Re initial post: Some of us don't need training (we were perfect to start with!). Not common for a male I'll agree, but there are some of us blokes around who are able to talk about our feelings, and listen to yours... and actually want to know what they are. Communication is key to any relationship... some people just have different ways of communicating. Safe bet though: we have two ears and one mouth, use proportionally.![]()
Soapbox house of cards and glass, so don't go tossing your stones around.
You musta been.... high. You musta been...
Hmmm, sorry to hear of your recent woes but I can't help but feel you are generalising a tad too much.
This "women are great communicators, men are not" line is wearing a bit thin I reckon. Take each person on their merits and treat him/her as an individual with individual ways of dealing with confrontation/problems/trauma/crises etc.
If you would like your partner to react in a particular way to information you are imparting then tell him/her before you impart it.
Life is full of kicks in the guts, sometimes you can fight back, some times you just have to wear it. Expecting your partner to know each and every time which ones you choose to fight or let slide is living a fairytale. On the other hand if you communicate your intentions then they'll have a much greater chance of doing the right thing and a much greater chance of winning the battles you intend to fight.
Mack the knife, you put the knife in so eloquently it's beautiful. I think her comments enraged quite a few but I don't think I could add anything to that.
Anyways condolences. Not wanting to threadjack too much by changing the premiss, but I was lying awake thinking last night along the lines of "Wimin are queer blokes" One thing that amazes me is the over analysis of issues that guys would shrug off & forget. What someone says or does can upset to the core even if it is a misunderstanding & without malice. Women often seem to cling onto this to have something to be unhappy about. Whether it was a fight with a workmate or something their mother used to say to them as a kid.
Why hold onto this stuff? it only ends up making you unhappy![]()
Don't you look at my accountant.
He's the only one I've got.
If a man is alone in the woods and there isn't a woke Hollywood around to call him racist, is he still white?
He ignores me.. Til I throw a few things.. Have a cry.. And hopefully get over whatevers wrong...
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Really????
You do love to over-generalise don't you...
Being aware of the needs, does not equal being sufficiently equipped to offer the 'desired' response. Nor does it equate to caring if we do supply the desired response.
Men are different, and have different ways of dealing with stress, and anyone who does not recognise that is really not paying attention.
We do the best we can with what we have, and with what we have learned works to improve things. I have never, ever heard a man say, "I turn off the sex if I don't get the response I want", purely and simply because we know that is totally missing the point and likely to make matters worse.
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"If you can't laugh at yourself, you're just not paying attention!"
"There is no limit to dumb."
"Resolve to live with all your might while you do live, and as you shall wish you had done ten thousand years hence."
Sadly enough, this is a good point!
Confucious says:
"Man put in dog box will soon be found in cat house!"
I make sure my Hubby gets the best meals at home, so he never feels like takeaways and always comes home for dinner!
Sex should most definitely not be used as leverage in an argument.
How outrageous.... men offering solutions to problems...curse us, curse us and our irrational methods....
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