Ex's partner

**avgas** · 26th August 2007, 21:58

A cornered wolf always protects its wounded side

**007XX** · 27th August 2007, 08:44

Originally Posted by zrxer

Yes I have met graham in real life and I am able to conferm that he is in real life as big a nob end as he is online

Well er I have been on bike rides with graham more than once or twice
Oh did I say it was?
Exactly the little you do know
Funny that a lot of the time his posts don't help so "quid pro quo"

I will not turn this thread into an argument between you and I,as I'd much rather have this conversation face to face...
So for now, contribute to this thread or stay away...

Originally Posted by Winston001

I'd red rep but would rather say my piece in public. No-one is perfect but a person like Graham who loves and cherishes his disabled daughter is pretty high on my list of admirable people.

**Grahameeboy** · 29th August 2007, 08:57

Originally Posted by zrxer

Have you stopped to think for one moment that maybee you have contributed to the situation your self by being your self I have noticed since being on KB you seem to have a habit of rubbing people up the wrong way and when people point this out to you, you start claiming to be hollier than thou.

Firstly, I have no gripes with you even though you do with me......how you feel is from within and I did pm you at the time and apologise which I did not have to do.

You know I troll. I explained that in my pm to you.

You have the choice to get rubbed up or not. I rarely get red repped and at the end of the day I am not gonna please everyone all the time.....the attachment shows a green rep from you.

I am sure I do rub him up the wrong way which I would not do if I did not stand up for my rights as Nats Father.......I could take the easier route and not care and I do not enjoy the conflict but I have to do what I believe is right.

Yesterday he called my work again and made allegations that I was harrasing ex. All I did was leave 2 messages to call me about Nats because I had taken her to the Dr's.....I could have texted but am trying to open up communication.

Last night he visited me again. Used a 12 foot piece of wood to bang on the door so he did not have to step on my property. I was in bed, kept quiet hoping he would go away. He then sat in his van. Called the Police....it was that loud that a neighbour had words with him so 4 cops turned up.

This was his choice not mine. I had done nothing to encourage him....he had tried calling me but I had told ex that I would ignore his calls and delete any messages without listening. I guess she had not told him.

The Police agreed with my approach.

You don't really know me and I don't really know you. However, I respect how you feel so guess all we can do is move on and on the next ride I am still happy to shout you a beer.

Despite being a Christian I am not perfect or "holier than thou"....all we can do is wake up each morning and try eh?

In a funny way I take you calling me a nob as a compliment.

**ManDownUnder** · 29th August 2007, 09:15

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

Last night he visited me again. Used a 12 foot piece of wood to bang on the door so he did not have to step on my property. I was in bed, kept quiet hoping he would go away. He then sat in his van. Called the Police....it was that loud that a neighbour had words with him so 4 cops turned up.

This was his choice not mine. I had done nothing to encourage him....he had tried calling me but I had told ex that I would ignore his calls and delete any messages without listening. I guess she had not told him.

The Police agreed with my approach.

Umm.... he showed up with a piece of wood? And used it as an agent to frustrate whatever orders you have in place? I'd be back in court asking them to extend it to a street level protection, and no phone calls texts or emails too.

Tis harrassment that is - if nothing else. The words "offensive weapon" come to mind too... as do the words "Wiley as a serpent and innocent as the Dove".

I'll bet the ex told him, he ignored her. Escalate this - again. Little by little... don't take the crap. Every time he does something stupid he needs to pay for it... but properly. Have the cops charge him with whatever they can.

At the end of the day you know where I live - there's a safe bed there for you and yourts if needed. He's not going to win...

**Grahameeboy** · 29th August 2007, 09:33

Originally Posted by ManDownUnder

Umm.... he showed up with a piece of wood? And used it as an agent to frustrate whatever orders you have in place? I'd be back in court asking them to extend it to a street level protection, and no phone calls texts or emails too.

Tis harrassment that is - if nothing else. The words "offensive weapon" come to mind too... as do the words "Wiley as a serpent and innocent as the Dove".

