What to do if your girlfriend/wife/partner is upset

**peasea** · 3rd July 2007, 21:51

Originally Posted by TempBJ

I'm with you....even if you dont own a suit...life is simpler than a LONG list of rules. Although perhaps I help this by not being with a needy tart. In the 15 years that I have shared with my wife I have pissed her off based on those very rules, but comforted her when its counted. Thats the fun of a relationship. Reading those rules just makes me sigh and want to run a mile....or have the afforementioned sex to take my mind of it.

Damn it, I almost went all serious then

Don't go all serious FFS, you'll ruin everything.

**Edbear** · 3rd July 2007, 21:53

Originally Posted by Mrs Kendog

, if not I show him my boobies.

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Works well for me....

Not that you show me yours,

but my Missus shows me.... Awww! "Hey sweety, you doin' anythin' right now...?:innocent:

**peasea** · 3rd July 2007, 21:55

Originally Posted by renegade master

yada yada yada somthing about feelings blah blah blah

Ohh look some beer.

SORTED!

Deep and meaningful (not to mention unfunny) as always. With your view being so brown and frothy I'm wondering if you're gay...........

Wondering over.

**Street Gerbil** · 3rd July 2007, 22:08

I am sorry, lady, but it just doesn't work this way. You can't teach men to act the way you describe any more than you can teach females that forcing a spark plug from a chainsaw into a lawnmower with a pair of pliers is generally a bad idea.

**peasea** · 3rd July 2007, 22:10

Originally Posted by Street Gerbil

I am sorry, lady, but it just doesn't work this way. You can't teach men to act the way you describe any more than you can teach females that forcing a spark plug from a chainsaw into a lawnmower with a pair of pliers is generally a bad idea.

But it's ok if the spark plug WANTS to change, right?

**Skyryder** · 3rd July 2007, 22:23

Originally Posted by ynot slow

Ladies seem to have no trouble talking over a coffee or wine about their problems,i.e health, emotions,family problems,it is easy for them to talk.Maybe it's the maternal side in them.

When was the last time a group of guys on a Thursday or Friday night,sat down at the local bar and discussed prostate problems,libido,or similar related problems,if they did the bar would empty,it isn't in our psych to be open about certain things.And top of that list is when the good lady may want a hug or a shoulder to cry on,we mortals can't see it.Mind you if she has got father problems with illness you would have to be a bloody nut not to offer your services which may be needed.Something out of whack if you can't work out why she's pissed off with you,especially if she's told you what's wrong with her parents,and then you ask her what's wrong?Are you upset?Time to get the knife out of your back as you turn and go back to the KB site on events you were reading just prior to her talking.

That's exxactly the point I was making. Some men need a wake up call. None of us expect a permanent change. God help us if that happened but there are times when men need to be aware of a womans needs and not many do. Good to see one here knows the score.

and green thing.

**rwh** · 3rd July 2007, 22:24

Hmm. I don't think I'm too bad at most of that stuff.

Pity I don't have anyone to practice on.

... now if the right person was to see those two and put them together ...

Richard

**scumdog** · 3rd July 2007, 23:47

Originally Posted by peasea

No offence BUT!!!!

If you have to work that hard at a relationship it can't be built on very solid ground IMHO.

My other half and I just get on with things, know when to shut up, know when to 'be there' and do everything together.

There is so little 'effort' involved in our relationship it's scary and (in the darkest corners of what passes for a brain in my skull) I keep thinking there's going to be a big, smelly foot come out of the sky one day and squash it all.

Too much analaysis can ruin things.
I'm enjoying life so much I think I'm going to puke.

Hell!

Your relationship with you 'other 'alf' sound almost identical to mine - out biggest problems arise when each of us can't figure out what we want to do.
"d'you want to?" "Hmmm, d'you want to?" "I dunno, do YOU want to?"
We seem to think alike so often it's scary

No stress, no effort involved, we just flow.

**Gremlin** · 4th July 2007, 00:06

Honestly... my perception is females love to talk about problems... just talk, it makes them feel better.

Your average male is a blunt guy... he talks about it to get to a solution. What other point is there? Its our nature, when there is a problem, to find a solution. No more problem, and life is happy again.

Now, I'll just find a female to test this all on...

**kerfufflez** · 4th July 2007, 02:11

Originally Posted by klingon

Step IV: Pay attention to her physical state

If she seems cold, offer to get her a blanket or a jacket

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Sorry to hear about your situation, and no offence is intended, but that one is ridiculous! Women are adults, dont act so feeble! If you're cold, do something about it yourself, i.e get your own jacket.

I've got mental images of shivering waifs whining in the corner, but 'nothing' is wrong. No wonder blokes bolt for the nearest exit.

**Holy Roller** · 4th July 2007, 03:27

Originally Posted by kerfufflez

Sorry to hear about your situation, and no offence is intended, but that one is ridiculous! Women are adults, dont act so feeble! If you're cold, do something about it yourself, i.e get your own jacket.

I've got mental images of shivering waifs whining in the corner, but 'nothing' is wrong. No wonder blokes bolt for the nearest exit.

Its showing one cares for the other.

**kro** · 4th July 2007, 06:43

I can appreciate you going through hard times, but deal with one issue at a time, your Dad is the main focus at the moment, and you can give your man "SNAG" lessons later, or you're just going to overload yourself.

Stay civil, and patient with the man, and let him at least try to do something to help. At least he is trying, you're getting more than a lot of less fortunate women do from some of the no hopers out there.

When the time comes, it will be beneficial to realise that not everything in the world has to be bent to the way women want it, make some changes of your own to bend your personality to his needs, and not have it all one sided to you.

That's just my 2C

Sorry to hear about your Dad. Dads rock, and this will be hard, hence my advice.

**Beemer** · 4th July 2007, 12:31

Sorry to hear about your dad, been there, done that.

I'm lucky because my husband is brilliant all-round. He may not be able to do anything practical to help when I am upset or facing a big problem, but he is always there for me and offers support in many ways. It may be a back rub, a bottle of wine, cooking dinner, doing the housework, or buying me a little treat - and he's always there to talk about things. I wouldn't swap him for the world. He's like that with his friends and family too, so we're all lucky to know him.

**Krusti** · 4th July 2007, 12:52

I don't think it is possible to expect the same from one person to the next.

Finding the right partner is very similar to buying a new bike, we need to find one that suits our own personal needs and what suits one won't suit the other.

From my experiance anyway.

**janno** · 4th July 2007, 12:57

Originally Posted by Beemer

Sorry to hear about your dad, been there, done that.

I'm lucky because my husband is brilliant all-round. He may not be able to do anything practical to help when I am upset or facing a big problem, but he is always there for me and offers support in many ways. It may be a back rub, a bottle of wine, cooking dinner, doing the housework, or buying me a little treat - and he's always there to talk about things. I wouldn't swap him for the world. He's like that with his friends and family too, so we're all lucky to know him.

Dammit, when are they going to get a move on with that human cloning . . . (I take it he's also great in the scratcher?

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