Couples separating

[young1]

At the end of the day, who cares about 2 stupid rings. Consintrate on yourself to keep your sanity. I've been married twice now and I sure that if I tries giving my present wife my X's rings I still be single! What you feel now will change everyday untill the iner termoil disappears and you start thinking logicaly about seperation agreaments, shared custody etc...Expect shit to get nasty over the comming few months, but look after yourself first ie eat, sleep, work and ride.

Excellent advice, yes from my "hot headedness" when I found out that she had done the dirty, I am now trying to think logically, not working yet but I will get there!

[iwilde]

They say time heals all wounds, bullshit. Only sorting through the emotions and facts and throwing the crap out will the healing start. You owe it to yourself and your kids to remain centered. As you can guess, been their done that!

[Winston001]

Excellent advice, yes from my "hot headedness" when I found out that she had done the dirty, I am now trying to think logically, not working yet but I will get there!

Young1, this sounds all very new and I'm guessing that you are still in a state of shock. You have every right to be. All sorts of thoughts will be racing around in your head and your emotions will swing from extreme sadness to deep anger, sometimes in a matter of minutes.

This is going to take you a few months to come to terms with. Accept that for your own sake. If you feel like shit, thats normal and to be expected. And don't close your mind to the possibility that you and your wife might be able to work things out at some point in the future.

Good on you for thinking logically and that should help, especially in dealing with the children because a lot of emotion in separation gets misdirected onto the kids.

Lean on you friends and family - thats what they are there for. We men aren't too good at that but reach out - people will respond. Just look at the number that have posted support for you here.

[Kittyhawk]

When I broke up with my ex, I didnt give the rings back, I did ask him if he wanted them back but he said no they were a gift and I could do what I wanted with them. (was a commitment ring and a "Im sorry I really farked up" ring)

It comes down to the individual as to weather they are the type of person to throw everything out after a breakup or keep sentimental things like photos, jewellery and other items, then put it away to collect dust. But out of respect they should ask if they could keep them as rings are a special thing.

At the end of the day once a break up has happend all thats really left are memories both good and bad.

[mstriumph]

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Now if anyone knows any nice single woman........

don't do it
take up with the naughty ones first and get give yourself time to get over it before looking the the nice ones ..................

i'm sorta joking, but it DOES take months and months before you can put it behind you and get on with the rest of your life without baggage ............ give yourself time to grieve - and don't be ashamed of grieving - 22 years is a long time, commonsense says you can't put it behind you in five minutes.

whatever happens, goodluck, fella

[mstriumph]

Sorry to hear that. Awful shock.

The above comment kinda indicates she has either acted on a whim and may be back when whatever it is, is out of her system.................

popularist crap to condone her thuswise
- or do you REALLY believe it's ok to 'go along to get along'??

those that stand for nothing will fall for anything?

my 2c only, of course?

[ajturbo]

popularist crap to condone her thuswise
- or do you REALLY believe it's ok to 'go along to get along'??

those that stand for nothing will fall for anything?

my 2c only, of course?

when it happened to me..... that was it!..

no more trust.. = .. no more friend.... how much smipler can you make it?

and she cannot understand that i don't want anything to do with her!...

the rings?? i want NOTHING she had contact with...( but i did take the drier)