I'll bet the ex told him, he ignored her. Escalate this - again. Little by little... don't take the crap. Every time he does something stupid he needs to pay for it... but properly. Have the cops charge him with whatever they can.

At the end of the day you know where I live - there's a safe bed there for you and yourts if needed. He's not going to win...

Well I have kept notes since the Trespass Warning (it is something you can do without going to Court) and told Police if he does it again then I will have to press charges plus the Warning is valid in the eyes of the Law and there are already 4 notes since Friday.

I think they gave him a good talking too....as he left he shouted "Thanks Graham".

I cannot do much to change his view of me but I can try and send him the message to change his actions...well try anyway and he has really left me no choice but to involve the Police.......not that he sees that.

Nats is never with me when he does this so just little old me in the house.

I can be as stubborn as when it matters (once a decade normally) and there is a London term "you put them up and I will knock 'em down".............

The thing is he dislikes me which fuels him....I don't dislike him and although he is wrong I understand why he is doing this so I will always have the upper hand........I am a frustrating git.....

**007XX** · 29th August 2007, 09:53

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

I am a frustrating git.....

You may be frustrating, but we like you anyway...

All that aside, no matter how frustrating anyone might find you, that is no justification for such a behaviour as the ex's bully is performing.

Now way, no how is it ever acceptable and/or should be permissible.

No one should stand for being treated like this.

**ManDownUnder** · 29th August 2007, 10:15

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

I can be as stubborn as when it matters (once a decade normally) and there is a London term "you put them up and I will knock 'em down".............

The thing is he dislikes me which fuels him....I don't dislike him and although he is wrong I understand why he is doing this so I will always have the upper hand........I am a frustrating git.....

LOL me too mate - me too. Headstrong is a term I have become familiar with over the years. I like stubborn - I do stubborn well... and when used properly it works very very nicely thank you.

I also have a saying - a leopard can't change it's spots. He'll be back - put money on it. And he'll have another creative solution to frustrate the order(s) in place... and you'll need to stay safe, and call the cops.

**insane1** · 29th August 2007, 11:21

Originally Posted by ManDownUnder

LOL me too mate - me too. Headstrong is a term I have become familiar with over the years. I like stubborn - I do stubborn well... and when used properly it works very very nicely thank you.

I also have a saying - a leopard can't change it's spots. He'll be back - put money on it. And he'll have another creative solution to frustrate the order(s) in place... and you'll need to stay safe, and call the cops.

you may be frustrating grahameeboy but your one of us and we do what ever we can to look after our own whatever it takes .

**Grahameeboy** · 29th August 2007, 15:23

Geeze he is nothing but consistent.

Rehab Services called him following my call to find out about the fault wheelchair.

He refused to say what the problem was, other than the wheelchair did not work and told the Technician that it was not his problem and that it was mine as I get Nats tonight.

The technician said he was not a nice person to talk to.

So Nats is without her mobility for longer than necessary.

Anyway, noted for future reference.

The stupid thing is hat he is not actually helping ex's case if and when this ends up in the Family Court.

**ManDownUnder** · 29th August 2007, 15:30

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

The stupid thing is hat he is not actually helping ex's case if and when this ends up in the Family Court.

... sigh... yup. Patience and Karma dude. Poor Nats suffering in the middle of it though...

**007XX** · 29th August 2007, 15:38

Where's me freakin' drat of a magic wand???

make that busta disappear in a cloud o' smoke, I would!

**peasea** · 29th August 2007, 18:19

What about a gun?

**Grahameeboy** · 25th October 2007, 12:07

Well will keep this brief as more important things on our minds today.

Ex served me with Application for Full Custody citing various things which are either not true or a twist on what happened with no hard evidence.

Cannot afford a Lawyer but have a friend at Church who is a Family Lawyer who is giving me advice.

Have had shared custody since June 2005 so not fair on Nats.

Let battle begin and if anyone has been through this experience before would be happy to hear from you.

Nuff said.