Couples separating

**jrandom** · 6th September 2007, 16:36

Originally Posted by MadDuck

Righto! For future reference I will make note to self that the two mean the same in jrandoms book of synonyms.

thesaurus.com agrees with me.

Definition: female prostitute
Synonyms: B-girl, harlot, hooker, hustler, lady of the evening, prostitute, scarlet woman, streetwalker, whore, working girl

**jrandom** · 6th September 2007, 16:38

Originally Posted by Stickchick

Ok not trying to be a party pooper but this guy is wanting advise so maybe we can stick to the subject now?

We are sticking to the subject.

I'm advising him to engage a sex worker for comfort and physical release, and to consider the silver lining inherent in being rid of a dishonest and unloving partner.

Do you consider that bad advice?

**007XX** · 6th September 2007, 16:39

I'm trying to keep it on topic, I swear...

The thing is though...How does he feel about it?

I mean, bugger really what we all think...If he feels like keeping the rings may be able to bring him some sort of closure, or maybe he feels like this could be sorted some other way, then it really is an individual decision, isn't it?

**jrandom** · 6th September 2007, 16:39

Originally Posted by 007XX

I have always been of the mind that no matter how badly someone hurt you, there is always a silver lining.

Hmmm. Perhaps. But then again, there is evil in the world. Sometimes bad people do bad shit.

**Stickchick** · 6th September 2007, 16:41

Originally Posted by jrandom

We are sticking to the subject.

I'm advising him to engage a sex worker for comfort and physical release, and to consider the silver lining inherent in being rid of a dishonest and unloving partner.

Do you consider that bad advice?

Well yes and no I do but then again I'm old and I'm of the opinion why should you pay for sex if you can try and find it for free. Or of course sometimes you are your own best company.

As for consider the silver lining I would have to agree with that part.

**Dilligaf** · 6th September 2007, 16:42

Originally Posted by 007XX

I have always been of the mind that no matter how badly someone hurt you, there is always a silver lining.

People will always hurt you - deliberately or not. Sometimes really badly. You can't control this, you can only control your response to it.

**007XX** · 6th September 2007, 16:44

Originally Posted by jrandom

Hmmm. Perhaps. But then again, there is evil in the world. Sometimes bad people do bad shit.

But to let it taint your whole view on relationship is giving it way too much power...way more than it should.

As stated earlier, I wouldn't keep the rings in her situation. But then again, I would NEVER do such a thing.

And I have been hurt pretty bad in the past (who hasn't), but dpoes it mean I am on the war path against all wrondoers and admonish everyone to live in fear of bad people?

hell no, that would be (to me) a pretty cowardly way to deal with life...sorry if that seems rough, but that's my opinion.

**Winston001** · 6th September 2007, 16:45

I'm really sorry to hear about this Young1, it must be damned tough for you at the moment. Separation is hard at any time but with children involved it is even worse. They can suffer more than the adults so take care of them.

Really the rings are a side issue even though they may seem important at the moment. They are symbols of the marriage and now that it is in trouble, you feel like you want them back.

It is possible your marriage could be repaired but that is for you to work on in the longterm. You both need counselling, touchy feely as it might sound, it really helps.

Women seldom just up and leave men - they tend to think about it for quite a while so that by the time they leave, they really have made up their minds. Even so, the grass isn't always greener and regrets arise later....... We men on the other hand are more prone to sudden dramatic decisions which don't look rational or easily explained.

I wish you the best.

**jrandom** · 6th September 2007, 16:46

Originally Posted by Stickchick

... why should you pay for sex if you can try and find it for free.

Primarily, one pays for it because it's simple, you're guaranteed a high level of care and quality of service, and nobody is labouring under false expectations. Nobody gets hurt. And sometimes one can share a genuinely affectionate connection with a professional.

Then again, you're a girl. The sex industry mostly caters to men, not women. If that wasn't the case, I probably wouldn't be able to get HDTboy to help me with my bike spannering, since he'd be too busy with his other sideline contracts.

**Macktheknife** · 6th September 2007, 16:47

Sorry to hear of your split mate, keep your head up and do everything you can for your kids.
As for the rings, unless they are valuable/desirable as heirlooms, forget about them. You have better things to do with your time and energy than to worry about that kind of thing.
Do not be too quick to judge, nor to forgive, think carefully and give yourself time and space to consider things.
All the best
Mack

**Dilligaf** · 6th September 2007, 16:48

Originally Posted by jrandom

Primarily, one pays for it because it's simple, you're guaranteed a high level of care and quality of service, and nobody is labouring under false expectations. Nobody gets hurt. And sometimes one can share a genuinely affectionate connection with a professional.

You might be wrong on that

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**jrandom** · 6th September 2007, 16:49

Originally Posted by 007XX

But to let it taint your whole view on relationship is giving it way too much power...

Please note that not all women (or men, for that matter) are bitches. Only a small subset of individuals should be burned.

Originally Posted by 007XX

does it mean I am on the war path against all wrondoers and admonish everyone to live in fear of bad people?

Fear would be an entirely irrational response.

I have seen people get hurt due to naïveté. I would admonish cynicism, rather than fear.

As I like to say, there's not enough love in the world. Whatever one can do to fix that, one should.