Ex's partner

**Grahameeboy** · 23rd August 2007, 20:32

Well Police Action 1 seems to have vanished so to continue the saga.

Ring up Rehab Services for update on repairs to wheelchair. Yep should be fixed Friday so ask them to deliver to my house as I have Nats.

Ask ex for the battery charger which was not dropped off last night. No answer so left a message.

Get a call this am from Technician. Got a problem he says.....I knew it was not about wheelchair repairs...ex's partner has called us this am and told us to deliver ther wheelchair on Monday......remember it will be fixed Friday and obviously Nats needs her powered wheelchair........geeze.

Anyway they agree to deliver to my place. Problem is I don't have battery charge and if I ask for it I alert cave man to facts......Technician says we can make sure wheelchair is charged for you when we deliver.....bit more discussion and they have located a charger that is surplus to requirements...excellent.

After dropping Nats of at Kindy, go home to collect bike to go to work.....guess who drives past? If you knew my road, it is pretty obvious he was checking on me as he knows my movements with Kindy etc...so I do a quick recky around the block and he is no where to be seen so obviously he was not doing a job near me was he.

What a selfish git....his name is xxxxxx xxxxxx and he owns xxxxxxx...anyone know him?.....sorry don't care about naming him.

Anyway, looked up on internet....discovered I can issue my own written warning under Trespass Act so have delivered to him and will fax copy to Takapuna Police tomorrow..stuff 'im.

Apart from this I had a wonderful day.

**Stickchick** · 23rd August 2007, 20:34

Why does guy appear to be stalking you?

**Grahameeboy** · 23rd August 2007, 20:37

Originally Posted by Stickchick

Why does guy appear to be stalking you?

Can you elaborate.

Previously he parked outside my house..he was no where to be seen...it was same time as today...I went to work and he was following me in another vehicle....

**Colapop** · 23rd August 2007, 20:38

Have you been drinking again?

**Grahameeboy** · 23rd August 2007, 20:40

Originally Posted by Colapop

Have you been drinking again?

Nop, don't drink.............so afraid I am sober?

**Maha** · 23rd August 2007, 20:42

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

Can you elaborate.

Previously he parked outside my house..he was no where to be seen...it was same time as today...I went to work and he was following me in another vehicle....

He may only want to mow your lawns....or worse, resow it.....

**Colapop** · 23rd August 2007, 20:44

O i C ... are you afraid to be sober?

On a more serious note. Just do as you have done - issue a trespass notice. Have you spoken to the ex and asked her what's going on? Assuming that you two are speaking...

**Grahameeboy** · 23rd August 2007, 20:46

You are all cheeky gits...this is serious ya know.

Sadly I take a measured approach to this crap.........bugger....

**Grahameeboy** · 23rd August 2007, 20:51

Originally Posted by Colapop

O i C ... are you afraid to be sober?

On a more serious note. Just do as you have done - issue a trespass notice. Have you spoken to the ex and asked her what's going on? Assuming that you two are speaking...

Nop, I am worse sober........

Nah, she doesn't talk to me.....I have left a message......this has been the whole problem for 2 years in that she just does not share stuff about Nats issues with me so we can be consistent, cancels medical appointments without consulting with me etc etc....the more I stand up to her the worse she gets but although I hate all this stuff, I am doing right thing which is the main thing.........stupid thing is I don't hate her, resent her etc..yep she is fricking frustrating and I am actually worried about her and whether Steve may take it out on her.....

Nats has a bowel issue and I have been leaving message for her to call me to talk about it without success.

Oh to be popular.

**Colapop** · 23rd August 2007, 20:54

Is there someone who can be third party mediator?

**Grub** · 23rd August 2007, 20:56

Of course it's serious. You can apply to the family court for an ex-parte non-molestation (or whatever the new name is) order I think. You may also get one via Police but I can't remember. Local community law centre can tell you on the phone.

That order prevents him from interferring in your life in any way whatsoever and includes phone calls, drive-bys, entering your street, parking outside your house or place of work and forbids him (& her if you have to) from calling people like the wheelchair centre about something you are doing.

**Grahameeboy** · 23rd August 2007, 20:59

Originally Posted by Colapop

Is there someone who can be third party mediator?

Tried that, was told, ignores..even broke the custody agreement once and refused to bring Nats back...had do do some London white lies to get Nats back...........it was only once but still.

She just wants her own way. Even when discussing the custody 2 years ago the Mediator had a hard time explaining that the week had to be split.

**peasea** · 23rd August 2007, 22:26

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

Tried that, was told, ignores..even broke the custody agreement once and refused to bring Nats back...had do do some London white lies to get Nats back...........it was only once but still.

She just wants her own way. Even when discussing the custody 2 years ago the Mediator had a hard time explaining that the week had to be split.

It sounds like you're really copping some crap. Keep your head down and as I've said before, take notes; they're digging their own grave. It might take time but hang in there. Also, is there anyone who'd be prepared to 'live in' for a few weeks, just to add some fodder?

**Grahameeboy** · 24th August 2007, 07:13

Originally Posted by peasea

It sounds like you're really copping some crap. Keep your head down and as I've said before, take notes; they're digging their own grave. It might take time but hang in there. Also, is there anyone who'd be prepared to 'live in' for a few weeks, just to add some fodder?

Been like this for 2 years just another dimention with Cave Man in the frame.

I have kept notes and have decided that I am unpopular so have gone down the Police route........took me over a year to change locks even though ex would come in and take stuff without telling me...just small things...when I change locks I felt better despite ex saying she would break in etc...of course it never happened but Cave Man is a different animal so need to take a harder approach.

Some things take time to sort out as it leave a trail....

Your profile picture...is that Devonport Wharf?