Shit, shit and more shit

**NotaGoth** · 14th July 2007, 18:31

Perfect way to explain my life.. "shit shit and more shit"

Anyone ever gone through that stage..???

The past 2 and a half years I've had nothing but a struggle.. One thing after another... It starts to wear a bit thin...

From losing a parent (something that I have never been able to get over) to smaller things.. It just doesn't end..

Is it that bad things happen to bad people???????????

If I'm such a bad person what should I do????? How do you figure out exactly what life is trying to tell you so you can fix the wrong??????

Everytime things seem to be looking up I seem to get yet another kick in the teeth...

Everyone and everything just love getting the boot in while I'm trying to get up again...

Its getting to the point my relationships failing.. I feel like nothing but a burden on my partner.... And I know deep down that he is to good for me, and far better off without me..

Anyone else here been through that stage of their life and can offer any advice it would be appreciated...

**BIGBOSSMAN** · 14th July 2007, 18:41

Hang in there girl, life isn't all about fairness - but things will get better for sure. 1 terrible divorce and 1 life threatening bike accident on, and things have never been better for me. You'll turn the corner soon enough, I promise ya...

**Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)** · 14th July 2007, 18:45

If it's any consolation I have had 11 years of that. Bad things happen to GOOD people. I so relate to your line of thinking. My self hatred was phenomenal. PM sent.

**Scorpygirl** · 14th July 2007, 18:52

Yeah Kittie, hang in there. At times life just seems to throw things at you to challenge you. As they say "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger." Just keep believing in yourself, even if it is hard at the moment. You are a lovely person!!!!

**Swoop** · 14th July 2007, 18:55

Yup. This year has been "bend Swoop over and fuck him" year.
Try and do some folks a favour and see where it get's ya. Monday was the threat of having the cops called in after saving a company owner from having to close his doors.

Tough it out girl. Shit happens and then the good times roll around!

**Panther** · 14th July 2007, 19:13

Hang in there XxKiTtiExX, try and see the glass half full, even if it seems like there is nothing positive happening. I don't know when but I'm syre things will start to turn around for the better for you.

**Grahameeboy** · 14th July 2007, 19:23

Hey Kitty, despite my Faith I have had some shit the last 2 years so shit happens to God people as well as Good people, however, I know it is hard and you may have to dig deep, but there is a reason for all this shit and putting aside my beliefs, things happen for a reason, although the reasons will not seem clear now but you will be stronger at the end...just don't expect the end to happen when you want it.

MD · 14th July 2007, 19:28

I had a look at your profile. If you want to be cheered up have a look at what I saw; an attractive woman and only 20 years old. Two fantastic ingredients for a good life. Many would give their right arm to be young and pretty, so please make the most of it...youth is wasted on the young as they say.
A friend who was popular in my high school days once said that, he acted happy and was always smiling because people gravitated towards his company - self fulfilling prophesy so to speak, but it worked. Cancer took him at 40 just after his first child arrived. Life is too short to waste being unhappy!
What I'm trying to say is smile and cheer up Kittie.

**justsomeguy** · 14th July 2007, 19:33

Being a cold, heartless chap helps, otherwise.... can't really offer any real advise. I love the lyrics of the Sunscreen song though. Puts things in perspective.
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Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.

**Mom** · 14th July 2007, 19:37

There have been times in my life when all I got dished out was shit mate!...death, divorce, illness, bills etc.......all at once it felt like. I used to start each day with a bright cheery "good morning day" if I was asked how things were I always said......"fantastic!" with a big smile. I used to say, I am strong! bring it on! I ended everyday with thanks for something. Sometimes it would just be the nice food I had eaten, because I could not remember anything else that had been good. Faking it till you make it was my catch cry.

Best of luck with everything mate! Sometimes life can feel like a bunch of shit I know, but there is always something brighter up ahead!

**kiwifruit** · 14th July 2007, 19:39

Life is quite absurd,
And death's the final word.
You must always face the curtain with a bow!
Forget about your sin -- give the audience a grin,
Enjoy it -- it's the last chance anyhow!

**Mr. Peanut** · 14th July 2007, 19:41

You seem to be dragging a lot of the past and the future up, why? The future isn't real, it's just something your mind made up, and the past is gone.

Look around you, there's nothing wrong right now is there? I mean right now, the present.

And get some sleep.

**Mully** · 14th July 2007, 19:43

Originally Posted by kiwifruit

Life is quite absurd,
And death's the final word.
You must always face the curtain with a bow!
Forget about your sin -- give the audience a grin,
Enjoy it -- it's the last chance anyhow!

I'd continue the song, but I don't know how to type whistle noises.

Kit, chin up mate. Life's a Bitch. Don't let it wear you down.

Cheers,
Mully

**NotaGoth** · 14th July 2007, 19:54

I know so many people say things happen for a reason.. I've seen that myself in two situations that have brought me down...
Both times I have realized my mistake and tried to better myself as a person.. I also changed my lifestyle so that similar experiences don't happen again.. Yet something else is always thrown my way..

How can you take control of a situation where you want and desperately need someone out of your life.. Yet they keep throwing the "do you think anyones gonna believe your story" back in your face..???? Playing off their looked up to role in the local community... leaving you looking like shit..? I've already learnt my lesson well, and know when following the right steps I can't get the help that I need to sort this on going issue... This person is obviously right.. And i can't find a simple solution when it comes to making this problem go away..

Its amazing how people who work the hardest in life always seem to struggle the most to make ends meet, or they always have shit slung their direction... I've watched people who haven't worked a day in their life.. yet they manage to own vehicles.. And houses.. Yet others work hard, struggle, lose everything and have to start all over again... I just can't understand it...

It sometimes make me wonder why I bother working so hard.. It feels like a waste..

I don't want to end up putting up a wall and desensatising (doesn't know if thats the correct word).. I know I've got a heart there.. Maybe I just need to move back to mums fully... Give work a miss.. And spend some time sorting out everything thats goin on.. Find the part of me thats missing.. I'm not sure..