Clearing your mind?

[justsomeguy]

Mate - you used to be a bodybuilder right? Or are you still in the sport?

Just hit the weights hard - get back into your program - basically get something else to focus on.

Apart from the weights - if you don't have any reservations around the subject - there is meditation.

Sometimes (friggin always the way things are at the moment) I pacify myself thinking of the big picture and saying mate just get on with it, life is a bitch anyway, as the cliche goes hope for the best but expect the worst, so if it happens then it's not a large surprise.

Now that below is just my opinion, you have more life experience and I'm 99.9999% sure more intelligence than me, so please take what you wish and ignore the rest.

Why are you stressed? (Not asking you for details just asking you questions to ask yourself) Why exactly?

What has caused that stress?

Is it a factor within your control?

Yes - what is the one thing you can do now physically about it? Do it.

No - ok, what is the one thing you can do now physically to influence whoever is in control. Do it.

If it is about a person, sometimes there isn't much we can do to control others.

If it is about a situation and not something you can avoid is it worth worrying about instead of just saying "F'ck it, what ever happens, happens."

What caused the situation? Does this help create a solution?

No? Go back and see what caused - whatever caused the situation...

Matey, all this may sound like a load of theory... and certain things don't go away.

As you learnt from your time in the gym bud, work hard consistently and you gain growth. Same with life.....

I don't know if you need someway to get to sleep or someway to get rid of what is causing you to lose sleep.

Don't take any pills unless your best mate/partner/mother and doctor think you need to mate.

Chin up soldier.

[ajturbo]

Deep breathe and visualisation of a calm and safe happy place.

Im serious, it works man

this has helped me more times that i like to admit.. even to myself!!!

concentrat on your breathing.... you know the type... both in AND out... feel what each breath does, where it goes... think how it helps you ....

[Lissa]

When I was going through major stressful STUFF i couldnt get my mind to switch off. Tried everything from a hot bath, reading, to talking to people about my problems. The only thing that worked was time, and enjoying the little things in life... still doing what you are passionate about - for me riding (is why I hate that my bike is out of action atm). Spend time doing stuff you enjoy.

Lots of great advice though Col from everyone else.

The worse thing is probably going on the internet all night, I cant go to sleep after being on KB sometimes, so a few minutes reading or watching a little mindless tv before bed might help?

*hugs*

[riffer]

Col - sounds to me like that decision you thought you needed to make is still wanting to be made mate.

Give me a call if you want to chat. You know my number.

Simon

[Curious_AJ]

knock yourself out. works for me...

[ajturbo]

Mate -
Don't take any pills unless your best mate/partner/mother and doctor think you need to mate.

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then tell all ya mates and we'll be around to take some too....

[peasea]

Even though this is a serious thread - I really do hope that you're joking.

I take the piss all the time, ask any copper.
My genuine offerings were in a previous post.

I've been depressed, it's not easy, but a few gags, a few drinks with some mates and some music got me through. Then, when I got back on my feet I repeated the scenario with supercharged gusto! It really does work.

Mates are probably the best thing. Thinking things through and looking at what you have, not what you don't have. I don't have much but it's mine and life is good. A cuppa watching the sun come up (or go down) costs bugger all and works wonders.

Whether it's the day to come or the day done. It's what YOU make it.

[limbimtimwim]

No caffeine past midday (Tough I know).

Try and address the cause of the stress. Avoiding a problem? Don't. Commiting to the process of fixing the problem is scary but the relief makes it worth it.

Like deciding to quit your job, great when you make the decision isn't it? It causes lots of small hassles, but fixes the big one.

I'm happy to make some time to talk to you big guy.

[smoky]

Guilt always keep you a wake at night
When I can’t sleep there’s normally something I need to do get back to having a clean conscious. Put something right with someone, or sort out an unpleasant situation I’m avoiding.

Do you smoke – I’m not talking illicit drugs or anything, but when I use to smoke I found ‘catnip’ from the garden mixed in the tobacco helped with getting to sleep, I think you can make a tea out of it too.

[BarBender]

If its floating around in your head and keeping you awake..then there's too much of it in there in the first place.
Find someone you trust or a pen and paper and 'fess up.
Keep doing it until you go 'soft' and if warranted...the words turn to tears...

Hopefully you'll know what to do after that...

[Swoop]

Good greif. Did any of the posters on page one actually read that this happens at 2-3am? Go for a pushbike ride at that hour?
Perky nipples through the lycra, for sure.

[Toaster]

Good call....employment relations text book is REALLY good for that! I can send it to you Colapop....worked wonders for me.

I thought having coffee with me put you to sleep?

[Toaster]

I'm known round these parts as being pretty flippant and off-hand about most things. A joker if you will. That's great - thanks for the accolade... but in every life a little rain must fall...
I've been stressed (for reasons that I won't go into here) and have had trouble sleeping. I wake up at some ungodly hour (2, 3 in the morning) and can't go back to sleep, or if I do sleep it's just dozing for 20 minutes at a time. I have stuff that seems to go round and round in my head.

My question is this: What do you do to clear your mind? I need to clear my head so I can get some sleep. No, I do not want to take drugs. If I can't clear my mind by myself it's a pointless exercise.

I understand that mate.... big time. I prefer to avoid any kind of drugs (except coffee). Can recommend a few things with a bit more info to work out the 'why' factor. PM if ya like mate.

[Toaster]

When I was going through major stressful STUFF i couldnt get my mind to switch off. Tried everything from a hot bath, reading, to talking to people about my problems. The only thing that worked was time, and enjoying the little things in life... still doing what you are passionate about - for me riding (is why I hate that my bike is out of action atm). Spend time doing stuff you enjoy.

Lots of great advice though Col from everyone else.

The worse thing is probably going on the internet all night, I cant go to sleep after being on KB sometimes, so a few minutes reading or watching a little mindless tv before bed might help?

*hugs*

Very wise comments Mel. One of the worst things anyone can do is wind themselves up with thinking about things like KB arguments, scary movies, or something that stimulates thought too much.

There are a lot of ways to relax and get better sleep, everything from a new pillow or bed to doing good exercise during the day or changing diet.

Sex works really well for some. But some of us just keep going all night like the energizer bunny.... (well I HAD to say it!)

[Big Dave]

Resolve the issue that's stressing you.