What is it with our wives?

**Blackbird** · 9th August 2007, 13:54

Do other women treat their significant others with utter contempt? On a UK website, I saw the computer-controlled missile launcher shown in the attachment and thought that this would be a GOOD THING for my 60th birthday which is coming up in 3 months. The perfect accessory for my desk to liven up the office in fact. Reading the buyer comments on the website, one guy brought a missile launcher to his office and another brought a radio-controlled airship and they had titanic battles. Surely that has to be good for mental health and a positive environment?

When I mentioned it to Mrs B, I got THE LOOK which is well-known to us males, accompanied by hands on hips, much sighing and looking over the top of glasses – you know the routine. It appears that my suggestion is a BAD THING and that hell will freeze over before it happens unless I dip into my own wallet (and that won’t be the end of it either from bitter past experience).

Now what I want to know is what’s wrong with a guy having a youthful outlook on life? I would have thought that women would have welcomed a bit of youthful enthusiasm?

I have not yet given up and come October, I may yet make another post on the subject.

**Cajun** · 9th August 2007, 13:59

i plead the 5th on that blackbird, since my wife reads there forums, and goes looking what i say.

**ManDownUnder** · 9th August 2007, 14:01

LOL a different outlook on life is not a bad thing. JJust recognise it as different... rather than bad.

Yes - I know "THE LOOK" well... and sometimes it's well worth ignoring because the ensuing conversation about "I'm not happy" will turn out to have two sides... one saying "I feel unhappy about you doing this", and the other saying "I feel unhappy not being allowed to do this"

Easier said than done I freely admit, but well worth having all the same.

FWIW I simply have to change my thinking going into the conversation. I am not subordinate to my wife... she is not my boss... we are equals, and both perspectives count.

Sometimes you simply need to disgree on things...

**imdying** · 9th August 2007, 14:04

You can buy these locally from Jaycar, they have a number of versions.

/edit: If you think that's bad... see how much she sighs if you suggest that you'd like to buy suspension worth more than your bike

**vifferman** · 9th August 2007, 14:10

The rules are that they are her rules - logic, fairness and 'tit-for-tat' do not come into it.
Example: I have been happy to buy the vifferbabe some expensive Mont Blanc bling ($1200) for our special year this year, and I am currently waiting on a call from the jeweller to go and pick up a ring for around $5200. I don't mind - it's only money, at the moment she earns nearly twice what I do (in the past, I've been the big earner), and if it's important to her, then it's important to me. Besides, it pleases me to buy this stuff.
But (however), I still get the same reaction you did when I buy expensive items like a $16 balaclava because my new helmet doesn't have removable lining. And I still get "the look" because despite lots of having had to do all the housework/cooking lately because she has had some late work nights, I spent a few minutes fitting the PCII to my bike rather than make a start on the dinner (before it was even time to do it).

Them's the rules, Matey.

You know all those times when the gurrrlz were younger, when the gurrrrllz took their handbags, and disappeared off to the toilet in the pub together? Inside each female "rest room" there's a big conference facility, complete with whiteboards, overhead transparencies, projectors, etc., where the battle plans and rules of engagement are discussed and inculcated.

**ManDownUnder** · 9th August 2007, 14:12

A conversation we have at home is the "who's money actually is it?" chat.

We're a one income house - so it's all "ours". Joint accounts all the way etc etc etc. But if you look at it - it means it is both mine and my wife's. It's not in there needing both signatories to approve any expenditure, and likewise it only really implies the right of veto on big ticket items.

So... the conversation is really one of "What's a big ticket item?"

Yeah - big subject... and good luck. I personally say get it unless there is a marriage destroying reason not to. And if there is - I suggest you have other issues that need talking over anyway.

**Blackbird** · 9th August 2007, 14:13

Originally Posted by Cajun

i plead the 5th on that blackbird, since my wife reads there forums, and goes looking what i say.

Your response speaks volumes Neal

Thanks for the comments guys, especially local availability! MDU, I shall leave your risky course of action as a last resort, craven coward that I am.

Viff - wonderful stuff mate and all true, especially the conference rooms

**avgas** · 9th August 2007, 14:22

Ha,
Somehow though some kind of witchcraft, not only do i have the misses credit card, but also her bank card. The only car left is the one for our food account.....which i can watch online.
Get this - she is now only allowed $40 of her own money each week.......when i buy her something she thinks i am a god.
Fuck knows how i managed to convince her of all this????
If only i could work out how to get sex out of her it would be perfect.

**MotoGirl** · 9th August 2007, 14:23

Originally Posted by Blackbird

Now what I want to know is what’s wrong with a guy having a youthful outlook on life? I would have thought that women would have welcomed a bit of youthful enthusiasm?

Maybe she has already planned what she's getting you?
I don't know what something like that costs, but I'd have a problem with Cajun spending truckloads on a gadget that he may never use. I don't say this because we should spend the money on me, I just don't see the point in wasting it on crap.

Originally Posted by Cajun

i plead the 5th on that blackbird, since my wife reads there forums, and goes looking what i say.

Pfft, I stumbled across this one by accident! *searches for all posts by Cajun*
Hey, at least I stalk my own husband

**Blackbird** · 9th August 2007, 14:24

Originally Posted by avgas

Ha,
Somehow though some kind of witchcraft, not only do i have the misses credit card, but also her bank card. The only car left is the one for our food account.....which i can watch online.
Get this - she is now only allowed $40 of her own money each week.......when i buy her something she thinks i am a god.
Fuck knows how i managed to convince her of all this????
If only i could work out how to get sex out of her it would be perfect.

Ever thought that's why you're not getting it?