Shit, shit and more shit

[NotaGoth]

You'll see it's all a show,
Keep 'em laughing as you go.
Just remember that the last laugh is on you...

I think I'm in love

[jrandom]

I think I'm in love

Hopefully not with Graham Chapman.

He's (a) gay and (b) dead.

[NotaGoth]

I don't quite understand the not wanting to move thing. I have moved atleast every 6 years and have had to start again. It is hard at first but sometimes the best way to get over stuff is to move away from it completely. It isn't a case of 'running away' but is a case of taking action against what is happening.

My home, my life, my heart, all I have ever known is here... Would you move town because someone tells you that it is their town and that you have to leave..???

[Stickchick]

Unfortuantely I found it was much easier to move.....for myself

[janno]

My home, my life, my heart, all I have ever known is here... Would you move town because someone tells you that it is their town and that you have to leave..???

Absolutely yes, if I took a good, hard look at the situation and knew despite all my efforts that I wasn't going to win the battle. Which realistically is what will happen if the other person plays a hell of a lot dirtier than you can bring yourself to do.

If I thought I had a chance of turning the situation around so I could live peacefully and productively with the person still in the same town, then I would stay.

Only you can decide this one, but often when you do something you fear eg move to a strange place, it's not as bad as you think, and can be surprisingly beneficial to your growth as a person.

[slowpoke]

Absolutely yes, if I took a good, hard look at the situation and knew despite all my efforts that I wasn't going to win the battle. Which realistically is what will happen if the other person plays a hell of a lot dirtier than you can bring yourself to do.

If I thought I had a chance of turning the situation around so I could live peacefully and productively with the person still in the same town, then I would stay.

Only you can decide this one, but often when you do something you fear eg move to a strange place, it's not as bad as you think, and can be surprisingly beneficial to your growth as a person.

Good post. You have a choice: hang on to your shitty old life or start a fresh new one.
Funny things happen in life: 17 years ago my partner and I left for the West Island, sick of some crap happening in NZ. Due to a serious family illness we quite excitedly came "home" to NZ last year....only to find that "home" was no longer NZ but where we had just left.
We have actually really struggled returning to NZ. People we knew hardly seemed to have changed where we feel, think and prioritise quite differently now. Whether that's a good or a bad thing is anyones guess but we certainly don't regret leaving.
Your home is supposed to be a place of sanctuary and safety. If it's not then you either have to make it that way or move to somewhere that is....

...or you can just sit there.....

[RantyDave]

My home, my life, my heart, all I have ever known is here... Would you move town because someone tells you that it is their town and that you have to leave..???

No, but I might go because otherwise there's a great danger you'll never go.

Imagine having never ridden a bike. Multiply it by a thousand. There you go - an entire world of experience, waiting for you to haul arse from ... wherever you are. Go explore the world and enjoy it - sure as hell doesn't sound like giving in to me.

DAve

[westie]

Small town nz is a real drag. There's a good way to beat it and plenty of people have given an answer. Could you cut your ties and give it a go?

[Toaster]

Perhaps I'm just one of the few that believes in brushing yourself off and moving on

Yep, pretty much all we can do. Shit happens to everyone.... how we deal with it makes all the difference.

.... hows that GSXR treatin' ya hehe...

[98tls]

Just read this thread from start to here,dont want to be harsh here girl but theres not much point in rolling around in your own shit.......let it go,move town,stay whatever..but you got to let the bad shit go.I was guilty of dwelling on the past myself for years and all it ever did was fuck up the present.If all else fails sit back awhile and think of all the people in the world that have real problems,none of them there own doing just happens they were born a certain way or in a certain place,makes our problems very small indeed.Your a normal healthy human being with so much to look forward to living in one of the greatest places on earth,go enjoy it.

[scumdog]

Small town nz is a real drag.

It can be - but only if you are of "the glass is half empty" attitude.

[westie]

It can be - but only if you are of "the glass is half empty" attitude.

Totally agree with you. I didn't post very well.
The tight comminities of new zealand are what makes us the hospitable friendly nation we are. But it can be too tight, living in each other space and you come a cross the odd person that just grates you. Agree, disagree, agree to disagree or go find a nother awesome part of new zealand. Either way I hope kittie finds her peace.

[Coyote]

I read somewhere 'smile at yourself in the mirror' as then your subconcious will begin to like you. Seems to have work for me, probably too well as silly as it sounds

Friends may come and go, but you'll always have lotpihgad

[justsomeguy]

If you don't change, your circumstances won't.

Anyway

Some more reading for those so inclined.....

Suicide Song lyrics..

