So you think fat is ugly..

[Curious_AJ]

Good way to end up like that is when you have someone who on a daily basis tells you that you are fat, and keep on calling you "lard arse"

I've been trough that myself, my brother has done it EVERY day of my life, and is serious about it... my mother has also always been critical of my weight (she suffered from eating problems when she was around my age up until after she was married to my father even) some days I've taken notice of it and gotten really distressed, other days I just think, I am what I am, I do what I want...

since I turned vegetarian, the tables have turned... I HAVE lost SOME weight, but nothing that drastic, and they now say that I'm "fading away" especially my father... and they try to make me eat more, or try to get me back onto meat.. but in truth, I feel way more healthy than ever (and I DO get all my nutrients, I know how to eat sensibly)

so, after all of this.. there is loads of pressure, even from people who you wouldnt think would be so completely insensitive about it... and changing diets DOES change people's views... but if you arent well informed about what changes to make, it can lead you into trouble... its a fine line...

[NotaGoth]

I've been trough that myself, my brother has done it EVERY day of my life, and is serious about it... my mother has also always been critical of my weight (she suffered from eating problems when she was around my age up until after she was married to my father even) some days I've taken notice of it and gotten really distressed, other days I just think, I am what I am, I do what I want...

since I turned vegetarian, the tables have turned... I HAVE lost SOME weight, but nothing that drastic, and they now say that I'm "fading away" especially my father... and they try to make me eat more, or try to get me back onto meat.. but in truth, I feel way more healthy than ever (and I DO get all my nutrients, I know how to eat sensibly)

so, after all of this.. there is loads of pressure, even from people who you wouldnt think would be so completely insensitive about it... and changing diets DOES change people's views... but if you arent well informed about what changes to make, it can lead you into trouble... its a fine line...

Know what its like.. Used to be 54kg, and would be picked on for being "skinny".. Still had people calling me fat etc etc.. gets to you after a while.. apparently I'm "small" but I don't see that for myself.. Because of high stress when mum went to aussie for a while after dad died, and bad diet (lived off yoghurt and fruit) I dropped to 50kg, body couldn't handle it and pretty much had everyone complaining that I looked sickly..
After meeting my partner, I've become much happier.. I eat LOTS... I'm now 58kg.. Yet now I get called nasty things like "lard arse" and "fatty" ain't in a joking manner either.. Had my ex pinch my arse and say "noticed its gotten fat, can tell it definately has"
Sad part is the nasty things people say sometimes get to you..
You just can't win

[kiwifruit]

now I get called nasty things like "lard arse" and "fatty" ain't in a joking manner either.. Had my ex pinch my arse and say "noticed its gotten fat, can tell it definately has"
Sad part is the nasty things people say sometimes get to you..
You just can't win

wow
people can be so fuckin harsh
try not to let it get to you cos you sure aren't "a fatty".

you can win btw

[avgas]

Fat is ugly......skinny is more
Oh sweet Jesus Women!! Eat SomEthing!!!!

[canarlee]

Fat is ugly......skinny is more
Oh sweet Jesus Women!! Eat SomEthing!!!!

cream cake anyone?

[NotaGoth]

That post has ended up so mangled

[007XX]

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Know what its like.. Used to be 54kg, and would be picked on for being "skinny".. Still had people calling me fat etc etc.. gets to you after a while.. apparently I'm "small" but I don't see that for myself.. Because of high stress when mum went to aussie for a while after dad died, and bad diet (lived off yoghurt and fruit) I dropped to 50kg, body couldn't handle it and pretty much had everyone complaining that I looked sickly..
After meeting my partner, I've become much happier.. I eat LOTS... I'm now 58kg.. Yet now I get called nasty things like "lard arse" and "fatty" ain't in a joking manner either.. Had my ex pinch my arse and say "noticed its gotten fat, can tell it definately has"
Sad part is the nasty things people say sometimes get to you..
You just can't win

Look, I'm sorry but I have to say something here...I don't know you, but honnestly: NO WOMAN should put up with [B]anyone[B]telling them that their arse has gotten fat in that manner...Nor calling you those names!

I'm not saying that you should break their faces but do not let them get to you...

People will make such comments based on their own perception of what the "body beautiful" should be and I'll bet that 99% of these people will actually not feel good about their own body to start with...so who the heck are they to criticise???

I used to be in a relationship where I was made to feel like that, and I am a strong advocate for getting out of it.

Do not, under any circumstance, let someone else determine who you are...only you can do that!

*sorry, rant over...keep your chin up girls*

[NotaGoth]

Look, I'm sorry but I have to say something here...I don't know you, but honnestly: NO WOMAN should put up with [B]anyone[B]telling them that their arse has gotten fat in that manner...Nor calling you those names!

I'm not saying that you should break their faces but do not let them get to you...

People will make such comments based on their own perception of what the "body beautiful" should be and I'll bet that 99% of these people will actually not feel good about their own body to start with...so who the heck are they to criticise???

