The injustice of it all....

[Paul in NZ]

My best mate at work (as perviously posted), and a damn good guy / friend has entered the final stages of the big C... Chemo and rad didn't do it and now we are onto Mr morphine, giant tumours and the Hospices..... We loose the one guy I can trust to do what he says, his daughter loses a fabulous father and his wife loses a soul mate....

edited due to sobriety - more later....

[scumdog]

Sad, sad times Paul - life is so unfair at times.

At least you are sensitive and have compassion and feeling for the dying.

I unfortunately find I do not have those feelings - my job has killed them.

Condolences to you matey.

[Paul in NZ]

Thanks - you don't know the half of it... this helped - off to bed now - sad... Christ we have to get together and get shitfaced sometime soon

[Youngjim]

Stick in there Paul, life deals some real bad hands to the good guys sometimes, while all the bad bastards who beat up kids etc have it sweet.
My thoughts are with you and your mate.

[Drum]

Here's to your mate.

[jazbug5]

I wish I could say something that would help to turn it all into sense, but it always seems so trite, doesn't it... so you just stay silent and do what you can do.
I am counting down the minutes until 4.00 this afternoon, when I have to attend the funeral of two young girls who were murdered by their mother last month.
I have had a very hard time trying to frame this in such a way as to make sense somehow, but sometimes it just doesn't- or perhaps us mere mortals are just not equipped to understand the meaning of it anyway.
I'll be thinking of you Paul; I hope his final days are as beautiful as he deserves them to be, and that you all make some sort of peace with it after the anger has passed.

[Skyryder]

The old saying 'God moves in mysterious ways' sounds a bit hollow at time like this. But sometimes he does.

I had a close friend who passed away sometime ago. On occasion I still thank the man for the memories. It still helps to this day.

Skyryder

[jimbo600]

Sometimes it just plain isn't fair mate.

Sorry about your mate.

[Madness]

Thinking of you & your mate Paul.

Last week my missus was told she's in remission & no more Chemo. Yesterday she tested 20% down, now looking at another 10 week Chemo & Radiation course. Life can be a coont!

[Deano]

My thoughts are with you and your mate Paul - take care man.

[limbimtimwim]

Life an't fair.

Best you can do is have as many good times as you can before it's all over.

[Al]

Thoughts are with you, Paul.

You were a good mate to this guy and that is so important.

Kia Kaha

Al

[Paul in NZ]

Hey thanks everyone...

I was self medicating with bourbon and thats never pretty but I meant every word. I talked to the family this morning and it's not ended - so I'll just keep busy I reckon and think about what to say on the day...

The kind thoughts do help eh - well that and mr panadol (d'oh)

Cheers

[Winston001]

My thoughts are with you and your friend Paul. Thanks for letting us know. Our lives are a conundrum at times.

[ynot slow]

Agree with everything you've written,have a drink with him if you can,my personal drop was a gasolene-shot of tequila and southern comfort,wicked brew.Had a few whilst having chemo and my chemo wasn't strong (but still not nice),as well as a few rums and bourbons and beers one night,talkabout toasted,we had to get taxi home as I couldn't walk(home was 5 mins walk),as an aside if he has a partner just ask her how she is,my experiance was everyone asked how I was,but my wife was hardly asked how she felt,got to stage I said fine all the time,friends forget it isn't the person with cancer who needs support,it can be those closest to them that need support to.

Sounds stupid but remember the good times and cherish those thoughts,last words you probably need to hear but it seems to be true.My thoughts are with you and the families concerned,yes it is a bastard disease.