I'm fostering a child

[Goblin]

Well thought Ide better post in and let ya all know I have not been able to give this kid a 'new start'...

I think it has come down to 'spoilt brat syndrome' as I cant give him the holidays in Aussie and reataurant dinners he was accustomed to at home.All I had was Ag,home cooked dinners and a humble country cottage.However I have no compassion left.Thanx for all your encouragement when I first took him in I just have to do whats rights for my own son and me now.

Really sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. I think this 'spoilt brat' theory is right on the money tho. So many parents raise their kids this way and wonder why they go off the rails when they dont get their way. It's the jellyfish parenting style. Kid asks for something, parent says no, kid winges and whines....parent caves in and says ok. This is why there are so many fucked up young people going postal. When they get out in the real world they think the word owes them everything because the parents never taught them to earn anything.

Sounds like you're doing the right thing with your own son. Hope all is well.

[MSTRS:Me]

.....He's back as of last night...

How can they make you take him back (even short term) ??
And we know that you did not fail. Kids like this never learned personal responsibility and by their mid-teens it takes a world of hurt to correct that. Not your job, eh?

[Meanie]

We have two kids at our home that we foster and two others we have now gaurdianship and custody of A realy neat bunch of kids who we love very much but we have also had the rat bags and had to throw in the towel and let someone else deal with them so dont feel bad about it sounds like a decision you made wisely
Dont get me started on CYPS or ill not stop until i get thrown off the site

[janno]

What a disappointment for you! But of course you and your family come first without question.

And perhaps there is another fosterchild out there who is not a budding psychopath who really needs you.

It'd be hard to trust the welfare agency again after they "omitted" to inform you of certain information, though . . .

[Monamie]

We have two kids at our home that we foster and two others we have now gaurdianship and custody of A realy neat bunch of kids who we love very much but we have also had the rat bags and had to throw in the towel and let someone else deal with them so dont feel bad about it sounds like a decision you made wisely
Dont get me started on CYPS or ill not stop until i get thrown off the site

Emmmm CYPS we certainly won't be going into that one. There aren't enough hours in the day!
Having a heart big enough to even consider being a foster parent makes ALL you foster parents the `best'. There is no such thing as a foster parent who has `failed'.
I take my hat off to you

[chanceyy]

Dont get me started on CYPS or ill not stop until i get thrown off the site

that can be arranged

but I hear wot your saying Meanie ... You & monica would know more than most how the system works or in most cases how it does not work ..

[NZsarge]

Having a heart big enough to even consider being a foster parent makes ALL you foster parents the `best'. There is no such thing as a foster parent who has `failed'.
I take my hat off to you

Totally agree, you rock for even being up for fostering in the first place! Look after yourself and your son ok...

[ynot slow]

You failed? Piss off his folks did that and cyps.You are just trying to install some values,to bad the upstart doesn't,won't listen,and also we can't smack em.

You and your family come first,cripes that is hard enough,utmost respect for people trying to help the helpless,some will accept the help others don't care.

The more you try to help kids settle in to your lifestyle,the more your kids can feel alienated,as the percieved care is not shown to your own family.