I used to be in a relationship where I was made to feel like that, and I am a strong advocate for getting out of it.

Do not, under any circumstance, let someone else determine who you are...only you can do that!

*sorry, rant over...keep your chin up girls*

Sorry it shouldn't be coming up quoting AJ as it was a post I made *tried to fix it*


Saying shit like that is just a way to bring you down to their level.. And leave you feeling worthless and like no one else could ever want you..

It hurts yes.. But when you walk down the main street of town, and notice your ex driving past staring like some freak.. You realize that they know what they have actually lost (Must be great if they still can't keep their eyes off it after a year right??).. Can't be all that disguisting if they can't not gawk..

Gorgeous to some.. Disguisting to others.. Personal taste.. There will always be someone out there who likes you for you

alright I'm off to find some pies.. lol

[car]

I used to be in a relationship where I was made to feel like that, and I am a strong advocate for getting out of it.

Finally, some sense. Getting the hell out of it goes for all of your relationships, by the way; if your parents, family or bible study group are screwing you up, in whatever way, walk away from them too.

[007XX]

Saying shit like that is just a way to bring you down to their level.. And leave you feeling worthless and like no one else could ever want you..



Gorgeous to some.. Disguisting to others.. Personal taste.. There will always be someone out there who likes you for you

Good on you...That's one of the great privileges of growing older: you stop giving a hoot about what other people think... The "I'm no oil painting, and if I'm not to your taste and can't be civil/polite about it, then get out of my face" attitude is becoming more prevalent for me...

Finally, some sense. Getting the hell out of it goes for all of your relationships, by the way; if your parents, family or bible study group are screwing you up, in whatever way, walk away from them too.

Cheers...and yes, I agree. No one should have that much influence on you, especially when it is a negative one. Don't stand for it...EVER.
The only people that need to stay in your life are those that inspire, challenge and just entice you to be a better person.

[KATWYN]

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The only people that need to stay in your life are those that inspire, challenge and just entice you to be a better person.

Here here. Why people take on board insulting comments from others is beyond me, who the hell are they in the grand scheme of things?? Nobodies. and certainly not people priviledged to be in my life.

The insulted person not only has their spirit broken but they ALSO give the insulter all their personal power by letting it affect them, does the nobody deserve to be rewarded in that way.....? I don't think so!

If it was someone who I respected that called me insulting names I would seriously re-evalute my opinion of that person.

Don't get me started on wrinkles. Each wrinkle is telling a story of a long life lived ....but gross western culture tells us we should be ashamed of our life because there are wrinkles! hide them! (i.e., wrinkle cream ads on tv make me sick)

[007XX]

Here here. Why people take on board insulting comments from others is beyond me, who the hell are they in the grand scheme of things?? Nobodies. and certainly not people priviledged to be in my life.

The insulted person not only has their spirit broken but they ALSO give the insulter all their personal power by letting it affect them, does the nobody deserve to be rewarded in that way.....? I don't think so!

If it was someone who I respected that called me insulting names I would seriously re-evalute my opinion of that person.

Don't get me started on wrinkles. Each wrinkle is telling a story of a long life lived ....but gross western culture tells us we should be ashamed of our life because there are wrinkles! hide them! (i.e., wrinkle cream ads on tv make me sick)

Couldn't agree more

[Curious_AJ]

haha, okay.. i have another example of people trying to change your weight... I used to be with this guy who was someone who liked fuller women... This guy kept telling me that He'd love it if my "bum wobbled more" and kept trying to feed me crap... I think it was mainly a culture thing gone wrong... but yeah, he was really kind of screwed..

then, he started telling me that I was getting fat, and so I was incredibly confused.... but yeah, all through this the guy was doing other things to undermine my confidence and demean me as a woman... (rather disgraceful) and whats worse i stayed with him for 10 months in fear of feeling guilty for dumping his arse...

when i went away with my folks on a cruise for 12 nights then came back, i had reached a better weight and more stable mental space after just that short with no contact with him... and needless to say, i threw him to the trash (endured several months of him stalking me and calling me a fat bitch after though :s) but took control of myself and now i'm healthy!

[Trudes]

Yep, you can't win!!
There was another thread where people were going on about what a blimp and stuff some chick was, she was overweight, yes, but she obviously still had some love for the way she looked given her pose, and there's this thread with people going on about how disgusting these malnutritioned girls are for being so thin. Sometimes the negative attitudes of others affect people's self image to the point where they either overeat or stop eating all together, it's really easy to judge when you're perfect I'm sure!

[007XX]

Yep, you can't win!!
There was another thread where people were going on about what a blimp and stuff some chick was, she was overweight, yes, but she obviously still had some love for the way she looked given her pose, and there's this thread with people going on about how disgusting these malnutritioned girls are for being so thin. Sometimes the negative attitudes of others affect people's self image to the point where they either overeat or stop eating all together, it's really easy to judge when you're perfect I'm sure!

Worth taking a good, long hard look at ourselves before throwing the stone, eh???

Agreed...surprising how many forget to do that