in the middle of reading the above then got distracted and now I'm horny (again) so back in ten.......

[MSTRS:Me]

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex.

It's not a pretty sight but it's a dead givaway to see where their 'real interest lies; your mental well being or the state of their dick. Hope it's the former but don't count on it.

As for you other lot making excuses about the difference of the sexes etc. that's complete and utter crap. The real problem is that you can not keep still long enough to listen. Try expanding your attention span.

Hope all well that ends well.

The sisters are with you.

Here is your broom.......now, be off with you!

[Devil]

If your girl/lady/kitchen dweller/killer whale/grizzly bear doesn't respect you enough to be upfront with you when she has a problem/is upset then she can deal with it herself. I realise certain things may take some prodding, but this is generally the exception rather than the rule.

Getting wound up because "he just doesn't get it" because of stupid hints and beating around the bush is just a waste of time and not fair on anyone.

Say what you mean.

[Pwalo]

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex.

It's not a pretty sight but it's a dead givaway to see where their 'real interest lies; your mental well being or the state of their dick. Hope it's the former but don't count on it.

As for you other lot making excuses about the difference of the sexes etc. that's complete and utter crap. The real problem is that you can not keep still long enough to listen. Try expanding your attention span.

Hope all well that ends well.

The sisters are with you.

Ahh the sisterhood. Get real, everyone is different. Men are different from women (oh yes we're all driven by our dicks), men are different from men, women from women, etc, etc.

I some how think that at the end of the day we all have to cope with things on our own. It's nice to share, but we all have to come to terms with events in our lives.

[ManDownUnder]

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex.

Let me rephrase.

The way to get a man's attention onto other women is to abuse this tactic (read "do it more than a couple of times") That's CREATING a lack of closeness, intimacy and the desired outcome...

Did you want the opposite?

Trust me - you need to do what serves you best in the long run... and turning off the tap AIN'T IT.

[avgas]

"Oh hunny that is terrible, here have a hug"
"You know what dear, you take all the time in the world - when your ready to open up, i'll be here"
"Would you like a cup of tea dearest?"
"Oh that dress is just devine"
"You need to stand up tall, and shout to the heavens, i am a women - let me pass"
Would you marry some GUY that said this? Gay men you are not allowed to answer!