Animals don't have a choice.
If they're not happy with their place in the world... too bad.
They have to live the life they've been given.
Humans, on the other hand, don't have to.
We have a choice.
If you don't like your place in the world, you can get off anytime you want.
Suicide. That's right.
You don't like the way your life's going,
you don't like the way you are in the world,
anything around you, you can check out anytime you like.
Animals aren't allowed that thought
and believe me, if they were, they would use it.
There'd be a lot of dogs and cats, owned by assholes
that live in high-rises, diving out the windows.
Zebras... if they even had remotely that thought
would take a look at themselves and go, "What the F*#K!"
Black & white in a green & brown world... this blows.
I'm just gonna jump in the river....
I don't have a thumb to work a gun or hold a knife
or even open a jar of pills.
I'm just gonna dive into the next lion's mouth.
Why even bother?"
Now, monkeys have the opposable thumb
so they could kinda do it the exact same way we do.
Now, there's a bunch of people that say,
"Oh, it's against the law".
Well, it's only against the law if you do a crappy job and get caught.
Other people say, "Oh, we should save them".
Yeah, well you know what?
Not everybody wants to be saved.
Not everybody should be saved.
And who are we to force our will upon them?
I mean, isn't that one of the joys about being a human?
Freedom of choice?
Now, it's not all bad.
Now, I'm not saying "Kill yourself".
But if you're gonna be an idiot and do it anyway,
it's no sweat off of my back.
There's a lot of good that could come from it.
A little bit of bad thrown in.

Some of the things:
A job will open...
An apartment will become available...
There'll be more air for me...
They say there's two girls for every guy - if you're a man, there'll be four chicks for me...
There'll be more Ketel One vodka for me...
There'll be one less idiot in line at the bank who gets up to the window without their F*#King slips filled out...
I won't ever have to go to the store to buy my favorite Salt & Vinegar Chips
and have the clerk point at you and say, "They bought the last bag"....
You won't help change the McDonald's sign to a Hundred Billion Served...
You'll never get AIDS...
You won't have to worry about calories ever...
No more, "Hey, does this make me look fat?"...
There'll be one less polluting human...
You won't have to recycle... There'll be one less car on the road...
There'll be more Ring Dings for me...
Fifty or so chickens' lives will be spared...
Your fingers won't ever get red from eating pistachios...
You won't be forced to visit your Grandparents on Sundays anymore...
No more church...
You'll be saying, "Hey, World - Kiss My Ass!"...
No more wet dreams about Supermodels...
No more Barry Manilow... Not for a few years anyway...
Wondering "Am I a loser?" will be a thing of the past...
Say good-bye to crappy Xmas presents from Aunts and Uncles...
You won't have to suffer through a Motley Crue reunion...
F*#K flossing and brushing...
You'll never lose sleep over a pregnancy scare...
Adios, Acne...
Worrying whether you fit in or not won't be on your brain...
See ya later, homework...
You'll never have to sit through another movie brought to you by the creators of South Park...
School's out forever....
No more paying bills...
You won't have to do chores...

You won't be able to run over toads with the lawnmower though...
You'll also miss McDonald's French Fries...
Bugs Bunny...
The amazing electrifying feeling that surges through your body when you kiss someone for the first time...
You won't be able to watch the letterbox director's cut of Jaws...
Candy...
Living above ground...
Pudding crust...
You'll miss the rush of getting your first apartment...
Getting to the point in your life where you can tell your parents to
"F*#K Off! I gotta make my own mistakes, you did"...
You'll miss sex - you'll miss thinking about it, looking for it,
sex by yourself, sex with a partner, sex with multiple partners...
No more summer nights that seem to go on forever... Roller coasters....
Naming your kid the name you always wanted...
Making a difference in the world...
You'll miss the experience and pleasure of Hallucinogenics...
Watching your neighbor's wife change clothes with her blinds open...
A lifetime of masturbating...
Watching your favorite team sweep the series...
Music, you will definitely miss music...
Trying to sneak into your house drunk - three hours past your curfew...
You'll miss the blaze and glory of the 4th of July fireworks...
The taste of Captain Crunch...
If you're a boy, you'll miss the feeling the first time you reach up a girl's shirt...
If you're a girl, the feeling the first time you reach down a boy's pants...
You'll miss your favorite coat...
Waffles with whipped cream and strawberries...
Beating your friends at video games...
You won't be around to see what shape and color the new marshmallow in Lucky Charms will be...
You'll miss the feeling you get when reminiscing about your first love - thirty years after the fact...
The joy of giving and receiving at Christmas...
Skinny dipping...
Getting stoned, reading Green Eggs & Ham, and eating like a horse that got loose in the grain bin...
Flying cars...

Hey, you were born, finish what you started!

[SARGE]

If you don't change, your circumstances won't.

Anyway

Some more reading for those so inclined.....

Suicide Song lyrics..

Animals don't have a choice.
If they're not happy with their place in the world... too bad.
They have to live the life they....wank wank wank waffle waffle.................ish what you started!

nah ... couldnt be fucked